The Super Empath

THE SUPER EMPATH

 

It is well known that our kind target those who have empathic traits. Just like those of my persuasion operate on a spectrum, those who exhibit empathy do so as well. There are those we might regard as the “normals” those people who have some narcissistic traits and some empathic traits. As ever, when I use the words empathic and empathetic I state them with reference to certain traits such as empathy (clearly), honesty, kindness, decency and such like. I do not use the words in the sense of being in tune with the world and the environment. The normal are in the centre, possibly leaning one way towards my kind or the other way towards your kind. It is extremely rare for a normal to be ensnared as primary source because put simply, they do not cut the mustard. Their emotional responses are not sufficient, their empathic traits whilst evident are not sufficient to either bind to us or provide us with the fuel that we need. Such a person would easily pass a homeless person begging, a person crying alone on a bench or somebody who had fallen off their bike and injured themselves. They are self-absorbed but not to the degree that our kind is. They will help if they really have to, but they do not go out of their way to act in a way that causes harm to anybody else.

Thereafter come those who are empaths. Empaths are always targeted as primary sources. They often fulfil secondary roles as well. They are rarer in a tertiary source position since if they are an empath, they would be better suited to either being a primary or secondary source. We would not want those empathic traits to go to waste. The empath has a good range of empathic traits those of honesty, decency, having a strong moral compass and being a good listener, just to list a few of them. They may not have all of the empathic traits that we look for, but they will have several and exhibit them in a concentrated form. Thus this person would look to donate to a charity, hand a wallet in that was found in the street, help a stranger who is in distress, sit and listen to somebody who has problems and acts of a similar nature.

Next comes the Super Empath. This person is not a co-dependent. Both the Super Empath and the co-dependent have many, if not all of the empathic traits that we look for and they have them to a stronger degree than the empath. For example, both might take the homeless person under their wing and take them to a shelter, maybe even house them themselves for a period of time. They would try and locate the person who had lost their wallet in order to hand it back in person rather than say hand it in at a police station first. They will listen to the person with problems and then offer practical solutions to resolve those difficulties. The co-dependent gains validation from such acts through giving and has to do this to an excessive degree even when it goes beyond what is good for themselves, such is their inherent addiction to the act of giving and selflessness. The co-dependent may not actually be that strong an individual (they are in the sense of the abuse that they can soak up) but they are not strong as they have no identity to assert, they must form one through self-flagellation, giving and not taking. They are masochistic in nature, driving themselves to the point of collapse and illness because they lack the strength to escape and the desire to do so from the clutches of our kind. Lesser Narcissists and Mid-Range Narcissists hook up with co-dependents especially because they give, give and give but do not fight back. They challenge themselves, blame themselves and always make excuses for their abuser.

The Super Empath is also a giver but whereas the co-dependent is masochistic in this giving, the Super Empath does so from a position of strength. They hold their ability to empathise, to heal, to fix and impart goodness as a great gift and one which ought not to be abused. They are drawn to our kind less because of the co-dependent’s need to seek validation of identity through a narcissist, but more because they are initially attracted to the apparent emotional output of the narcissist. The false strength which the narcissist exhibits at the outset of the seduction, the confidence, the apparent satisfaction with his self, that he appears comfortable in his own skin, at ease with others, capable of lighting up a room and so forth is a huge attraction to the Super Empath because that person actually sees something of themselves in the narcissist when the narcissist is seducing. That is not to state that the Super Empath is a narcissist. Far from it. But the Super Empath is just as engaging as the narcissist and thus there is a mutual attraction. The Super Empath is also more challenging to the narcissist and therefore is usually the recipient of some Mid-Range narcissists and most often the Greater Narcissist. This is not because the Super Empath is awkward or reticent but rather she will be forthcoming with her empathic traits once she feels that they have been earned. Accordingly, the narcissist must put the extra miles in, in terms of seduction to ensnare the Super Empath. This person needs to be coerced into sharing the fruits of their empathy but once that trust has been earned, once the gate has been unlocked the benefits are huge. The Super Empath shines with empathy, glows with decency and pours forth delicious fuel.

