Poll : Which Super Power Would You Choose?
I’m feeling generous. You may choose one super power and one only. It is exactly as described below, no modifications, no caveats, no conditions other than stated. Which would you choose and why?
Time Travel – you may go back in time and all that has happened is reversed. Your knowledge and memory remains preserved however.
Narc Detector – you immediately know someone is a narcissist as soon as they engage with you, whether in person, by message, by telephone call.
Automatic Enlightenment – you know exactly why the narcissist is doing what he or she is doing or saying
New Victim Awareness – this only works with regard to the narcissist you were ensnared by, but all future victims are immediately made aware of what the narcissist is and they fully understand as soon as the narcissist starts to engage with them
Guilt Free – your empathic trait of guilt is removed. All other empathic traits remain.
Knowledge Spreader – anybody you touch immediately understands about narcissism
Addiction Purge – you are no longer addicted to narcissists
Fuel Valve – you can shut off providing fuel at will
Truth Serum – the narcissist you are ensnared by or were ensnared by can now only speak the truth from the empathic perspective
Total Exposure – everybody within a five mile radius of the narcissist knows what he or she has done. This is a one-off hit activated when you choose.
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time travel was the only one that had nothing to do with narcs so I choose that. I feel I am slowly being cured. I am starting to care less about narcs. I would like super powers to change the world B-)
Wow, what a great poll! So imaginative with plenty of food for thought.
Truth serum was tempting, but I would definitely choose time travel. I’d love to go back in time with the same knowledge and memory I have now.
In some ways, going through the list of super powers, it feels like time travel is the only real “super power”. Without overstating things, the other powers can be gained and/or learned with enough application, research and practice. I already have a fairly accurate “narc detector” built in and I know what to look for. Also, with practice, I can re-learn things I thought I knew and become more enlightened and less guilty. I can research more and more about narcissism and find out the truth about them. With enough knowledge and detachment, I can even see what they are doing and realise in my mind that they are telling me their side of the story in an “empathic” way, but in a way that retains their own perceived superiority. I can see through their defence mechanism to the protected ego underneath.
In a way, I even like having guilt as long as I can cognitively understand it. It makes me know I have a conscience and it’s there to protect me (and others around me) from doing things that are harmful or will lead to destructive outcomes.
The only thing I can’t do is go back in time and re-live my life in a way that would be more beneficial to my own self and how I perceive life and other people.
It feels like life would be very different the second time around if I could do that. So much time, energy and effort was wasted on futile hopes that things would improve and nothing improved until I finally learned the underlying reasons.
I think there’s a lesson in this. Don’t waste your time or your life trying to “fix” these people or hope for improvement. Live the best life you possibly can with the knowledge you have.
After reading my comment again, I can see how self-centred it sounds. It’s all about me, me, me. It sounds very self-directed and dismissive of other people. I can see that aspect about myself and I don’t like it very much. It sounds selfish and arrogant and I don’t feel that I am truly like that.
I think it’s a form of self-protection I have and it stems from being the scapegoat of a narcissistic mother. I’m conscious of it and trying to work on changing it.
After thinking about the super powers in this poll, I thought about enlightening others around me about narcissism. The super powers of new victim awareness, knowledge spreader and total exposure would be great to have and very honourable attempts at helping others. On some occasions, I’ve tried to talk about this subject with others or make a point about someone to try and help the victim. It may plant a seed of knowledge that helps them in future and that’s a good thing. However, it’s not a subject that’s easy or straightforward to talk about in everyday conversation.
It’s a subject that needs to be known about and spreading knowledge is a priority. However, people don’t really fully understand unless they’ve been a victim and have actual experience. It’s a difficult subject to explain to someone who hasn’t had first-hand experience. It’s a super power that each person needs to learn for themselves in some ways.
Blogs like this provide super power knowledge and the commenters here are spreading the super power. That’s why I am extremely grateful to HG and everyone here. I may not say it or convey it very often, but all of you have helped me enormously and I am very grateful to everyone.
You are most welcome.
Dearest WiserNow,
1) You certainly don’t sound self centered or arrogant at all …. . we are “allowed” to “self indulge” without sounding like “me me me” The trouble is we prioritise others before ourselves, we are natural carers…. however, in order to function at our optimum, we need to place ourselves number 1 … we forget to do that
If that means pampering our brain and bodies …. so be it
We deserve it
We are so “nice” ….. we give our “niceness” all away (for free) … usually to the wrong people ….. stuff that, we are “givers”….so we must watch out for the “takers”
We must also practice self love self indulgence self care … top priority
2) I couldn’t agree more about talking to others about narcissism.
Mr Bubbles has witnessed the “weasel” and all his antics and knows first hand the suffering he has caused us …. yet ….Mr Bubbles (he is the thinker, I’m the talker … haha) … believes a portion of what constitutes the weasel’s behaviour is just by “being a man” and thinks some was “normal” …. from his male perspective eg
Generally …..
Men want sex
They will manipulate you to get sex … they’ll say anything, do anything
Men generally have big egos … very prone to bruising, they sulk and self pity
Most men are pathetic when they get sick … man flu all the time, haha
I understand male behaviour, however, .. I sometimes can’t get Mr Bubbles to “fully” comprehend the “insidious brain manipulation” from the weasel and from my mother (the word salad, gas lighting, the looks, their actions and behaviour and what’s “not” said)
Unless you’ve experienced it personally … no one gets it!
Then …. after we are broken by narcs, we lose what’s “real”
It’s hard to distinguish “normal” behaviour from “narc” behaviour … especially if you’ve been around it for a long time …. you begin to question yourself and everyone
My family and close friends definitely know about narcs .. haha
Hugs to you lovely one … self indulge and enjoy it 😘
Luv Bubbles xx
Dear Bubbles,
Thank you for your lovely and understanding comment. Bubbles is such a good name for you because you are effervescent! Your comments are always interesting and a pleasure to read. Thank you!
You’re right, we give away our niceness without a second thought and we lose what’s real. I think I’ve been conditioned by my family to be “nice” no matter what, and then it feels selfish or narcy if I indulge my own thoughts for a while.
Having worked around men for years, I agree with you about the typical “male brain”. They seem to be more naturally “entitled” and narcy than women. After a while, it becomes counter-productive to point this out because it generally makes them dig their heels in even more. If only they knew that an empathic man would get more and better sex! 😉
Thank you once more for your comment and encouragement. I will continue to self-indulge and practice self-love and self-care, and I hope you do too. Hugs to you! xx
Wiser now, I agree with Bubbles. I liked your first comment. It’s ok to think of yourself. If we don’t take care of me me me, we are no good to others.
