Please Please Please
I want you to do your best. That is a noble intention is it not? I want you to try harder each day. I want you to aim high and strive to improve on what you achieved the previous day. Though exhaustion may be clouding your vision and that ache in your limbs reminds you of the strenuous ministrations that you have attended to, I know that you can push through it and do it more, better, faster and stronger. I believe in you. Those other imposters are mere charlatans. Am I not the one who has given you a perfect love? You need to keep that perfect love and earn it. Accordingly, each day I will pull it away from you. On a Monday it might be the case that I do not kiss you. I will not give you an explanation for this withholding as you must work it out. Once you have you need to work hard to recover my kiss. The next day I will not return the hug you always give me when we first get up. Rather than complaining hold your tongue and consider this all part of your on going education. If you want my perfect love to manifest through those warm, safe hugs that you relish then you must please me so that you may have them again.
You repeatedly comment to me that there has to be give and take in a relationship. I am doing exactly what you ask for. I take away in order to make you give more and then you will be rewarded. In order to avoid any complacency on your part you will find that the next time I withdraw from kissing you, your first response which reinstated my luscious embrace will not work a second time. No that would be far too easy. You need to ascertain what different act you must accomplish in order to secure my tender kisses. I know you will do it. Who would not in order to feel my mouth against yours and that soaring sensation inside as the relief floods through you, knowing that you have secured its return. Admit it, the potential loss of my affection at any time for any reason excites you. You do not want mediocrity. You want excitement. You want to feel like you are flying, soaring, bursting and spinning with delight. I am the only one who can supply that to you and thus you willingly engage with me in these games as I push you further and further, pulling back a little more each time so you wrack your brain and strain your sinews to find the answer once again. It would be wrong of me to say I only do this for your benefit. I do not. I do it wholly for mine since I need you to please me. You please me by being the puppet jerking on my strings, doing everything at my behest. The surge of power that I get from this control surpasses anything you might get from our relationship, but are we not both getting something from it, so where’s the harm in pleasing me?
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Dearest K,
Thank you so much gorgeous one for your kind thoughts
Hmmmmmm, do I think they are a narcissist?
Everyone “we” know, who has met our youngest’s partner, has told us they’ve never liked this person (same was said about the weasel, no one liked him either) ….. not one person !
This person deflects blame, takes no responsibility or accountability for their actions and has shown in recent events their entitlement attitude
Yes, my lovely K, my female intuition is telling me, this person is a manipulative parasitic covert lesser with an alter ego
Our youngest believes they are “helping n supporting” (takes after me) this person to be better, however, as always, “love is blind”
A “normal” person would not treat their partner’s family this way
“Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me”
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
My pleasure Dear Bubbles!
Yup, all the Red Flags are there. Love is blind and so is everyone else, society, as a whole, is blind to NPD shenanigans! They do so much damage and get away with it because we explain it all away by blaming it on alcohol, drugs or ethnicity.
Empaths are helpers and healers and we project our positivity onto narcissists because we think they are capable of change and if they are just willing to see “the light” all will be well. Ha! Fat chance in Hell!
Good luck cause you are gonna need it!
Luv K xoxox
Dearest K,
I always luv your advice and take on board all that you offer
Thank you
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
My pleasure, Bubbles!
It has also given me a sort of “empathy investment grading” of those around.
So now I noticed myself becoming more empathic than usual, but I only towards people I deem worthy of it.
If previously I was empathic towards most people, but in a somewhat shallow way, now I am beginning to strongly skew this such that only some get a lot of my empathy, most are still the same as before, and some I just feel like “fuck them”…
I actually started enjoying to play the defective appliance towards the few narcs I have noticed at my office. It’s true that they sometime manage to get me angry or frustrated or simply bored, but I try to never show it and I ignore them or continue to serve them some acid remark in a very detached way, and watch their reaction with (internal) amusement. I also use this as a way to learn, preparing myself for the inevitable encounter with my xN… And also to teach those around – I think they noticed me becoming more of a “bitchy” character with certain people and I also hope they will learn something from this. I am not going to school anybody about this (for now) except my wife, because I do not consider myself good enough just yet.
Did you also notice this?
Abe
You becoming more empathetic? I love it! 😊. You are good enough to school other’s, just remember if they ask a question you don’t the answer to, send them to narcsite!
Well, I’m not necessarily loving it, but that’s how it is… Sometimes I miss my old care-free behavior, when I did not have to give much of a crap about almost anybody, as long as they did not bother me.
But it’s interesting nonetheless, and I’m becoming my own subject of study.
