The Narc Days of Christmas – No. 5

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82 thoughts on “The Narc Days of Christmas – No. 5

  1. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

    Dearest K, MB and Windstorm,
    Thank you kind lovely ladies for your responses
    “Inhale” … haha …very good

    All I know is ….I luv y’all no matter what …Yankees n Confederates
    I’m surprised “Yankee” is considered an insult
    I was brought up with abbreviations for all different nationalities and we always refer to all Americans as “Yanks” ….. and we still refer to the English as Poms (Prisoners of Mother England) … better hush my mouth now ya hear ๐Ÿคฃ
    We live in a very sensitive “cotton ball” age now … bugga …am I allowed to say ….cotton ball ๐Ÿ˜‚
    Our adult kids keep saying to us … “mum n dad, you’re not allowed to say that anymore”

    Mr Tudor has an “interesting accent” … wouldn’t you say ladies
    Hugs to all
    Luv Bubbles xx ๐Ÿ˜˜

    1. K says:

      Dear Bubbles
      Gasp! POMS. Better be careful or you might be slapped with a hate crime! Ha ha ha…I don’t mind Yanks at all and Confederate is better than Red Neck/Cou Rouge.

      Cotton ball, teacup generation, butt hurt…maybe we should have a safe space on narcsite JK!!!

      His Royal Tudeness has a very lovely accent.

      Luv K xoxo

  2. kel says:

    HG, you turned my life around this year! Thank you for educating me and for teaching me to use logic thinking, not emotional. Hoping we have all been something good for you too. Merriest Christmas Wishes! โค๏ธ

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

      1. kel says:

        P.S. โค๏ธ- (or whatever floats your boat), and as my narc boss always says to me, โ€œStay out of trouble!โ€ – hoping we have rubbed something empathetic onto you and yours this Christmas!

  3. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

    Dearest NarcAngel,
    From me to you … “have yourself a merry little Christmas” ..
    Luv you beautiful lady …. for being you …. heartfelt thanks
    ๐Ÿ’–
    Luv Bubbles xx ๐ŸŽ„๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ˜˜

  4. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

    Dearest “bevy of beauties”,
    You all know who you are
    A very merry merry Christmas precious ones..silent and present ones
    Luv to you all
    We are family and I wish to say …. I hope we are in a better place than before
    Stay safe and narc educated
    I wish you all a stronger, more empowered and a safer female journey (not forgetting the lovely males here)
    Christmas hugs and wishes to you all
    Mr Tudor… thank you for your blog and all your teachings ..if it weren’t for you …we wouldn’t have met
    Seasonings happenings … I hope they are all good
    Luv Bubbles xx ๐ŸŽ„๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ˜˜

    1. K says:

      You are welcome Beautiful Bubbles,
      That article is very helpful and amusing when you think about it. Thank you for your kind words, I try to help out and support others whenever I can. I love being here with you and everyone else; it really is “such a lovely place” and we are all very lucky to have found narcsite and each other.

      Merry Christmas!
      Luv K xoxo

      1. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

        Lovely K,
        ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’–
        Luv Bubbles xx ๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿป๐ŸŽ„

        1. MB says:

          Bubbles, I would love to hear your voice and your accent! Maybe HG will host a Go To Meeting in The New Year.

      2. Caroline R says:

        Dear Bubbles
        Happy New Year to you and Mr B!

        I wish you a N-free year ahead, but I do enjoy your ‘Tales of Weasel Nutjob’.
        They’re very entertaining.
        You are a sparkling raconteur.

      3. Caroline R says:

        Dear K
        Happy New Year!
        Great personal success, peace and happiness to you and your precious ones in this year ahead.

        I am very mindful of that little girl (little K) who used to hide in the cupboard, who was made to feel so much less than she was worth, that little girl now has international influence, and has been an absolute treasure to a woman in Australia (Caroline) who was a little girl who used to hide under the table.

        I appreciate you.

        1. K says:

          Dear Caroline R
          Happy New Year!
          Cheers to a better year ahead full of love, laughter and adventure to you and all your loved ones!

          From the American girl in the cupboard to the Australian girl down under the table, thank you so much for your beautiful sentiments. You made my morning! I felt all warm and fuzzy when I read your comment and I am so happy that I had a positive influence on you.

          I appreciate you, too.

          1. NarcAngel says:

            K
            Hereโ€™s to another year of laughs in the library.

          2. K says:

            NarcAngel
            Cheers to that! Ha ha ha…there is never a dull moment on narcsite!