Thank you Mercy. That’s very kind of you. The whole process of focusing on your own emotional thinking and trying to stop and change ingrained thought patterns is a self-directed and quite a solitary exercise, I find. That’s my experience anyway.
It really helps to communicate my thoughts on this blog because by writing about them, it makes me see different sides to them and keep moving forward. It really helps to hear the experiences of others too. I learn so much from other people here.
It’s true, you have to think of yourself, especially when in the presence of narcissistic people. It’s so important. They will trample over your rights and boundaries as soon as they get the slightest chance. Without self protection and a good healthy definition of your own self, it is very damaging.
Thank you Mercy. That’s very kind and I appreciate your comment.
I agree that you have to look after yourself first if you are really going to make a positive difference to your own life and the lives of others. I still feel guilt when I do this though. Sometimes, I still feel like I “should” be doing certain things I believe other people want me to do or they believe I should do. It sounds weird, but I still find it strange and foreign sometimes when I think that this is “my” life and I’m entitled to think and do whatever makes me happy and fulfilled without the need to put others first.
I am working on it gradually though, and making changes. It helps a lot to know that other people on this blog have had similar experiences.
Maybe it helps lessen any feelings of guilt or whatever for people to think of themselves first by using the example of being on an airplane in distress? That you put on your own oxygen mask before attending to your children and/or others? That is not selfish but practical and potentially lifesaving advice. You are no good to anyone until you have secured yourself. Just a thought.
NarcAngel
It’s a good thought!
Thank you NarcAngel. Yes, you’re right and it’s a good thought. It’s actually very true and a great example of logical thinking. It’s a “win win” for both yourself and other people you’re able to help after you’ve ensured your own safety and well-being.
There’s a lot to be said for an ideal mixture of both narcissitic and empathic traits. Take for example the recent rescue of the Thai soccer team who were trapped in the underwater cave. All of the rescuers were under a lot of pressure to not only rescue the boys safely, but to take care of their own safety in the process. The whole world was watching with baited breath, so I’m sure they needed to be “narcissistic” and logical to some degree to ensure they succeeded in time in a dangerous environment with the resources available. However, they also needed to be empathic to ensure that all who were involved were safe, healthy and psychologically positive. An “ideal” outcome requires the best of both ways of thinking.
Mercy,
Apologies for the two answers to you that are essentially the same. I didn’t see my first answer appear for some time. That made me think I probably didn’t press the send button or something went wrong. So, I then sent another one 🙂
Dearest WiserNow,
Thank you beautiful one for your reply …. you are too kind
Please don’t allow your family to make you feel “guilty” for your thoughts … you are unique … be proud and loud precious
It’s funny … when you start to speak up.. people are surprised, shocked and taken aback… that’s when you begin you’re metamorphosis
Luv yourself my lovely and spread those beautiful wings of yours 🦋
Heartfelt wishes
Luv Bubbles xx
Thank you Bubbles! You’re a gem! Your comment is so positive, kind and life-affirming and I appreciate it very much. It actually made me smile and lifted my spirits all day when I thought back on it, so please know that your words have the power to change someone’s day and beyond! ❤
I’m going to internalise your words as much as possible though and remember them. There’s no way I’m going back. None. Life is already much better and improving each day.
Thank you very much lovely lady and best wishes to you and Mr Bubbles. I hope you have a beautiful day! xx
Dearest WiserNow,
😘
Thank you precious and yes I try to make every day beautiful … life is too short
Hugs my sweet pea 🤗
Luv Bubbles xx
Addiction Purge….hands down. Thought anout Narc Detector, but if I was no longer addicted to them, I wouldn’t need to detect them. Nice poll H.G.
I voted for new victim awareness!
I’d recover knowing he’s going to starve
Time Travel – if I only new…
I forgot to add why…Knowledge Spreader: I might not be able to touch 7.5 billion people in the rest of the lifespan I have but I could think of no better way of spending it…than to try my best. The world would absolutely be changed!!! Who would replace them? Normals more in some places, empaths in others. Al Capone thought he was cleaver and invincible too. Their belief in their invincibility coupled with their grandiose pride, is their blind spot, the root of what makes them feel so powerful will untimely be their undoing.
Knowledge spreader of course! I would love to spare others from going through what I have gone through.
WOW, just when I think I can’t be surprised!!! The answers of this poll truly shocked me, as someone who chose, “knowledge spreader!”
Dear Mr Tudor,
I selected Time Travel ….reverse all the damage yet have the power and knowledge
Ps … your last posting on Facebook was yesterday “The Fear” …. nothing since has come thru
Luv Bubbles xx
That is because no articles have been posted to the blog over the weekend.
Dear Mr Tudor,
Thanks for your reply as to there being no postings over the week end
Wasn’t sure if you had another glitch in the system and was just bringing it to your attention …all good then
Luv Bubbles xx
Thank you for doing so, it is appreciated.
Love this poll!! This ones tricky bc altho i know which one id choose and why, i really believe life is a collection of experiences and each ones valuable and is our very own experience. It forms who we are.
I chose time travel. I wish i could go back and know not necessarily that i was going to meet and become involved with a narcissist but that id have such an addiction and reliance on another person emotionally the way i have. Its not realistic nor healthy. Its not an easy one bc i enjoy my time with him and love and care about him but i also know its hindered other areas of my life. It also scares me bc its been 8 yrs and im afraid of when things could change how ill deal with it. Hes become such a huge part of my life which coincides with the other part of my life with my family. If someone wouldve told me years ago id be involved with another person living two lives id not believe it. I probably wouldve said they were wrong and that i could never do that.
Its scary sharing 8 yrs of your life with someone you have to hide and not knowing how itll turn out and how thatll impact life.
If i could time travel back as hard as it is to say id have to avoid ever meeting him. Im grateful for the good times and also the fact he was the reason i found out about narcissism and that my mother had npd. I no longer dwell on her treatment of myself as personal. Its helped me to find this site and HG’s work. Theres a lot of good thats come from my involvement with my narc but theres been a lot of negatives. Its created more distance in my marriage. Its taken a toll on my sleep patterns. Its encapsulated me in a fake bubble which could pop at any time. Going back i couldve saved myself so much trouble but then i wouldnt of gained the knowledge about my mother being a narcissist and more importantly the knowledge ive gained about myself as a result.
I truely believe everything happens for a reason and that includes our choices.
If i wouldve avoided the narcissist and stayed true to what i know is right i wouldve had to face my maritial problems firsthand but how that wouldve turned out i cant say. I do know its better to do the right thing in life no matter how exciting or easier the other choices may seem.