This continues during devaluation. The empath and co-dependent are easier to “break” in terms of causing negative fuel to flow. The Super Empath is made of sterner material and will resist the negative machinations of the narcissist at first. This may result in the narcissist dis-engaging if he does not feel able to impact on the Super Empath and seeking fuel elsewhere. The Greater knows who he has ensnared and knows once again he must unlock the fuel source, this time negative, of the Super Empath and once it is done the tidal wave of fuel is to be enjoyed. The Super Empath will remain, wanting to fix the narcissist, exhibiting again the same empathic traits of others on the empathic spectrum, but again being made of sterner stuff, their descent towards numbness and malfunction is far slower than that of the empath. The Super Empath will keep providing the fuel but deteriorates at a slower rate. The risk factor however with a Super Empath is that their own personal integrity is greater than the empath’s and very much greater than that of the co-dependent and consequently of all these three classes of empath, the Super Empath is the one more likely to make a bid for escape and thus leave the narcissist with a cessation problem.

The challenge of unlocking both positive and negative fuel proves an attraction for the right type of narcissist because this allows him to assert his superiority and enjoy the challenge. The reward is magnificent. Excellent fuel and such that deteriorates at a much slower rate. The downside is the potential for the Super Empath becoming “aware” of what is happening, becoming unwilling to dedicate further energy to staying with the narcissist to fix and to heal and thus escaping. The Super Empath requires fairly careful management by our kind, but the rewards always mean that this person is a challenge which is often accepted.

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141 Comments

  1. This fits me so well I feel exposed, haha. This and the Magnet empath (I can’t walk outside without someone telling me their life story, although oddly I don’t mind). I may still take your Empath detector at some point to confirm though. Excellent read.

  2. Do greaters primarily only have Super empaths as IPSS (Making it “safer” for those in the other categories)?

    1. Do mid-rangers shy away from super empaths as IPSS (don’t want to make effort on a secondary source)?

    2. IDo greaters primarily only have Super empaths as IPPS (or is that just your particular favorite flavor of appliance)?

  3. Yes Hg is amazing no matter what I will always keep returning here
    I love this blog and it really does help even with life in general
    Hg is NEVER mistaken everything he says rings true that is an absolute
    You will learn to see manipulation, you will even know when to predict it , like a chess player .it’s a great gift HG has given to those who are willing to learn

    Kiki

  4. As an empath, I feel that my childhood was supported, respectful, etc. When meeting my narc ex’s mother, however, I sensed a nasty and verbally abusive air about her; the type to lose it over a dish in the sink.

    Of what type of environment/parental treatment does the Mid-Ranger come from?

  5. One of the best reads ever! 🙌🏻There’s so much material on www about narcissism but no one explains it the way you do! 👏🏻

  6. HG, why are you in your Wellies in your gravatar? Are you insinuating anything by wearing them here?

        1. Even one as perfect as The Shieldmaiden has gotten stale 🙁

          As you’ve said before, devaluation can last a long time. Some kick ass residual benefits there, as well as a luscious GP to be paid back. What a shame, HG. But quite good for our education. Thank you for sharing.

          1. I’m jumping to conclusions. I stand corrected. I’ll behave. I’m not one to start rumors. Carry on. Nothing to see here.

    1. Think about it kel2day. He’s educating us. Many thought he wouldn’t after the GP. They were wrong!

      1. MB: What is being said here? It is so cryptic. The boots are Hunter Green? They represent something. I have the feeling that you all are saying something different, but think you are saying the same thing. Am I wrong? What is being said by each of you? I bet you are all not saying the same thing.

        1. PSE, Cryptic is how your dearest HG rolls! His boots are called Hunters. He is hunting up some IPSS action while he’s in NYC to provide contrast to SM’s recent devaluation phase commencing. He will be needing a new IPPS in a year (give or take) depending how devaluation progresses. Being a Super Empath, she may not take the shit and bounce on him and he will need to be somewhat prepared.*

          *This is all speculation on my part.

          1. This is how far out I am from all of this HG. I thought you just picked that picture to use as your gravatar, I remember it from Instagram when you were at one of the most beautiful places I have ever seen. ( also because I own a pair of hunters ) I guess I’m just use to you being cryptic on Instagram but not here on the blog. Guess I’m getting extra homework!

          2. I took the reference to hunters being apt means he’s a hunter in general. And as for IPSS’s I’m guessing he doesn’t need to hunt for new, there are likely a good selection he could take off the shelf if need be.

          3. HG
            You best order a minion in to dust your cobwebbed shelves. The residents are drying up waiting and falling into disrepair. Some of them have not aged well and there are loose eyeballs rolling around.

          4. Ha ha, guess they won’t be coming off the shelf at all if they are in that state, NA!

          5. You’ve written that wives and IPPS’s get devalued, I think it’s to keep them in control and so they stay the way you like them. They also have to put up with the cheating.