          3. MB says:

            Weโ€™re not here for a long time. Weโ€™re here for a good time!

          4. K says:

            MB
            Damn skippy!

    2. Lou says:

      Thank you Bubbles. Merry Christmas to you too.

      1. K says:

        Merry Christmas Lou!

      2. Lou says:

        Merry Christmas K ๐Ÿ˜˜

      3. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

        Dear Lou,
        ๐Ÿ˜˜
        Luv Bubbles xx ๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿป๐ŸŽ„๐Ÿพ

    3. MB says:

      Christmas hugs Bubbles! โค๏ธ

      1. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

        Dearest MB,
        Thankyou lovely… reindeer kisses to you ๐Ÿฅฐ
        Merry merry Christmas
        ๐Ÿค—
        Luv Bubbles xx ๐Ÿคถ๐ŸŒฒ๐Ÿพ

        1. MB says:

          Bubbles, ummmm sloppy reindeer kisses. My favorite kind! Ha ha

      2. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

        Dear MB,
        Reindeer kisses would be more sincere than from a narc … ๐Ÿคฃ
        I know which one I’d have ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ๐ŸฆŒ
        Giddy up Rudolph ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ
        Christmas wishes precious
        Luv Bubbles xx ๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿป๐ŸŽ„๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

      3. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

        Dearest MB,
        You’re the first person to ever want to hear my voice and accent … that is so sweet MB…. you just made me feel “very special”
        Mr Bubbles is always trying to shut me up … ๐Ÿคฃ… because, I do “voices ”
        If Mr Tudor had a Go To Meeting ….. he would not get a “word in” with us lot ๐Ÿคฃ
        Thank you precious
        hugs to you ๐Ÿค—
        Luv Bubbles Xx ๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿป๐ŸŽ„๐Ÿพ

        1. MB says:

          Bubbles, I love the way you phrase things. And some of the words you use Iโ€™m not familiar with. Youโ€™d probably get a kick out of hearing my accent too. But youโ€™re right, Mr Tudor would have his work cut out for him controlling this crowd on a phone call!

      4. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

        Dearest MB,
        Thank you petal…. Im available for hire at parties and airports … I could make everyone feel at home with my hugs n accents ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿคฃ
        I think I read recently in the comments you are Dutch … yes?
        Luv Bubbles xx ๐Ÿ˜˜

        1. MB says:

          Bubbles, Iโ€™m not Dutch. Thatโ€™s another reader. I am American. From the southern US, yโ€™all. I talk very slow. In my world, the word โ€œdogโ€ has three syllables. Youโ€™d have to hear it to believe it. Iโ€™ll say it for you on the conference call! Hugs sweet lady!

          1. windstorm says:

            MB
            Ha, ha! Same thing with โ€œoil.โ€ Three syllables- โ€œoh-ee-uhl.โ€
            Pretzel was cracking up over a meme yesterday on how to use โ€œinhaleโ€ in a sentence. โ€œWhy inhale did I come to Walmart the day after Christmas?!โ€

          2. MB says:

            I love it WS! I think I could enjoy the Pretzelโ€™s humor.
            I donโ€™t say โ€œoh-ee-uhlโ€. Itโ€™s only one syllable but itโ€™s bad ๐Ÿ˜‚ More like โ€œEarlโ€ without the โ€œRโ€. (Like somebody with a speech impediment that canโ€™t say their Rโ€™s.)

          3. MB says:

            Oh and โ€œsurpโ€ is what you put in pancakes round here!

      5. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

        Dear MB,
        My apologies for the incorrect guess…where’s K when you need her ๐Ÿคฃ
        My favourite movie is GWTW… just saying ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰
        Luv Bubbles xx ๐Ÿ˜˜

        1. K says:

          Dearest Bubbles
          I am right here! Ha ha ha…I was going to say something but I didn’t want to overstep, however, next time I will step right in and keep you updated (as long as MB doesn’t mind). There are many people here and many comments and it isn’t always easy to keep track of nationalities. I live in New England and I am a Yankee; MB is a Confederate/Rebel.

          Luv K xoxo

          1. MB says:

            Of course I donโ€™t mind K!

          2. K says:

            MB
            Ha ha ha…I didn’t think you would.

          3. windstorm says:

            K
            Ha, ha! My breath caught involuntarily when I read you call yourself a โ€œyankee.โ€ I was raised that โ€œyankeeโ€ was a horrible, ugly insult to call anyone. Even now, itโ€™s always a shock to hear someone call themself one! And be proud of it! Old ways die hard.