I do wonder if i could go back without my knowledge of npd if i wouldve found my way here without having ever met the narc.
Chihuhuamum,
I understand all you write here, as you know we are in similar situations. I also learned so much about my family life and my mother through HG. I can see so many other narcs in my life and all the knowledge does really help to take the emotion out of those relationships for me.
I can relate to what you say about fearing the unknown future. I fear both continuing with narc and also sincerely fear what it would be like to never speak to him again – to make that choice, cement my NC and move forward firm in my resolve to stop any hoovers. I truly can’t imagine it, which is why I think I’m probably co-dependent with him.
How is it that we can be married to a non-narc and still have those issues with our affair partner?! It baffles me the differences in timing, needs, etc and how that shapes our lives.
Hi supernove DE…you pose a good question on how we can be with a non narc spouse and still have these issues with the affair partner or rather put up with them?
First off thru my involvement with the narc i have learned so much about myself and certain people around me. He was the catalyst in my research towards his bizarre behaviour which opened up a can of worms. I have come to realise my mother is a covert victim narc, my grandmother was a histrionic narc, my mother in law a dirty angel victim midrange narc and my husband has issues as well altho he is definitely not a narcissist. Hes been made to feel guilty and cater to his mother. Hes a very empathetic person yet at times struggles to show closeness. He puts up walls where intimacy are concerned and i do wonder if hes asexual. I can see thru what ive learned from HG and others that his childhood along with my own being children of narcissists weve not walked away unscathed. For myself i fit the borderline criteria for some traits but not others. It would make sense how i could have bpd based on my upbringing and thats not playing victim its thru what ive read in regards to the personality disorder. Ive been learning about dbt therapy and highly recommend to anyone not just those with bpd.
Getting back to why my partner is a narc while my spouse isnt. I can see how i was attracted to both for different reasons. My narc i was drawn to for all the reasons we learn here. He was/is my void filler. He creates the facade i need that i didnt get in my marriage. Hes the friend ive never had who listens and is reliable. On the flipside he can play mind games and be passive aggressive. Ive had to remove myself from this side of him and in a way compartmentalize it. When he does it i know why hes doing it and ive had to emotionally let go to cope with it. When insecurity rears its ugly head ive had to distract myself and carry on until it goes away. Im living a facade just as much as he creates one.
My hubby i think i was drawn to bc i could manipulate him in some regards. I dont feel proud admitting to this but as i learn more about myself i can see how im like his mother in that respect. When we were in our 20s and met if i felt insecure about something or didnt want him to do or go somewhere id play the silent treatment game or be sad so hed ask whats wrong. Sometimes id break down in tears and become very emotional over it. It was never an act like a narcissist but i can see where it was a form of manipulation. Ive learned its better to talk about how you feel and not control others. Its their decision what they want to do and if i feel insecure i need to learn how to deal with it. I think hubby was drawn to me possibly bc i exhibited similiar traits his mother did.
Were usually drawn to what we know. My narc is a lot like my mother except im able to get his “fake” love which ive never felt ive had from my mother.
Its a lot of deep seated unresolved issues why i am with my hubby and my narc partner. I can see many reasons why and continue to learn about myself in the process.
Chihuahuamum,
I see based on what you say, how your husband and your narc provide something for you, albeit different things. Your husband gives you some control in a relationship, the narc fills the void.
Do you think you really have BPD? I have some traits too, like seeing in black and white (also explained by perfectionism), attempting to avoid abandonment (also explained by codependency), distorted self image (also explained by perfectionism AND codependency), trust issues (also explained by being raised by a narc that you can’t depend on). However, I do not have the typical relationship cycle, impulsive behaviors, self harm, anger, etc.
So many of these traits overlap. In the end, I suppose our “label” isn’t as important as realizing and truly accepting how we negatively impact on our own life. This is a journey over time. I mean, I might think for a second being able to say, “I’m a super empath,” might puff me up and stroke my ego (see how I sound like a narc haha), but it doesn’t matter. I still allow him to gaslight me and be passive aggressive and induce jealousy, and then bask in it when he gives me something good.
I don’t know what I am. I do know I have an addiction to my narc and the feeling he gives me. I do not love him. I don’t even like him as a person. I find him irritating in most ways. He can’t have an intellectual discussion with me without eventually trying to belittle me, because he is not used to talking to someone smart (he avoids this) who has their own opinion on politics, GMOs vs. Organic, the US formal education system…whatever it is that we are talking about. He is so incapable of even FAKING intimacy around sexual acts I feel very sorry for him. But…why can’t I just go NC and stick to it?
On the other hand, I’m starting to think my husband is a super empath. He was scapegoated by his cerebral midrange mother all his life. I think probably he has enough strong narc traits in him that I felt “safe” in the dynamic between us when we met (at age 18). Our relationship was somewhat explosive when we were young, because both of us brought our narc traits to the fore during conflicts…not pretty. We have mellowed and grown together and helped each other become better people and more balanced. We have everything a storybook marriage should have – friendship, laughter, teasing, support, passion (waxes and waned like normal), agreement on financial and parenting matters, our core values are exactly the same. Yet I still get that little surge seeing that narc texted me….
Supernova DE
“In the end, I suppose our “label” isn’t as important as realizing and truly accepting how we negatively impact on our own life.”
That is truly the peccant part! Do we understand ourselves? Not how we are labeled by ourselves or others, not which characteristics of what categories we may have – but do we understand our own selves and our own situation and how we have been sabotaging our own happiness?
Only then can we truly come up with a workable game plan on how to fix our situation and find happiness.
Well said Supernova DE. What I have to say about all of that is “same”. (Except for the BPD bits, but I do struggle with perfectionism which can also be a co-d trait.)
@Supernova DE, Ii response to your later comment to Chihuahuamum: I actually laughed out loud at this:
“He can’t have an intellectual discussion with me without eventually trying to belittle me, because he is not used to talking to someone smart”
My MLV Narc and I were having a conversation about (I shit you not) the creation of everything from a spiritual angle. He started unspooling about “kabalah being the answer to everything, but you have to have the spiritual experience to understand it”. I nearly laughed in his face – not out of disrespect, but because it was suddenly VERY CLEAR to me that he was trying to prove his intellectual superiority over me by turning the discussion to an esoteric tradition that I had not studied and implying that I didn’t have the spiritual chops to grasp such lofty concepts. I actually did advance my opinion that day and he ended up shouting at me and saying that he didn’t even want to talk to me! Because, as he said in a previous conversation, I apparently “trick him with words”. Such unsupported intellectual snobbery is one of the things that sets me off, and if I think it’s worth correcting I will – much to his displeasure. I can’t count the times that I let his delusions pass…. It’s very entertaining if you can set aside your need to understand every bite of word salad!