            Would you marry an SE or are they too contrary to trust?

            And were your boots a hint?

          6. They have to be a hint if the brand was ‘apt’. Ok, maybe I was waaaaayyyy off. I was trying to make it more exciting in my mind. (Fantasist that I am!) You have a host which means somebody invited you there and is paying for it. Sounds like it’s a run of the mill consulting project. HG solves major problems, right?

          7. MB
            Do you really think he is in NYC? I am really off today because I didn’t believe he was. I really have to start paying more attention. 🤦🏼‍♀️

          8. Twilight
            Yes he is everywhere, I just cannot allow myself to believe everything I see on Instagram when it comes to pictures and timeline. HG is just always one step ahead of us. 🙃

          9. Sorry Twilight! I forgot who I was commenting to! Hahaha! There was something else that had my attention at the moment. 😉🙃

          10. Twilight
            For some reason I seem to have more and more of them lately! 🤣🙃

          11. OMG! It was to you MB! WTF! This standing in front of me right now is very nice indeed! He has me all worked up!! Lord a man should not be allowed to that good! Hahaha

          12. FM1T

            I know, I believe what I feel and not what I see.
            In reality I don’t care if HG is in NY or London, I just wouldn’t be surprised if he actually was in NY now

          13. Twilight when it comes to HG feeling doesn’t work for me. Show me the proof! Lol

          14. Remember the force my Padawan…..ha ha FM1T I understand.
            For me energy never lies it is what I see that messes with my ET and causes it to run wild 😜

            I would probably laugh if HG tapped on my shoulder and asked if I believed what I saw now. My laughter would be cause from him scaring the hell out of me cause he is one of few I believe can “mask” himself until he wants to be seen.

          15. Twilight, I’d pass out if HG tapped me on the shoulder! Or die. I might die! Believe it or not, I do play out these fantastical scenarios in my neurotic mind.

          16. You are correct Twilight. I spend much of my time in my head. Fantasy is my friend.

          17. MB, I wouldn’t call it neurotic. Maybe fantasizing, creative, daydreaming, idealistic, imaginative…

          18. Yes FM1T. I really think he is in NYC!You follow IG, right? The purpose is unclear, but some business had to be handled there. Somebody must have needed HG to bring his stick all the way over from London to sort some things.

          19. I did see the pictures MB. I’m just not sure if he is there right now, or if those pictures were taken at another time and he is somewhere else already. I don’t believe everything I see. Lol.

          20. HG, do not start this today sir. Yes I know NYC exists, yes I think you took pictures while there visiting. I just don’t believe you are in NYC at this time.

          21. Unless I see you holding a sign standing next to the Statue of Liberty saying I am here FM1T, I won’t believe you are there HG. 🙃

          22. HG I have faith in what you teach me. Which is nothing is ever what it appears to be! Show me the proof! 🙃

          23. HG can any school of empath go into super nova mode, or are there only certain schools that do this?

          24. Any can but it is most likely the Super Empath. Many people think they have an Empathic Supernova but they do not.

          25. Thank you HG, I have seen this written many times by all types of empaths and I wasn’t quite sure.

          26. Not yet HG, hopefully going shopping this evening, there was actually more than just one outfit HG. Lol. 🙃

          27. HG, If this was next week, I’d think you had acquired Taylor Swift tickets for the Central Park Concert and I’d be more jealous than you could ever imagine an empath capable of. You’ve probably already listened for research purposes, but I post here for those that might not be fans like we are! Ha Ha This is a prime example of lyrics being totally different since finding your work. No telling how I would have interpreted this B.H.G. I can assure you it would have had some degree of mushy though. This is crystal clear to me now. (Still a fan! Just not under the spell anymore.) https://youtu.be/8KpKc3C9V3w

          28. Did you see what he did there MB?!

            I take note of his acronyms now due to a mistake I made once before (tried to pin him down) 😭

          29. Joanne, I fear that I have been the cause of this devaluation frenzy. I had a hunch that she had entered devaluation and I threw stuff out there that I should not have done. HG is not confirming anything which makes it even more mysterious. Don’t believe anything regarding The SM and her status with HG unless and until he writes it. I apologize for confusing the Tudorites. Carry on with your hope for the New Dynamic. We have no reason to be concerned yet.