          4. K says:

            WS
            Ha ha ha….it is all relative. I have been called so much worse that Yankee is innocuous.

          5. K says:

            WS
            I forgot, in New England, we have an epic rivalry with the New York Yankees so the term is used quite often in Red Sox Nation.

          6. windstorm says:

            K
            Ha, ha! Our hatred of the word yankee dates back to the Civil War, but of course it keeps lessening over time. But just the other day one of my friends referred to our governor as a โ€œdamn yankee carpetbagger.โ€ It used to be a joke that โ€œdamn yankeeโ€ was really just one word, since โ€œyankeeโ€ was never used separately. ๐Ÿ˜„

          7. K says:

            WS
            Ha ha ha…I like damn yankee carpetbagger. Most people in the northeast don’t think of it as an insult because of the NY Yankees and don’t even connect it to the Civil War. I like history so Confederate or Reb comes to mind when I think of the south.

      6. Caroline R says:

        Windstorm
        Pretzel’s ‘inhale’ joke!
        I had to say it out loud.
        Ha ha!
        Hilarious!

        Happy New Year!

        1. windstorm says:

          Caroline R
          Glad you enjoyed it. There are a series of books called โ€œHow to Speak Southernโ€ that are hilarious that you might enjoy.

          Happy New Year to you, too! ๐ŸŽ‰

      7. Caroline R says:

        Dear MB
        Happy New Year to you and all your precious ones.
        I wish you great personal success, creative inspiration, and a double return of all the love that you give to everyone else in your life.

  5. Kel says:

    Did you hear on the news last week Trump Jr saying his Dad had regifted to him a monogrammed present that Jr had given him the year before?

    Speaking of the pres, amid govt shutdown at Christmas & pulling troops out of Syria & lying that a battle is over that the Pentagon says isnโ€™t, all in an effort to make himself look, idk, good? right? tho it still looks as insane as it really is – Honest question: if the press and Twitter & everyone ignored him – would he go away??

    1. Anm says:

      Kel,
      No. Long story short, it is easy to get a normal or empathic person out of politics simply because there are other careers that pay more, and are more ethical. A Narcissistic Politician needs major wounding to get out. Look at the Obamas, if they are Narcissistic, look how much they are still sticking around even though they are supposed to be out?

      1. kel says:

        If weโ€™re going to have a narcissist in the wh, then give me a charming one who does a days work and a good job. Anytime Oโ€™Bama speaks now, we all swoon and remember the good old days when things were sane.

        I cannot believe we have a lesser there now. Rude, offensive, lying, is bad enough, but you cannot have someone reacting childishly, instinctively with the only goal of saving face, and easily manipulated, ruling the most powerful country on the planet. Soon heโ€™ll run us in the ground and we wonโ€™t be able to protect ourselves or the world anymore. Itโ€™s sacrilege opposing our allies and embracing our enemies.

        He just needs a reason to step down, a lure for something better – a new TV show heโ€™d enjoy doing more?? Heโ€™s so crooked with no morals and blind to it, no one else would have been in the office for this long without getting the boot – itโ€™s concerning whatโ€™s going on with the republicans- as many former republicans have said themselves.

        Well, sorry, I wonโ€™t go on anymore about politics, although this one is more about democracy and dictatorship. He triggered my reaction between regifting to his son at Christmas and leaving government workers worrying about having no paychecks right before Christmas.

        As Tiny Tim said, God Bless us, every one!

    2. Kel says:

      If we did a GoFundMe fund if heโ€™d leave the White House, I bet weโ€™d collect $5 Billion within 5 minutes!

    3. K says:

      Kel
      Sometimes, I wish all the news outlets/social media would just ignore Trump completely. It is like watching a three-ring Circus and Sarah Huckabee Sanders is irritating. I have tuned out much of it lately. The drama and chaos is too much.

    4. Kel says:

      Trumps Christmas stand-off for a $5 billion dollar border wall is Not about being Logical. Itโ€™s about a narcissist winning no matter whatโ€™s right or good for the country or the world. Itโ€™s about stepping over people. It doesnโ€™t keep his campaign promise that Americans wouldnโ€™t have to pay for it because Mexico would, but never mind because heโ€™ll just rewrite his comments and ignore the facts. Ignoring facts is not being logical.