Kelleygurl116,
Haha! Yea I hear you. Recently my cerebral mid ranger somehow brought up his IQ. I don’t know much about IQ scale (or care about it), so I didn’t make a big fuss, just continued the conversation. Of course, I didn’t think it was NEEDED to make a big fuss because it is quite obvious that both he and I are smart, so obviously our IQ’s would be on the higher side…mistake.
He went on to make a crack about how it is not typically an empathetic trait to be smart…yep…just let that sink in for a second.
It took me a moment, but (thanks to HG), I saw that for the backhanded swipe it was at me.
I can typically let a lot of things go, but I had to correct him on that. It got me a 1) pity play, then 2) cold shoulder, then 3) retraction of offer for a sexual favor. Haha!
Hi supernova DE…ty for your reply it really mirrors my situation!
The traits you described are what i deal with but i also do not have the other bpd traits. Ive never harmed myself or been impulsive yet ive had ocd tendencies as a child. Ive had habits of picking my eyelashes or cuticles i know it sounds crazy but i attribute that to anxiety and instability when i was growing up. I no longer do those things but i did and it does make me wonder if i could be on the bpd spectrum. Ive always had a huge fear of abandonment and been codependant in some form. Ive never been diagnosed but a lot does fit my personality. If i am on the bpd spectrum id say im very mild. Youre right tho labels dont matter its understanding behaviours and working on them. The same goes for the term super empath..theres nothing super about going back into a narcissistic cycle. I feel a true super empath is a healed empath that no longer engages with narcissists. Thats true strength!
Chihuahuamum,
The condition you describe with eyelashes and cuticles is called Trichotillomania and is a form of OCD. This has nothing to do with BPD, and is not a form of “self-harm.” Please trust that I know what I am talking about there, it is my line of work.
I struggle myself with whether I am co-dependent or just so perfectionistic that the traits bleed into one another. I will be consulting HG a few times, as I need to know his opinion on that, and I also had a terrifying conversation with my narc over the weekend where he told me he is a narcissist, that he knows he triggers me because of my upbringing, and went on to tell me that he is not like her because he doesn’t “use it against me like a weapon.” It went on and on….I’ve no idea what to think. Except he is just manipulating the best way he sees fit.
Time travel
Ooooh, Automatic Enlightenment. Yes pls, thank ye sir. That’s basically like having a mini angel in your noggin whose perfectly attuned to a specific manner of interpersonal interaction without the innate (and often obnoxious) moral superiority binding you to any course of action.
Knowledge is power and power corrupts, so study up (or don’t because superpowers, duh) and try extra super duper hard not to strangle an obvious liar when given the opportunity.
Knowledge Spreader.
I would not undo what has been done, so I would not time travel.
The journey has changed everything, but I know I was meant to know him.
My guilt guides me back to my truth.
I view super powers as a gift to benefit the many.
As long as I do not get arrested for touching every random person I pass on the daily – everyone is a winner !
I’ll put up with any narcissist if time travel will give me my perky tits and firm ass back. Failing that I choose knowledge spreader. I guess because then I would feel that I had fulfilled my responsibility in trying to protect others by making them aware. What they do after that would be on them.
NA
My stomach hurts from laughing at “I’ll put up with any narcissist if time travel will give me my perky tits and firm ass back.”
It’s all your fault!
I USUALLY have the Narc Detector except this last time….so I would wish for 2 1 Addiction purge and 2 Total enlightenment. It’s really uncanny how much you understand the desires of empaths HG. And how you are actually moderating a support forum for victims…!!!! Ironic
Time travel!!!
I would have such fun. I would play them and then ditch them, call them out, smear them, denigrate them. I would have so much fun with this one.
I would love to return to The Golden Period and yawn at their overtures. I would love to triangulate.
This ability would stop me from ignoring my gut instinct of, ‘Oh well maybe he is just lonely…I don’t want to hurt his feelings…’
Bahahahaha!
Truth Serum … Wanted Time Travel and Addiction Purge also… x x
This is a fun one .Time travel definitely! We’d have a 1 night fling then I’d ghost him.
What a fun poll HG! I had to choose the addiction purge serum. I’ve been waiting for you to perfect this potion. The guilt free was awfully tempting, but I think my guilt keeps me in line to an extent ha ha. We don’t need a guilt free MB running around!
Addiction purge!!!! Says the Codepebdent sp
I picked empathic truth, which I think is the thing I crave the most in life. I don’t mean agreement, I mean some caring truth.
I also would add to it…
“The N’s can now see, value, appreciate your unique gifts, contributions, vulnerabilities, intelligence, perspectives as much as you do theirs.”
All I ever wished for, from the first,”HUH?” but I thought you said…..confusion was to inject some truth serum when he wasn’t looking.
If I could only go back for one hour, just one, I would love to clear up all the confusing mess I heard for 9 months.
Those are the untruths that have kept me awake for 2 years hence.
Knowledge Spreader without question. Addiction Purge would be redundant, I’ve figured out how to manage guilt most of the time, and if I changed anything I had the power to change, I might not be where I am today. Making people know about my individual narcs is nowhere near as valuable as teaching people about what narcissism is.
To drastically reduce the power of narcissists worldwide — how wonderful that would be! Cults would collapse, governments would re-organize themselves, the justice system would change, the arts would open up… there is nothing that would not be impacted positively if everyone understood narcissism.
Oh yes, Christine, I guess you are right, the change would be seen, heard, felt everywhere. The collapse of capitalism, of our (whose precisely?) world order as we know it…
What a funny poll HG, I chose “Truth Serum”.
That was a rather selfish choice, merely for my private amusement. It would be interesting for me to observe whether the narcissist would undergo a substantial change.
As a responsible person I feel I should have ticked “Knowledge Spreader”, to effect the meltdown of Western Corporate Culture.
Truth serum. The narcissist’s most overused tool is communication. Why not disable it?
Guilt is a complex emotion because, like all emotions, how we interpret it and the effects it has on us, depends on our internalised value systems.
Narc parents instill a deep sense of guilt for existing – in their children. This later develops into an addiction, because most addiction stems from subconscious, repressed / unmet psychological needs.
So I choose addiction purge + the guilt one, because addiction is the symptom and guilt is the cause, so they’re really one and the same. I don’t consciously feel guilty, I subconsciously *am* guilty. This is woven in with survivor’s guilt, I was the only survivor.