          30. I know Joanne. Many are rooting for HG and SM including me. I’m sorry for jumping to conclusions and speaking out of turn. I should not have done so.

          31. No apologies needed, MB. We all speculate on things. I am curious though! Hopefully HG will post a relationship bulletin soon 😉

          32. MB,
            I don’t know if you realize there is a pattern that the man up stairs follows concerning SM and himself. I don’t know how long this will continue, especially since I’m putting it out there, but here is what I have observed.
            Whenever HG has not posted pictures of SM and himself for awhile, usually know longer then a couple of weeks, people everywhere start assuming she is in devaluation. If you have noticed there has been a lot of new things going on with the blog lately, which may have limited his availability to travel? However just like clock work after a few weeks of this, pictures of the two of them together traveling to some beautiful location is posted and the golden period continues onward! He definitely likes keeping everyone on there toes! Hahaha

          33. HG

            I believe many are projecting their experience with their narcissist and the timeframe of the GP and subconsciously expecting you to behave similar and seeing anything that “hints” at a devaluation means you have begun.

            I believe thou when the time comes and it will come your awareness and desire to continue in a pro social way will be the determining factor on if this works or not.

            I have also been thinking about your choice of not informing your GF of your personality….you would never know for a positive You can overcome your narcissism (no I do not mean you would be cured of it).

          34. FM1T, I haven’t tried to figure out any patterns on IG. I can tell when it’s Fuel Fizz Bomb Friday (or getting close). Sometimes his giddiness can be felt all the way through the Information Superhighway. I always pay attention to his hashtags too.

          35. MB
            I really didn’t try to figure anything out. It is something that I just do, it’s like a natural instinct to observe things that others don’t. I’m not sure if it is another survival technique that was built in all those years ago or not? Now if I can just keep them in the forefront and look for the proof instead of letting my ET take over, I may actually get through all of this after all. 🥰

  7. HG,

    Is there a difference between the behavior of a Dirty Empath vs Dirty Super Empath with regard to their spouse (so not towards the narcissist) during the entanglement as IPSS?
    If yes, can you explain a little?

    Thank you.

    1. Good question! It amazes me how many people stay in relationships/marriages when there is infedilty. Just goes to show what a complicated subject it is.

  8. I am a super empath and believed I was codependent also but after I read this I realized I am not codependant. I umasked/exposed her and I escaped from my greater narcissist 4 months ago. I have already healed myself about as much as I think I can as I am more focused on healing other survivors now. I may have some things to improve still and knowledge to gain. The only real issue I seem to have is financially. I believe I left a severe narcissistic injury when I left her not that it was my intention but I think I may have gone supernova more than once. It took 5 years to realize exactly what was going on after nearly losing my life and sanity several times. Right before I left she said “your going to kill me I know it” do you think that was projection or a true fear that I would kill her? I told her “I’m not going to kill you” in a calm manner as I meant it. I did have to fight those thoughts for 3 months after I discarded her but I am over that thought now. Also I’m very intrigued as to why you are putting this info out there? Are you just that high level of a narcissist you dont care to be exposed as one? Also where do you get your fuel? Is there a constant primary source in your life? I’m very fascinated by you. It just doesn’t make sense to me that you seem to behave so non narcissisticly when you admit you are. You remind me of a hannibal lecter type character but he was locked up and didnt need to wear a mask. Very long post I know, but there is so much I want to understand from you. I listened to every youtube video of yours in the beginning of my leaving her and it greatly improved my understanding of your kind.

    1. Also the email I recieved from angel assistance with the attachment to download wouldn’t save nor was I able to view it. Do you think I just need to update my Adobe acrobat or pdf viewer? Maybe i will attempt it with an actual computer not my phone. Thanks in advance.

    1. The SE will assert themselves in the face of such provocation. It will not amount to teaching a lesson because that would suggest learning from it and the majority of narcissists do not do so.

      1. HG, can a SE be born to normals/empaths – or does at least one of the parents have to be a narcissist?
        I understand that a genetic predisposition must be present and I would like to know if exposure to narcissism during the formative years is also necessary for the creation of a SE.
        Thank you (as ever).

        1. Hg, ” can a SE be born of normals/empaths – or does at least one of the parents have to be a narcissist?
          I understand that a genetic predisposition must be present and I would like to know if exposure to narcissism during the formative years is also necessary for the creation of a SE.”

          I am interested also. I asked somewhere but assumed the answer was buried in your blog so you didnt answer?

          Maybe you can point us in the right direction?