      Heโ€™s a Lesser ensnared by a Greater, Putin, and being played for everything Russia wants, simply with a comment to pull the strings of their Trojan horse puppet.

      If there was ever a poster board of narcissism awareness, itโ€™s the Donald chump.

      1. windstorm says:

        Kel
        I agree with you 100%. Weโ€™ve had many narc presidents, but theyโ€™ve all been intelligent and able to plan long term. Itโ€™s very rough having a lesser in power. Hopefully things wonโ€™t be too wrecked when he leaves.

        Like your gravatar, by the way! Happy Bolidays!

      2. kel says:

        Happy Holidays, love you Windstorm!

      3. mommypino says:

        Kel, I disagree and hope that I donโ€™t offend anyone who doesnโ€™t like Trump. Almost half of the country (including myself) voted for Trump. Yes Clinton got the majority but he won fair and square. If people has a problem with it then ammend the electoral college system. I donโ€™t think that having a wall is stepping on people. Other countries actually has much more stricter laws regarding immigration than the US. I have a lot of Filipino friends that migrated to different countries all over the world. I donโ€™t think that he world will be better off with the mod-ranger Hillary. Having said that I do respect everybodyโ€™s opinions. โœŒ๏ธ

      4. kel says:

        Isnโ€™t it funny that Hilary keeps getting brought up, sheโ€™s not the point. And actually the Russians did interfere with the election- thatโ€™s not an opinion but a fact- the question at hand is whether there was collusion.

        Politics aside, it was his lesser narcissism that I was commenting on, and his impulsiveness. To each his own, heโ€™s not worth disagreeing over to me and I donโ€™t wish to offend you. Merry Christmas Mommypino!

      5. mommypino says:

        Kel, no offense taken. We can all have our opinions and itโ€™s totally great. The reason I brought up Hillary was because she was the other alternative to Trump. They ran against each other.
        I hear so much about this Russia thing, even spending so mih money on a special probe and yet they are not able to produce a single tangible proof that there has been collusion between Russia and Trump. No tangible proof that Putin is influencing Trump in any way. Itโ€™s all opinions and speculations, mostly driven by anger.

        Trump is definitely abrasive and crude. Heโ€™s totally a Lesser narc. He is highly educated and I would say that he is intelligent enough to make his business a huge empire. But he totally lacks the control so he is a Lesser narc. But I like him more than Obama. I didnโ€™t agree with a lot of what Obama did and said that undermined Christians, gun owners, people in rural areas like me, doctors like my husband, and cops. If he was such a great president and not divisive then we would not have a Trump right now. The fact is, Obama was so dismissive and divisive that he angered enough people to vote for someone that is the most abrasive and offensive to the left as posible.

        1. windstorm says:

          Mommypino
          Good point about Obama. Without 8 years of him, we wouldnโ€™t be stuck with Trump now.

      6. mommypino says:

        Kel, I forgot to add, Merry Christmas to you too! Politics can be so divisive but as long as we donโ€™t take our differences against each other it shouldnโ€™t be as divisive. ๐Ÿ’•

      7. kel says:

        ๐Ÿ’• nothing but love mp!

      8. mommypino says:

        Love to you too Kel. ๐Ÿ’•โœŒ๏ธ

    5. Kathy Mor says:

      He will do massive Hoover maneuvers…. and if they donโ€™t work, go into fury mode and get into war with 5 countries at one… because we are the lesser.

  6. Leslie says:

    At least he gave something more than the usual nothing.

  7. JJ says:

    Hello HG,

    This is out of subject question. You mentioned once that you donโ€™t believe in Karma. My question is,

    – How do you explain your position of power now over your mother, versus her position over you as a child?

    Thank you.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Do you mean what is my position of power over her now or how have I achieved that position of power?

      1. JJ says:

        None of the above.

        I mean how can you relate this to Karma concept. What goes around comes around.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Except it doesn’t. A classic example of a meaningless, baseless, unsubstantiated concept made to make the vanquished feel better. Far more effective to do something than spout such meaningless tripe.

      2. JJ says:

        Thank you for your answer, HG.

        I hope that my question doesnโ€™t irritate you.

        Your thinking is highly logic based thinking. So, letโ€™s say that Karma is not real and it doesnโ€™t exist.

        Does that mean that I can do whatever I want to other people?

        – I can hurt my friend.
        – If a chocolate fall down from a child hand, I can step on it and walk away.
        – When someone call me to ask for help, I can tell them to shut up and hung up the phone.