That’s not all I am though, and I already have the powerz of truth and exposure. I can get over addictions, the process is always transformative, but it takes too damn long and life is short.
/iroll,
Haven’t seen a post of yours in a while…just wondering how you are doing?
Time Travel was very tempting! I’d love to start my whole life over with the knowledge and experience already built in, but………….
I choose Guilt Free! I cannot stress how often (not just by my dead N, but so many others in my life), that my sense of guilt/responsibility was used to manipulate me!
HG,
if you ever discover how to remove just the trait of guilt from me, I’d pay you everything I own. Admittedly, at the moment, it ain’t much, but if I were a millionaire, I’d pay everything I own!
It’d be easy at that point to rebuild, without somebody pointing out “how unfair!”……………. not my problem anymore!!!
Some of these other “powers” you offer, well, you’ve already given us the education for “enlightenment” “truth serum” “fuel valve”, “addiction purge” and “exposure” should we REALLY wish to go that far. And “Narc Detector” is also one of these powers we can learn, and we can hire you for back up if we are unsure.
Really, what has the percentage been that they were really narcs when you were consulted? 99 %? I think those consulting you had a good idea already they were dealing with Ns.
But thank you very much for the fun poll!
Ok now that we all have our super power, I have a question. Does any of this sound at all familiar? I mean we sit around a box (phone, computer) and listen to a voice, who’s face we’ve never seen, receiving instructions… ” Hello Empaths.” “Hello Charlie, uh um HG!” The only other question…. where’s Bosley? 😉
I read many blogs. This one is interesting even though there’s not much new for me to learn when it comes to narcissists. Being a student of psychology and having a highly malignant narcissist for a father, I’m well versed. I choose not to interact with them in my life unless it’s unavoidable, as it has been with my husband’s ex affair partner. She intruded so egregiously into my life that she needs to be continually reminded that she’s never going to win any battle with me.
So it’s just a blog. If I indulge HG by taking a poll it means nothing except that the topic interests me and I have a perspective to offer.
I’m gonna be selfish and go with ‘ guilt free ‘.
‘ Not giving a f*ck ‘ superpower would be great too.
Since I already have the Narc Detector superpower, I may be cheating by HG’s rules.
I chose exposure. How delicious it would be for her real character to be exposed. I could have (and still could if I choose to) exposed her a long time ago, and in numerous ways. I have ALL of the evidence to do so.
I’m just not a vengeful narcissist and so I am content in knowing that every time she sees me, with or without my husband, it’s a vivid reminder that all of her attempts to destroy me failed. All of her overt and covert scheming did nothing but bring her scorn and this constant reminder (since she chooses to keep frequenting places she knows we’ll be) that I won. I’m good with that. I actually pity her sometimes because I would never invest emotional energy in someone who clearly doesn’t want me, but I think she can’t help herself. She suffered a huge loss and she’ll never let it go. That’s a miserable way to live.
I can’t pick one lol.
I vote for:
Total Exposure
Addiction Purge
Me too!! And then ALL of the others…
Time Travel.
Time is the most valuable thing of all and you can do anything with the extra time.
Lots of the other things can be gained anyway with the application of self.
For example knowledge spreader these are the things that we can do by ourselves.. you can’t do anything when you run out of time.
Definitely time travel and keeping the knowledge to use as seen fit going forward.
I really like these kinds of questions to ponder over.
🐾
Also with time travel you can jump even further ahead gain even more knowledge and experience and then go all the way back with even more.
With time travel you can acquire all the other things and do them whenever.
With time travel you can go faster or slower so you can leave helpful notes in all the right places for just the right people…. plus a few helpful booby traps at public functions to show up the worst of them… then travel back in good time for dinner and a movie….
annnnnd azzzz many times as ya like!!
That really is a superpower.
I should know, I told you all this tomorrow.
Bye for now… I’ll see y’all yesterday again. 😜
DebbieWolf, you make me want to change my answer!
DebbieWolf
Now THAT was funny. Like a little present.
DebbieWolf, best!!! 😂
Mercy🌹
Haha 👍😇
LOL, DebbieWolf. You nailed it. ‘I told you all this tomorrow.’
SMH
😂 haha..
DW, As good as the, ‘no, I’m afraid narc is dead’ in response to a hoover one. Can’t remember who came up with that (MB?) but I am keeping a list just in case.
I totally agree DebbieWolf. You can learn about it all and gradually you will gain the powers. The only thing you can’t have back again is the time that was wasted on lies.
MB, NarcAngel, WiserNow..
Yes…time. but always remember that no time is wasted as long as you learn and then apply it from now on.
I also share my initials here with a very famous Time Lord.
Dr Who…haha. a bit of trivia.
I am replying here to all of you even though I am subscribed to the thread…all three of your particular replies it said on the comment alerts that they had been deleted.
I have everybody else so far on the thread except yours..
A curious WordPress anomaly.
…still I managed to find them with my sonic screwdriver..
Hence I was able to avoid dealing with the space time Continuum today.
Lol. 👍
DW
NarcAngel
Haha
Re: like a little ‘present’.
aka The Superpower of ‘now’.
👍
Truth serum is my choice. The narc is forced to expose his own secrets and lies.
I feel like I spend my life constantly analyzing every person, and everything they say and do, trying to compare them to HG’s teachings. I end up confused most of the time because I see the narcissistic traits and almost everyone but to what degree??? I am not sure. I also see a lot of it in myself and I don’t know where to draw the line. In our town, it seems there are more of these flawed personalities than other places.
I feel I am almost to the point of obsession with reading and understanding & its starting to consume me , it is all I talk about whether the person is a friend of the narcissist or not it doesn’t matter to me for the most part. I am trying just to maintain my regimen of no contact and I understand now that talking about him is not a good thing but it is all I think about it every single day. I am consumed by it. I want nothing more than to save everyone from going through what I went through because I wouldn’t have made it, I wouldn’t be alive today if it weren’t for HG. From the bottom of my heart my soul and everything that I am and ever wanted to be, I want to thank him today.! MY WORDS ARE NOT ENOUGH I WISH THIS MAN WOULD WIN A NOBEL PRIZE I ONLY CAN IMAGINE HOW MANY SUICIDES COULD BE AVOIDED IF PEOPLE KNEW ABOUT THESE ABUSERS!!!