          1. A Super Empath can originate from normal or empath, but more usually the narcissistic dynamic will be present, yes.

  9. HG, another hypothetical question for you. If you had to align us to an empathic cadre based on your interactions with us via the blog and consult (not empath defector), would you be able to do that?

    1. *I’m not asking you to actually do it, just curious if you’d be able to make an educated guess on us just for your own informational purposes.

    2. For some yes, for others no, but the appropriate methodology is through the empath detector consultation.

      1. New boots!
        Yes HG, I know. I’m just trying to get in your head a bit 🤪 Wondering if, as an ultra greater, you can detect these things so easily.

    3. Have you had the test already, Joanne?

      I picked MB and FYC by reading a few of their comments on here then I asked to clarify if I was on the right track.

      1. Narc noob
        I have not. Maybe someday I will.

        I remember during a poll a lot of us identified with the super empath and someone was bothered by that (implying as if we were trying to flatter ourselves with this classification). I still would classify myself as SE. Or, quite possibly even a normal with a high degree of empathy.

        1. Hmmm I have no clue what I am , I must do a consult .
          I sometimes think a codependent but that doesn’t fully fit , I can be quite assertive when provoked and I’m not the soup kitchen type , and am very independent, but don’t think I have the SE traits I’m definitely not a geyser Empath either .
          A dirty empath maybe but I never cheated but did get involved with a married narc .
          Hyper sensitive, highly intuitive and introverted very emotionally in tune but slow to give my affection and time except to narcs for some reason.
          When I care I care deeply but it’s not easy to get me on board ,oh I don’t know need a consult to figure this out I think 🤔

          1. Kiki,
            I feel like I could have written your post about myself!! Exception being I am most definitely Infidelity type dirty empath.
            I don’t volunteer my time, nor do I care about other people’s problems much. I have a thick shell that’s really quite hard to get through (this has been commented on many times by romantic partners and friends). But the MRN has no problem getting in from day one. I’ve often though why that is, only thing I can come up with is the empath/narc attraction and him mirroring.
            HG says I’m a standard carrier.
            I’ve thought about taking empath detector though, more out of sheer curiosity. There was no protocol written when I consulted him about it. I worry I skewed things as I still had ET going at that time.

            Curious if those of us that identify with a lot of codep traits, but also a lot of SE traits are just plain old standard empaths.

        2. Joanne, take it. It’s fun to learn what you are, and shocking. I was 100% convinced I was a normal person with a compulsion to solve every problem in the world. It turned out to be I am a standard Carrier. I was kind of disappointed, like, who’s gonna design a cup that says “Carrier” and looks cool right? But then I kind of loved myself because I’m a trouble-solver, resilient, efficient AF, ergonomic!!! I’m automatic! I’m systematic! I’m hydromatic! I’m a Carrier Empath! ⚡️⚡️⚡️💥💥☄️☄️🏋🏻‍♀️🏋🏻‍♀️

          1. I just wanted to know if I was a narcissist or not. I think the jury may be back out on some days.

    1. I’m sure that it can happen. But it is not going to last very long. And it is probably more likely to be a dirty empath infidelity situation where the Lesser narc seduced an empath who was married to another narc and starving him/her for sex and affection. And also not all Lessers are ugly. They can be very attractive and some can even be wealthy and famous like some celebrities.

      1. Hello again MP, yes, good example. I know that LN can be attractive, I am mainly referring to their ignited fury and that of a SE to sit back and wait some before jumping into a relationship – I could have read the article incorrectly last time I read it, though.

        1. Hmm, I don’t think that a SE will put up with a Lesser’s ignited fury. I don’t think that their relationship will last very long after the golden period. But I can be wrong. 🤷‍♀️

          1. I’m pretty sure I’m a Super Empath with Magnet tendencies based on HG’s articles. I was with a Lesser narcissist for 9 years. I was very attracted to him. He is an upper lesser who is very handsome, a former Marine and now he has a Master’s degree. He attracts well on his own and he rarely considered me to be outshining him. We were very popular when we chose to be and we also isolated and played video games for 6 years. This isolation probably occurred after he was unable to successfully break me when we went to school together. It was intense triangulation combined with silent treatments. I simply made my own friends and ignored him back. So we played video games for six years after that. He was much better than me and could outsshine me easily. Until I found my place there as well and became competent and popular online. Lol….

