Unbelievable (And What To Do About It)
Narcissists have a different world view to you. Failing to understand this results in the behaviour which seems entirely appropriate from our perspective, being confusing, bewildering and utterly unbelievable from your perspective.
This results in the use of flawed logic, bad decisions and continued ensnarement with the narcissist.
To understand how the behaviour is unbelievable and importantly what you can do about it, use the link below.
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Thank you for this post HD. Once again- very well written, direct and info packed. Bonus- I’ve got something to work on (1 through 15) muchas gracias😍 I’m not quite ready for consultation, although most in this community (great group btw) are very complementary of your services) I’m a little gun shy and as you can imagine I have HUGE trust issues – but I’ll be buying another book tonight any suggestions? So far I’ve read no contact and fuel. What should i focus on next Mr. Tudor?
I recommend you read Fury and also Exorcism.
The Narc. put a spell me. There was no other way of explaining it. HE was in a black cult to get others to help him and protect him. The biggest thing now for me is to have a Constant. Which is a person no matter what will tell me the truth and know me and my history and is a good solid foundation of me seeking a clarity in situations where I am not sure. In time of the 3 years of healing, I have found my warrior in me and know it is okay to believe that there is real evil in the world and those are the being you have to fight against. They need to be stopped. They are the bottom feeders of life. Feeding off of peoples low self esteem wounds hardships. They go after the vulnerable or look to see if they can get inside the vulnerable and capture them. Narcissist are bottom feeders, like of the ocean. They do not go after good clean fish, they go after the easy dirty waste of fish…
H.G. I HAVE BEEN FEELING VERY UNHAPPY LATELY. 1# THE KNOWLEDGE ,JUST KNOWING SO MUCH ABOUT MY PARENTS, MY HUSBAND , MY MALE NARCISSIST FRIEND LEARNING WHY ,WHY ,WHY IT’S WONDERFUL TO FINDLY HAVE MY ANSWERS ,BUT I’M ALSO TOTALLY DRAINED #2. I’M IN MISERABLE CHRONIC PAIN ALL THE TIME NEEDING ANOTHER TOTAL HIP REPLACEMENT SOON AND DEALING WITH MY INSANE NARC DAILY. H.G.IF YOU WILL HAVE ME I THINK I WILL BE SPEAKING WITH YOU💃 SINCERELY SHARON PS .CAN I SPEAK WITH YOU SOON??
You may do so, just book a consultation
@sharon
I have spoken with HG several times, there is peace of mind to be found in these sessions if you open to it. Worth every penny.
Glad to hear this @MIchael. After a handful of therapy and life coaching sessions, and feeling as if my experiences were being scrutinized, an open listener is a welcomed concept.
Dear Sharon,
It sounds like you have been dealing with a huge amount of challenges and obstacles. I can only imagine how overwhelming it all feels. Once we start to learn more about narcissism, it burdens our hearts in ways difficult to explain.
The realization that fellow human beings can treat us in such ways becomes mind-boggling. I remember being engulfed with feelings of despair. It’s even more disheartening to accept that a narcissist will likely never change.
But in that knowledge comes the power to heal. And you are there, Sharon… more so than you realize.
Best wishes to you as you obtain more understanding from HG. And I wish you well as you prepare for another surgical procedure. May you soon gain a healthy hip and a healed heart. ❤
It really is unbelievable until you have HG break it down. Without such, it is very difficult to grasp the true nature of the N. Nonetheless, if one continues to view the N through the lens of normality (whatever normal means… ) then one will stunt his or her learning and growth.
I am trying; I really am, but did not know that this would be quite so difficult.
I have known a truth regarding my sister’s true feelings for me, or should I clarify, lack there of, for probably my lifetime. In my 20s, I treated myself like the trash she believed me to be. I felt “less than” even as an innocent child, and will forever be “less than” even as a middle-aged woman living an honest, simple life. In 2014, in an attempt to mediate, yet, another orchestrated “situation”, my husband answered her phone call which I was expected to and “required” to answer. She stated to my husband that “he was new here” (we married in 2010) and that “he had no idea what we (the collective accusatory pronoun; i.e., her family, our siblings, our mother, the world’s population) had to put up with for the past 25 years!” Even after hearing her declaration of disdain for me and the dismissive language she extended towards my husband, my response was to engage an internal dialogue of “why, what did I do wrong?” rather than just accepting what is.
Just wanted to say thank you – reading your accounts really helped.
Thank you HG XX