* Thank u 4 saving my life HG*
I chose the narc detector on the poll selfishly because I have been so obsessed with saving others that at this point I just want still to save myself ! I wouldn’t have to be consumed by wondering if I’m right or wrong and the turmoil that goes with being right and not being able to make someone instantly understand is difficult too. I wish everyone the best,, life does get better after abuse! With HG, you can find hope. It is slow a recovery, you will always think about the narcissist & wonder about others but as long as you keep reading and keep finding that hope , things do get better!
~I LOVE U HG!!!!!~
I feel the same, MyMichelle.
Very powerful words.
I was suicidal after I ended the relationship with the N. I don’t even remember how I found HG’s blog, but when I did, I was like “OMG, this is it… this is me, this is him…” For a month, I was in an almost catatonic state, couldn’t eat, couldn’t speak, couldn’t work…My therapist made me sign something like a “contract” that I will not commit suicide, and if I had such thoughts, I would contact her immediately. Therapy helped for sure, but I think HG’s writings made the HUGE difference.
Now, 3 months later, I still have my bad moments, but I feel stronger. Actually I’ve never felt that strong in my life.
I faced my worst fears, I went literally through HELL, I was sure I’m not going to make it, but I did.
The N didn’t break me and I feel much better without him. No more anxiety, no more panic, no more pain, lies, mind games, sulking, silent treatments.
I realized I haven’t really laughed since I met him. Now I do, sincerely.
Now I can enjoy all the things I love, which I couldn’t, because they were “shitty” , “silly” for him and my attention had to be on him 24/7. I was a doormat, an idiot, an addict.
I can breathe finally.
So… one more THANK YOU HG, for saving my life, too!!!
Thank you for helping me with even two sentences when I almost gave up to the hoovers.
Thank you for being the light at the end of the tunnel.
I pick “Addiction purge”.
I don’t really care about his truths anymore, I don’t want to go to back the past, I don’t even care if everyone knows what he is.
The hardest part is to get rid of the addiction.
All narcissistic traits are not “flaws.” Taking pride in yourself, for instance. Knowing to protect yourself and not spend every drop of energy on others. Not wasting time loving those who are incapable of love themselves. The question is, what empathic traits do they also show?
Not trying to downplay the trauma you’ve endured. You’ve heard that “time heals all wounds”. And “this too shall pass”. These sayings have endured because they are true. Hopefully one day you will realize you went all day without thinking constantly about him, NPD, and your painful experience. Not yet, not today, but one day.
100% no doubt I would choose addiction purge.
Six days back NC and I note today narc has unblocked me via one social media outlet. I hadn’t been checking but he made it obvious by commenting on multiple mutual friends posts that he typically wouldn’t give a shit about. Just so I would see his name when scrolling.
I guess he realized I was gone…
I know I should take this opportunity to block HIM and take control and further cement the NC…but I can’t seem to push the button. Grrr I hate myself for letting this fester inside me. Hence wanting the purge
Supernova, don’t hate yourself. I’m guilty of the same thing. This time I left nothing open though. I feel good. I had a stress free day at work and didn’t feel the need to look at my phone because I know he can’t contact me. Half of the battle inside of us is waiting for them to reach out. Remove the possibility and you’ve won the battle. I know I have a long road ahead of me but today is a good day .
Mercy,
Thank you and I feel like we should have a “newly NC” support group here. I have read some of your other posts and admire you for what you are doing.
Of course, my delay in finding my backbone resulted in him messaging me. He sited something like “I’m concerned that whether I speak to you or not has an affect on you and your life. I hope you can work on that moving forward.”….. ugh yea. Scratching my head as to why someone that you care about stonewalling you WOULDNT affect you.
Honestly I feel this time like he just broke it. Nothing said affected me. At all.
The last time I tried to fake it, like be a “good girl” and not rock his boat since I know he’s a narc now. But fuck it. It’s too hard, it’s not me. I can’t even pretend to be compliant and acquiesce without getting pissed in about two seconds.
The addiction wanted me to do it. To try and make it work, numb it out so I don’t have to cut it off. But it’s false.
For me it has taken multiple rounds of breaching NC to get here. It might not be the very end, but it definitely feels a ton less emotional than all the other times, which is progress.
Supernova, ohh he’s playing “Mr concerned for your recovery” huh? But notice what he’s really saying is “I know you can’t get over me”
I know what you mean by faking it. I thought with the knowledge I have I could play nice, not react and keep peace but they are not satisfied with that. They pick up on your submission and have to poke poke poke until they get a reaction. Its very ironic that they have no feeling yet they have the power to detect how we feel in order to manipulate our emotions. They can detect emotion but can’t feel them.
Can I ask how long you’ve been involved with him and also what keeps you from the block? In my case I tricked myself into thinking that I wouldn’t block because I didn’t want to stoop to his level but now I know it was a comfort to know I had a way back in if I wanted it.
Mercy,
Three and a half years online long distance affair (we are both married). As to why I can’t cut it off like I should….so many reasons.
1. Feeling like a failure that I can’t reverse the intimacy and be “friends” – this is exacerbated because I grew up in the same town as him and have known him since I was in junior high school.
2. Wanting to heal him (pretty sure I’m a saviour empath), I can’t seem to stop myself from thinking that because I know how his brain works now, I can make it different
3. Probably I’m co-dependent with him. I get a strange sense of comfort knowing he is there in the background. Even if we haven’t talked for a long time.
4. Not wanting to give up the excitement from the good times with him
It’s just exactly all the reasons HG states in the logic vs. ET battle.
In the past weeks when we are in contact I struggle. I find myself wishing I could get back to NC, like I want him to yell at me and tell me I’m a horrible person and block me (so I can feel anger instead of sadness I suppose)…then when I am NC I want to text him. I’m a mess.
He seems to be acting like a pinball machine lately. I realize I am not reacting like I typically do to his shenanigans thanks to Tudor U. He goes from friendly to concerned to angry to cold to sexual and back to his “droid” self (what I call it when he is acting totally from the façade, like so respectful and polite it makes you want to puke).
He is obsessed with convincing me/telling me that he does NOT engage in online dealings with other women…yea sorry dude I’m never going to believe that. Maybe he’s worried I’ll out him. Who knows.
I’m sure I’m not the first to feel like this, but its pretty rough at times.
Supernova DE
I had to comment when I read your post. I also did not want to give up the excitement. Honestly even when things were bad they were still very exciting. I miss that in my life but I have started to gain peace where there was chaos. I am newer to the blog and I am unsure whether I am Codependent or a Super Empath. With my ex I felt very codependent but not with other relationships.
Push and Pull. Logic vs Emotional thinking. It is so much fun!