            If I hadn’t known the Lesser since childhood. If he hadn’t been a Marine and earned my trust without having to work for it. If he hadn’t been the first man to make me cum. If he didn’t have logical explanations for his silence….I may not have stayed. But yes it is possible to have a Super Empath love a Lesser. We have a Lesser as the President of the United States even though he completely lacks control.

    2. I am sure Cadres come into play, such as Saviours and Caretakers would be instinctively attracted to Victims, and so forth.

    3. NN, yes I was. A while ago now but only as an SSIP. He was a somatic and 10/10 on every front. I knew for want of a better word he was an ‘asshole’, so I didn’t form any attachment to him or take him very seriously. He was just hot,hot,hot! I would defy anyone to not be physically attracted to him. I didn’t know what an N was back then. But found his little temper tantrums rather amusing. I realise now that it all ended because he was unable to control me.

      HG I realise ET overrides LT for us empaths most of the time. And in the above situation I won’t deny there wasn’t any ET at all. But do you think that where the E is significantly more intelligent than the N that it makes it easier to cut ties? Or is it more about schools? and of course position within the fuel matrix?

      1. No, intelligence is no defence. Nearly all of my romantic victims have been very intelligent and look where it got them. I am consulted by more intelligent people than unintelligent.

        1. Thanks yes I agree that intelligence is no defense. I just wondered whether it helped with lower/mid lessers

          1. I think it does, Alexissmith. And I second the description of your Lesser above, I would defy anyone to not be physically attracted to my narc.

          2. Oh god. He was way out of my league on the looks front and I knew that. But he would have cycles of being absolutely obsessed with me. Then nothing then total obsession again. Thank god I never took him seriously. I’d still say yes please even now though haha

          3. What!? Don’t say that, Alexissmith! Mine was not out of my league physically, and I definitely was out of his league mentally. Enough said. He was no way better than you, girl! ❤️

          4. Awww thanks SP!

            If I could look as good as the pic I sent to HG then I’d be doing alright x

          5. I visited my dentist last week and I showed her the picture you sent me. I asked,” Christine, can you help this poor afflicted soul with her dental distress, her mangled mouth and tombstone teeth? Might you bring sweet dental delight to that maw of mayhem, where toothpaste is a stranger and flossing is unheard of. Can you lead this plaque infested hellhole of cavities and decay to the white, shining hygiene of straightened incisors, polished molars and a dazzling smile? Is there a solution to ending this fullest of horrors?”

            She nodded and said “May I borrow your gun?”

          6. AS2016, We are going to have to see this horrific pic. It’s becoming infamous at narcsite. Time to replace the smoking nun! Ha Ha

          7. @MB I’ll give it some thought re the pic lol. I love the smoking nun, it shows I can be very good and very bad! What made you pick a unicorn?

          8. Alexis, I picked a unicorn because I love sparkly things and I am a fantasist. For me, it is a symbol of dreams coming true and happily ever afters. You know, sappy, empath stuff.

    4. Hi Narc noob,
      I have never been attracted to a Lesser. Their lack of self control is off-putting to me. An adult who cannot control their feelings and impulses is someone who do not strive for self-improvement (since reading HG I know now that no Narcs strive for that, but atleast Mids and Greaters are good enough liars to make us believe them in order to hook us).

      Empathic as we are I think many SE would avoid Lessers. We, or at least I, deem them unworthy of our attention and empathy. That would be my own narcissistic traits showing I guess.

      I agree that it sounds like an almost impossible match.

        1. Hi aapzonderstaart,
          Lessers I have identified as a waste of time my whole life not knowing exactly what they were. I have zero attraction for them, always had.

          Mids I recognize quite easily now I think. I have beed ensnared by several in the past. Greaters I am not sure but I think I would recognise and avoid, I am however quite nervous about encountering one. But overall my experience with greaters is very limited, so I dont know what would happen.

          My problem as a super empath is that many people are drawn to my presence, but mostly (only???) narcs are interested in relationships with me. Non-narcs wants to be my friend, be mentored, protected, trained, educated and entertained by me. But they have no interest in being my lover. Narcs on the other hand do. Really do. So I do get a lot of narc attention and it is intoxicating. I feel like a walking narc beacon sometimes.

          But I am quite resistant to this attention from narcissists now and I enjoy a fulfilling self-actualized solitary life. It keeps me from getting hooked. Without learning about narcisissm here I would be easy pickings for a mid-range again. A well planned out seduction would have me defenseless in the past. But now I am weaponized by HG.

          I hope it answered your question.

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