Abe
You made me laugh! Haha! I think you will fine as time goes on, you will forget about your old care-free behavior and embrace this new you! I have found on here that you learn just as much about yourself, if not more, then you do narcissists! Take care my empathetic friend!😘🙃
There is no harm in pleasing you the problem is if you punish people for pleasing you is a good chance they may not want to please you any more the lackey band can only stretch so far before it breaks or loses its elasticity It’s the same with me the one thing that I have got as I don’t need other people to fuel me I can get it from nature animals My ability to be able to focus on love and the good things in life energises me also The sun but it does start to get to the point where My fuel would become less because In your mind or a narcissistic mind I can’t do right and not knowing where to put the effort in means that I would gauge my narcissist so he would have to punish me to get fuel because he is not going to just give me the golden period that is something in his mind I would need to earn and if I don’t know how to do that because nothing I do is right things would become stale for me to if there wasn’t a decent enough mixture of the good and bad I know that I have an unhealthy attraction to people like you the highs and lows of the relationship But the high has to be worth the pain for it to continue extended devaluation Gives someone like me enough time to get back to myself and move on I think this is why I have absolutely no attraction to lessers or middle lessers it’s mentally that I become addicted to the narcissist narcissist in my family are all very intelligent people And they could be the hottest guy on the planet but if they didn’t have a brain I wouldn’t have any interest I think the cerebral type narcissists are the worst or at least the most dangerous for me they Can hide their narcissism more than the other types So much easier to con me into their illusions
Oh, I knew pretty soon she was playing with me. It was quite obvious at times. I accepted it because I thought a woman must also act a little crazy, capricious. Isn’t this the way hot women are pictured today almost everywhere? Sometimes I accepted it with an amused smile, like “I know what you’re doing, but fuck it, have it your own way”. And then it was also addiction. I knew but I just could not stop trying to please her, hoping she’ll come back, to me, to her senses.
Well, she did not 🙂. And for that, I am grateful, because now I am in such a different and better place with myself, with my understanding of people and of my self.
It’s strange, funny but also a bit annoying, walking around in a park, in the office, in a restaurant and checking people – “Where would this guy fit?”, “Is she one? No, see how she is looking at him, how she smile with her entire face and her eyes”. And so on… Nothing is the same anymore.
I hear ya, Abe Moline… at times, I feel like I’m graphing people on the “empath-to-narcissist continuum” in my mind. Lol
I guess that can be the price of much awareness. So be it.
Better to be aware than ensnared! 😉
Dear Abe,
Your last paragraph resonated very much …. spot on
I totally 💯 % concur with you “Nothing is the same anymore”
I look at people very very differently
Mr Bubbles n I have withdrawn within the sanctity of our home even further
Controlling my emotions, thinking, breathing n sleeping, requires effort every day…..sometimes it feels like I’m on auto pilot
“Nothing is the same anymore” …….and never will be
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Dear Bubbles
I believe it is my turn now. Are you ok? May I help you in anyway? This comment of yours has a sadness to it that I am not use to feeling when it comes to you dear! 😘🌻
Dear foolme1time,
Thankyou my lovely one …. you are most perceptive … I didn’t think it came across that way
You are correct, I am very sad ….. our youngests’ partner has caused a huge family rift
I’m trying desperately to get my emotional thinking in order to look objectively at the manipulation that’s been going on ….it’s just a tad hard when you are right in the middle of a storm
I’m emotional yet numb at the same time ….. trying to do what’s right and what’s in the best interest regarding our youngest
Basically my instinct as a mother is to help him ….. Mr Bubbles and our other two adult kids have said …. “don’t, let
them learn the hard way”
I’m just finding it a bit of a struggle because I have to be cruel to be kind and it’s going to break my heart ❤️
Thank you so much beautiful foolme1timetime for caring and reaching out …. it means more than you know 💕
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
You’re a good Mom, Bubbles… such a loving, warm heart of care – but also doing what’s best, hard as it is. Parenting: not for cowards! Will be thinking of you, sweetheart. May things within the family soon improve/heal/lighten.
Big hug,
Caroline
Bubbles
Of course I noticed your sadness! I always had a problem with tough love with my children, I also knew I had no other choice. My daughter has a lot of my qualities in her but she also has a lot of her fathers, that was one thing I would not tolerate. She was one that had always had to learn the hard way. But do you know what? She did learn, and she is a beautiful, intelligent, young woman and a Mother herself now. She understands why I did the things I did, because I cursed her with the Mother’s curse, she has one just like she was!! Lmao! I’m loving it!! In the end Dear Bubbles, you will make the right choice. Take care Bubbles. 😘🥰
Dear Bubbles,
Awww….I am so sorry to hear about the family rift. Just curious, do you think his partner is a narcissist?
Luv K xoxo
Dear Caroline-is-fine,
Your kind words have very much touched my heart
I didn’t think our retirement years were going to be this
troublesome
I agree wholeheartedly, parenting is most definitely not for cowards (that’s why narcs are never there for you)
All you lovelies give me strength ….. I’m forever grateful for this support forum
Thank you most sincerely sweetheart 💕
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Dearest foolme1time,
Thank you kind beautiful lovely lady for your hearfelt support and concern
Our youngest is such a loveable giving trusting decent human and loved by all, who is sadly being manipulated by someone who’s riding the gravy train and just can’t see it
I can observe narc behaviour from strangers or friends and act accordingly but when it’s right under your nose within the family unit it’s so much harder to spot, as the emotional stakes are higher
Talking about this is to my support family here is therapeutic and I can feel the strength n love permeating from your beautiful kind souls
Just what I am needing right now …. thanking you from the bottom of my crushed pulsating heart ❤️
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Dearest Bubbles,
Sorry to hear about your struggle. I just want you to know that your words have and continue to inspire and comfort me during my healing process. I still have the post you wrote to me about correcting my breathing…staying active….and the importance of hydration. Thank you for being you and continue to fight the good fight!
PH
Dearest Pale Horse,
Awe….that is the sweetest thing to say
I hope it has helped and you are healing my lovely
So great to hear from you
Stay as beautiful as you are
Thank you Pale Horse, you’re words are so precious to me
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Sorry for the delayed response, it’s takes me so long to get to everything and especially “catch up” when Mr Tudor disappears
I don’t know everyone else does it …Speed readers everywhere …. haha