“In the past weeks when we are in contact I struggle. I find myself wishing I could get back to NC, like I want him to yell at me and tell me I’m a horrible person and block me (so I can feel anger instead of sadness I suppose)…then when I am NC I want to text him. I’m a mess.”
Oh yes, I understand this. I would obviously struggle with him but when I tried to do NC, I felt like I was dying. I was a mess and I was filled with deep longing for him. He was my best friend (or so I thought) and I missed the friendship as much as I missed my lover. I have found a silver lining though. With time and NC (which also means no checking on his/her social media) I am slowly finding myself again. The addiction is HELL to recover from but it is slowly fading each day. When I first implemented NC my days were filled with my sobbing tears. I now have moments where I cry but even my crying is different. You WILL get through this BUT it does take time.
Brokenrainbow,
Thank you for replying to me.
Oh yes, even the drama they produce is a form of excitement. I don’t miss that though. I hated it.
I’ve been trying to boil my thoughts down…what do I miss? I miss the camaraderie, the friendship, the interesting conversations, the appreciation of my intellect and opinions. If I am honest, I miss the sexual aspects also, but this has been deflated with time and seeing him for what he really is.
The addiction is total hell, I agree with you.
But now I laugh when I see he is trying to manipulate me or triangulate me…..because I see through it. I used to laugh because I thought he was funny and ironic and witty and a wordsmith.
Now I am aroused because I am conditioned to feel that way when he says certain things….when I used to be aroused just conjuring his image in my mind or having him waft across my thoughts.
Now I am upset because I am addicted and can’t seem to let go….when I used to be upset that he didn’t want something more “real” with me and that he wouldn’t show me his real self (I knew that and sensed that from the beginning).
Time + HG + knowledge = Progress. My journey is different than others here, it’s more gradual and slow I think. But my thoughts and opinions are shifting, I feel it.
I am slowly shifting as well. I had a few days of emotional thinking which resulted in many tears and too much chocolate. I awoke this morning with my step a tad lighter. I also miss the camaraderie and the friendship as well as the sex. I became aware in the summer the cost became too high for me. I agree with Time + HG + Knowledge = Progress. It does not matter if I am progressing slowly as I am still progressing. The addiction for me is slowly fading and I am truly grateful.
brokenrainbow
It happens gradually so keep up the good work. It took me a year to get better. Slow but steady wins the race.
You are right. It does happen gradually and it takes you by surprise. It has only been since summer. With the exception of periods of emotional thinking, I am proceeding mindfully.
Brokenrainbow,
You are entirely correct progress is progress despite the rate. I know, for me, reading here in the beginning made me feel like I wasn’t getting somewhere fast enough, and I’ve had to re-adjust my expectations.
My situation is also different because I am just IPSS, long distance online only, so most of my life has absolutely nothing to do with him. Holding onto him emotionally does affect me, but not as much as if I had been married to him for years etc.
I don’t know what your situation is, were you IPPS? For how long? To what kind of narc?
Supernova DE
Sorry about the late reply. I never saw your comment and I did not get a notification. Yes I was IPPS and a damn good one. We were together less than three years. He was the love of my life. As for the type of narc I have suspicions of what he is but my education has only just begun. I have not shared much about my situation as I would like to consult with HG before I share a lot. I am also wary about my ex finding me on here and realize who I am when certain details are shared. How was your emotional thinking been? I sometimes feel I am on a roller coaster but it is getting easier with time.
I understand where you’re coming from. I think most of us deal with these same feelings. Im maybe a half step ahead of you because I feel like you just described my turmoil a day/week/month ago, and who knows maybe tomorrow or next week. I can tell you what I learned in that half step.
When I strip away all his lies, future faking and manipulation I don’t really like the person he is. He’d never fit in the category of friend or boyfriend. If I see what’s actually in front of me (without the facade)I would think he’s a arrogant pos and I wouldn’t give him the time of day.
We can’t fix them. I don’t know when I started hating my narc. It’s been a long time but like you, the comfort of them in the background keeps that emotional thinking alive. Right now I don’t care what he’s doing , who he’s with or what lies he’s telling people about me. I just want to be normal. I want him gone and I’m putting my energy into fixing me.
I know you’ll get there. Like I said, I felt the same way you do now. Soon you’ll stop crying about the loss of the relationship and start crying about the loss of the time you’ve put into an illusion. Then you’ll know that you need to fix you and let him worry about himself… because he will anyway with or without you.
Mercy,
I’m sorry I’m just seeing your reply to me now.
I get what you are saying about not liking your narc as a person. I just wrote about that on this thread somewhere as well. As one would expect, I don’t like the façade, and I don’t like the real him (or the “realest” when he is being a manipulator). I like the mirrored version of myself. I am seeing with time now, as I interact with him on a more real level (I am changed, not him of course), that it is fading. I can admit I still want his attention, but at the same time, I have no interest in what he is actually saying, thinking, doing, etc. He is boring and tedious to me. You can’t say ANYTHING without offending him, it’s just so ridiculous. I can tell better when he is lying. I can tell when he is starting to manipulate. I don’t care about the triangulations and not reading my messages, etc. Those are the things that drove me bonkers before and gave him fuel and got me gaslighted.
The less urge I have to reply and interact, the better. I think for me, this might be the best way. A gradual fade until he reaches a nadir of fuel and just stops.
Brokenrainbow,
I understand and sorry if I was prying. My ET has been OK. I know what you mean about the roller coaster. Some days I could care less, other days its a fight not to text him. I am doing better in resisting though.
I’m trying to prepare myself to go full NC. I’ve been making some lists of projects I want to do to keep myself busy. Getting new audio books and podcasts ready as a distraction for when I’m doing mindless tasks. I started a playlist of music that makes me feel strong (rather than sentimental). Etc. Etc.
I have a good opportunity later this month due to family circumstances that I think I will take. I’ll be better able to deal with any physical withdrawals during that time…I should take it and do it then. I am hoping that going NC on my terms rather than his will feel different and better. Every other time it’s been on his terms cutting me off.
Supernova DE, I just had to giggle – I am proud of you for planning it out but I also have to tell you that each time I went NC it was my decision and on my terms. Mine never cut me off. Each time, it failed. I think the opposite to you – that it is easier for the other person to do it. If you do it, it’s too simple to second guess your own decision. But as I said, I am proud you are working on it and I wish you the best of luck. My MRN has been entering my thoughts today for a couple of reasons, one because of a post I wrote last night here. I should stay off this site if I don’t want to break NC!
SMH,
We all have our own issues and triggers.
My failures are not your successes.