        What is really that make people decide NOT to do the above things? What hold them back? And more importantly, why?

        Why do we have to act in good manner? What cause us to treat other people in a good way and not badly?

        Does life go like this do whatever you want. No reward, No punishment?!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Yes you can do whatever you choose to do.

          What holds them back? For some it is empathy with the individual, they would not want to see their friend hurt as they know that would be unpleasant and therefore they do not hurt them. For others it is the concern about losing the friendship. For others it may be some additional consequence, such as criminal prosecution. For most people it is a combination of empathy and self-interest.

      3. JJ says:

        Thank you for your reply, HG.

        Donโ€™t you think that the person who created the concept of Karma has published it after a deep observation. Thatโ€™s why it got a global recognition.

        Take for example. Your work. Itโ€™s based in your own observation. You donโ€™t cite or reference any psychological resources. However, it is accurate, and it fits to people who are narcissists.

        Any thoughts?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          No I do not see that they did.

  8. Cindy says:

    Hi HG,
    Being a Greater, I will assume you wouldn’t even think of giving an old or used gift. I wonder if you have ever re-gifted (Seinfeld), or gave someone a gift you knew they wouldn’t like, want, or need?

    Is there anything about Christmas you enjoy, or is it all a big pain in the ass?

    Thanks for answering HG! I’m sure you covered this in your books, but I’m too poor to buy them.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I usually demonstrate my considerable largesse when it comes to gift giving, but I have purposely given certain people gifts I know they would not like.

      Christmas is a huge opportunity for fuel and game-playing. It is a huge gift to myself.

      1. JJ says:

        HG Said,

        โ€œ but I have purposely given certain people gifts I know they would not like.โ€

        JJ Says,

        That not funny, at all. Yucky, yucky, yucky.

        Wait a minute. . .

        One more YUCKY.

      2. Nika says:

        The Somatic Narcissist of 2 years and the Histrionic Narcissist of 15 yrs gave me very expensive gifts.

        On the other hand, the Victim Narcissist who was online (and I never met in person, though he wanted to Skype every chance possible), would barely send me a card more than once every two years, even though he claimed he was coming to America to marry me.

      3. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

        Dear Mr Tudor,
        I’m very curious to know what gifts you are giving that won’t be appreciated and the lucky recipients (I would assume these people are painted black) eg would they be practical joke gifts
        Do you set a “price” on each gift per person and are those around you generous to you
        Are you planning great turmoil and havoc by upsetting members of your family eg crying, fighting, planning to sulk, invent an illness, roll up empty handed, be over generous, rock up late, bring someone they hate, dress shockingly or are you generally a Mr POPPINS and treated like royalty
        This would be extra education for us …. haha
        Yuletide greetings, Merry Christmas n Ho ho ho to you
        Many thanks for your beautiful, clever, informative, witty and entertaining work this year ….looking forward to your “new concepts” in 2019
        Luv Bubbles xx ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿป

      4. Anm says:

        HG, why don’t you take a break from playing reindeer games with the empaths, and I’ll send you some Narcissist who are better suited. If you kick it up a notch, and play like the Psychopath, Dexter, all the better

        1. HG Tudor says:

          No need, what I do in my professional life has that more than covered.

          1. Anm says:

            Then Merry Christmas to you, HG!

    2. K says:

      Cindy
      You may find this article helpful.

      https://narcsite.com/2018/07/10/the-narcissist-and-gifts-6/

      1. Cindy says:

        Thank you K. What a smorgasbord of fuel this holiday brings! As I read, I began to chuckle as I pictured my ex and his brethren gliding down the snow covered, beautifully lighted street singing ” It’s the most wonderful time of the year”!๐ŸŽ

        1. K says:

          You are welcome Cindy
          Ha ha ha…Christmas is a festival of fuel for narcissists and it certainly gives a whole new meaning to “Itโ€™s the most wonderful time of the year!”

      2. Bubbles๐Ÿพ says:

        Gorgeous K,
        I found that article extremely helpful as well
        Thank you precious and for all your continued support and advice
        You’re help is amazing and luv you being here
        Merry Christmas lovely lady
        Warmest Ho ho ho s n hugs ๐Ÿค—
        Luv Bubbles xx ๐Ÿ˜˜ ๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿป๐ŸŒฒ

  9. WhoCares says:

    Haha! I missed all the seasonal comedy last year at this time…I had no internet access then. Very glad to catch these now during the current Christmas season!

    Very clever HG – I would buy your Christmas album!

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