Can You Have A Successful Intimate Relationship With A Narcissist?


Surely you can, yes? Just heap on the compliments. Or maybe be completely compliant? Or maybe you need to follow a lot of the awful ‘advice’ out there about how you can control/manipulate/co-exist with the narcissist. Or you could get weaponised and listen to this instead.

Listen to the insight here

12 thoughts on “Can You Have A Successful Intimate Relationship With A Narcissist?

  1. katebd19 says:

    You cannot be clearer HG. The logic thinking knows you are right. The emotional thinking of an IPPS finds your analysis painful (because the desire of a new golden period remains) although at the bottom of my heart I know you right even from the emotional thinking perspective because it is the victim’s self that is at risk. Thank you for being so helpful!
    While listening to your audio I wondered if it would be part of the narc dynamic to ask an IPPS that has been devaluated (and most likely relocated in the fuel matrix) to remain friends. Is this something that a narc would say to a devaluated IPPS? If so, what would that mean from the narc perspective? Why would he ask so?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Of course. It is a form of control and would likely be used as a means to lower defences.

  2. Kiki says:

    Great sex yes
    but the price tag includes
    mangled self esteem ,humiliation , obsession ,emotional exhaustion ,worthlessness , plenty of the silent treatments , abandonment and eventually a huge dent in your own sanity.

    1. foolme1time says:

      Kiki, All of the above! 🤦🏼‍♀️

  3. foolme1time says:

    I hit a trifecta on that one HG! 🤦🏼‍♀️ You are right ( as you always are) about the way ET takes hold of us and keeps us thinking there must be away to make this work? There is absolutely no way of having a successful intimate relationship with a narcissist! I like being able to listen to some of your writings, hearing the information coming from you has a much larger impact on me. However there are also times when your voice will trigger certain emotions and feelings in me that cause me to stop listening! It really is quite strange! Btw I love the way a cold day in hell is represented in the picture for this post. 🙃

    1. katebd19 says:

      It happens the same to me, sometimes, when I hear his powerful and attractive voice. It triggers deep emotions and feelings. My ex MRN elite had a deep sensual voice, as well, and a powerful and charismatic laugh, like HG’s. I loved his voice and his laugh (and I feared it when he got furious). I think this is why HG’s voice triggers the emotions and the feelings. It reminds me of his. And I know that the voice and the laugh were part of the seduction and of the golden period, part of the ever presence… Irresistible voices

  4. Kelly says:

    HG, you should consider doing some hypnosis videos, wherein you lead the listener in a guided “meditation” through the process of letting go. Your voice is perfect for getting listeners into a relaxed, hypnotic state where they can absorb the information and put it into effect.

  5. Claire says:

    This reinforces so many of my experiences.. I am so grateful to you HG.

  6. Sniglet says:

    Very well said and true. I am incredulous at how much narcissists love being complimented. They should know not all of it is true and used as a tool to manipulate them. I generally take compliments with a grain of salt. Once received they make it obligatory to return the favour which I won’t necessarily do and consequently will upset people. Yes narcs want to control. Since I’m a free spirit a relationship with a controlling man won’t work for me.

    I think both parties in a relationship should have control over what they both want to achieve in their life together and build an ‘empire’ together. If one has one agenda and the other has another it won’t work. Best to cut it off immediately and do it alone or find a more suitable partner. The minds must become one naturally and work in tandem. That’s wholesomeness to me.

  7. Sarah Jane says:

    The penny has just dropped. I don’t think I was a DLS. I was an IPSS to a MR who didn’t have an IPPS. I could have well been one of a few IPSSs, but I imagine his ‘female friends’ (because he has many) were NIPSSs. He may have had a DLS besides, too. I just know that, (unless he has super powers and can be everywhere at once, with ease) he spent a LOT of time with me regarding calls/texts/camming, but only came to stay in person on his terms – yet I didn’t meet family/friends and would have been construed as an outer-circle person. I wonder if a mixture of DLS and IPSS is possible.

  8. Christopher Jackson says:

    So true about having to be so compliant all sounds too familiar

  9. Leolita says:

    This is so valuable. Thank you! Just the right time, too. Need all of this that you can make, these days.

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