Thanks for the encouragement….extreme sarcasm implied. 👍🏻
I would go back in time and destroy them all without mercy.
K
Ha ha you going to tempt the Fates.
Twilight
Ha ha ha…I am not afraid of the Fates! I will give them a run for their money.
https://youtu.be/F8jxqyyWWw0
Background music
Today an SAC (student assist. counselor) went to my daughter’s 3rd grade class and said: We are going to talk about a 5th grade word: Empathy. Has anyone in the classroom heard of the word empathy?
Only one student raised her hand, my eight-year-old daughter.
The SAC asked my daughter what empathy meant and my daughter said: When you have feelings for somebody, like when a relative dies and they feel sad about it. The SAC said: Good Job! How did you know?
My daughter said: My mom taught me.
Fucking A I did!
You’re a good mommy K!
K
High five sister! You did that shit right!!!!
Good mom you are, K!
Truly awesome.
This made me smile, K.
You rock.
As an archivist…and a mom.
Dear K,
Brilliant …. absolutely brilliant … congratulations K
🏆🏆🥇🥇🏆🏆🥇🥇🏆🏆
Luv Bubbles xx
Awwww… thank you nunya biz, Bibi, MB, WhoCares, Bubbles, and NarcAngel. I felt all warm and fuzzy after reading all those awesome comments. High five back NA! When I do shit, I do it right, damn it!
Awesome, K!
Thank you SMH! I was so happy for her and she got a scratch-n-sniff sticker from the teacher.
Sweet, K! I guess kids these days are too sophisticated for gold stars but you have a gold star kid there anyway. She sounds very mature for her age.
Thank you SMH
I am very lucky; she is very smart and she was quite happy with her sticker.
Savage K!
MB
Grrrrr….
K
I call shotgun.
NarcAngel
Excellent! It is always important to have backup in case things get messy.
Ooohh K & NAngel,
I’d gladly take the backseat on that hellraisers’ roadtrip! I bring excellent roadtrip food.
Lol K! 😂 Please don’t beat around the bush…. tell us how you really feel 😉
WiserNow
I replied to your comment and it ended up on newer comments.
Thanks K, I found it and replied.
Narc Detector for sure. Although if you read enough of HG’s material, you learn that anyway. So I choose flight 😁😁
Wow. I thought i was thinking i would have to fly or be invisible… ..this Is a tough choice. The last 5 are good. But i will have to choose truth serum.
That one affects him. It will be a 1st for him to tell the truth. I want to see what this looks like. How it transpires. It was close between that and not being attracted to narcissists. Bc i honestly don’t like them. But as HG said to me in an initial email a couple years ago. …..there is a symbiotic dynamic at play between the empath and the narcicisst. Magnetic attraction. Ugh. Even as i desperately am running the other way.. they are there. I dont like them and im not looking for them. Heres the thing…
I don’t think they are narcissists when i 1st meet them. Bc u know they blend in and are good at their craft..and i am diligently filtering…..but inevitably in the 3 years after my divorce from the master narcissist in my life.. i still find myself after a short invested interest in someone.. come to the sad realization that crap… hes a narcicisst too. Ive been wasting time like that for 3 years. ….im specifically looking to dodge every kind of narcicisst…. unbeknownst to me in the beginning.. that’s all im finding.. .and then dropping em like a hot potato. But i still am gonna go with truth serum. That would just be fun to see.
Findinglife11,
‘But i still am gonna go with truth serum. That would just be fun to see.’
I like to image it would be like watching the movie “Liar,Liar” only the star is the Narc You Know.
Customize accordingly…………….LOL
I am having the same issue. I am not looking for a relationship right now. But 4 guys approached me. They were obvious narcissists. The last one took a bit of time to show his true colors but as soon as I ignored one of his messages, he went cold on me. I texted him, just to test the waters about my perception and he didn’t answer. Sulking. When he did was like blaming me. WTF?
Blocked, gone.
I don’t know if I am turning people into narcissists or what, but I attract them like CRAZY.
Creative & lovely!
Most of the choices are interesting. I chose, New Victim Awareness.
Because I wished if someone has given me even a hint about the narcissist that I was dealing with. And because I wished that someone warned me, I tried to warn the new victim anonymously, but unfortunately, it doesn’t work. If someone warned me, I would have used my head to analyze the situation before the big bang occurred.
I would add new choice, but it can be real not a super power. Putting the narcissist in chains and treating him like a trash. So satisfying.
No kidding. I fantasize about that 24/7 😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈 oh boy. My mouth waters at the thought.
Guilt? Hell NO.
Okay, so I was back sooner then I thought…
Time travel? Hmmm….there are residual benefits that I was fortunate enough to find as a result
Narc Detector – possibly…
Automatic Enlightenment – ah, no. Wasted wish. Answer: fuel.
Guilt free – I don’t know…guilt holds me accountable…maybe guilt that should never have been mine to bear…
Knowledge Spreader? Well, that one *would* be fun…
Addiction purge – that one’s tempting.
Fuel Valve – already pretty good at that…
Truth Serum? Nope. I don’t care to hear him speak. Ever again.
Total Exposure – enough of them know enough about him already.
So…if I had to select *only* one, I would choose Time Travel – but truly to go back and fix things so that *others* had not also been hurt as a result of my entanglement. Sadly, some things are so unfixable…
Hmmm…why was truth serum such an easy choice? Lol
Knowledge Spreader. Anybody I touch understands and will not believe the narcissist’s lies.
I voted Automatic Enlightenment. I want to know if the threats are real or not.
Knowledge spreader.
Why?
Because beyond myself and my nex there are many who have no idea what has happened to them and who has been ensnared by a narc.
Touch just one person, enlighten them, they will understand and pass the touch on. Eat. Sleep. Repeat.
Hey! Isn’t that your superpower? 💪💡😆👌
Oooh, HG! This is a hard one. That Automatic Enlightenment sounds great. I’d really like that one and to be able to understand exactly what they were trying to accomplish. But then having everyone I touch understand narcissism would be a great thing for everyone.
I think I’d have to go with Knowledge Spreader. It has the potential to help so many and with study and application, I should keep getting better and better at figuring out what the narcs are trying to accomplish anyway.
Marc Detector all day long. I’m not responsible for anyone else, and the rest I have/am/can/will work on myself. When does my superpower arrive?
Oooh, this is a fun one…food for thought…I’ll be back…
Time Travel as long as I still know what I know as if it had happened but it hadn’t , which i think is what that one means
I’m definitely time travel. With what I know now, I can fix the rest of it.
Man it was sooooo hard to choose between automatic enlightenment and addiction purge.