I have written and explained on many occasions that we have a different perspective to other people and it is this different perspective which is behind so much of our behaviour. Our narcissism is a self-defence mechanism and has been created in order to protect us. This means we see things differently to you, we respond in an alternative fashion and do what is best for us, which often means it is not the best thing for you.
Many people have significant difficulty in grasping this different perspective. How can someone so intelligent not see what they are doing? Surely the narcissist must know he is telling lies? I cannot believe he does not see that this is destroying al around him. Our victims experience frustration and hurt in trying to get the narcissist to see their points of view, to get the narcissist to understand the impact of what they are doing and waste time, energy and other resources seeking to cause the narcissist to see that which the narcissist cannot see or, where the narcissist is a Greater, may see, but chooses not to understand, again because of the narcissism.
If you had the ability to cause the narcissist to see with total clarity just one thing, what would it be? Would it be that you would want the narcissist to know he or she is lying? Perhaps to be able to see how much he or she is loved? That the narcissist is the one who is at fault, causing mayhem, broken relationships, destroyed friendships and lost jobs? Which would it be from the list – you can only choose one – and as usual please expand on your thoughts and observations in the comments section.
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