The Effect of No Contact on the Narcissist
You know that No Contact is the key to beating the narcissist, but how does it affect the narcissist?
This Logic Bulletin explains to you what happens when you impose your No Contact Regime and how you can expect the narcissist to respond.
It covers Lesser, Mid-Range and Greater Narcissists in fascinating detail.
How does the narcissist feel?
What happens if you tip-off the narcissist that you are leaving him or ending the relationship?
What happens to the narcissist if you end the relationship and say nothing?
How does the narcissist respond?
What do you need to look out for in terms of common errors which will prejudice your no contact regime and place you at risk?
What will the narcissist do by way of response, so you can ascertain how to avoid this?
The content of this Logic Bulletin will give you these answers and more so you can build your Logic Defences and understand what will happen when you impose no contact now or in the future.
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Although the XNarc is not “greater, “ I don’t think, I think UMR, he has considerable skill in this area of unleashing the preventative Hoover. As someone with 13 escape attempts, I already know I cannot stand up to this. This cannot be done in person, HG is right.
His examples of what we might hear are dead on.
The Narc not taking responsibility for pushing the person to the point of leaving is such a shame. They can’t see we deserve better. Of course it’s us that allow less than we deserve. It’s so hard to leave. That addiction is deeply rooted.
I forgot to mention in relation to disengaging and going back that not only will a narcissist keep note of the fact you had thought to leave and how they cant trust you but ive heard of many scenerios where they will try to beat you to the punch and line up someone to replace you meanwhile you think youre in the makeup honeymoon stage. Then they out of the blue discard you. Borderlines do this a lot too. They are so afraid of being dumped and abandoned they will make sure to leave first. Thats the danger in going back bc you can be blindsighted and abruptly disgarded. Ive had a few friends that this has happened to by their narc partners.
100%
This is carbon copy my narc although ive never seen the malice side. I cant imagine him being malicious but i have seen him be mean spirited in how hes provoked people and thru his covert abuse. I have tried to envision how hed be if it were ended and its hard to imagine him ever doing anything to lash out. That side ive never seen. During disengagements hes made sure to wait a bit before contacting and is never knee jerk in his responses or actions he thinks things thru but then again he knows ive never been serious about leaving.
With my narc future faking is more the build up of what we have and what would be lost. Ill never forget what he once said which was a piss off at the time but an eye opener to his manipulations. He said “you will be alone like you were you dont want that”. I replied “i can handle being alone i dont like being treated this way”. He was quiet and i think this threw him off bc he was trying to tap into my void the one which he had originally seen in me. I think for a moment he thought maybe he misjudged the extent of that weakness and i wasnt as reliant on having him in my life. A moment of uncertainty but of course over the years of disengagments he realises the pattern and is over confidant that ill always come back.
You’re so right about them playing the abandonment card. Mine does too. I don’t cave to that on the outside, despite what goes on inside of me.
He really goes overboard if I’m willing to walk out, but as you and HG say, they won’t forget. You will get punished and it will be horrible.
Big danger in staying, whether mental or physical
Would be great if there were a Get of Narc Ensnarement Free card available.
Did anyone else notice the use of the word peacock in this article?! Lol
I did FM1T. I’m still curious about HG being referred to as a rooster. Lol
Oh GH it wasn’t a rooster, it was a peacock and it was a remark NA used in a thread about HG. A group of us were corresponding about animals and I guess we got carried away, I actually forgot about HG until we heard ( he wrote) It’s like a bloody zoo in here! At which time NA came back with a “ re: It’s like a bloody zoo in here.” From the Peacock that runs this place! Lol. They were not her exact words but I believe you get the point. Hahaha 🙃it’s the best when NA gives it to him! It is always done in fun though, know disrespect intended! 🥰
How much fun FM1T,
I wish I could have seen that thread LOL. I could see HG as a rooster though. Our rooster was one of my favourite barnyard animals. He was definately my daughter’s favourite. She would pull him all over the place in her wagon. He was gorgeous and proud. The barnyard belonged to him. He watched over a large group of hens that belonged to him. He had favourite hen (IPPS), and the rest of the group (IPSSs). Sometimes we brought in a new hen and he would become infatuated and forget about favourite hen. But then when he became bored with new hen he would hoover back in favourite hen again. Sometimes we would even end up with a young rooster or two. He tolerated them as long as they followed his barnyard rules and understood the hens belonged to him. No offense HG…I loved my rooster!
I have been described as being cocky, so it makes sense.
GH,
At one time I had forgotten it was a peacock and thought it was a rooster! I think the rooster in the way he rules the roost makes a much better narcissist. 😉
Gypsy Heart
Here you go; enjoy!
HG Tudor says:
March 1, 2019 at 16:15
It’s like a bloody zoo in here.
WhoCares says:
March 1, 2019 at 16:17
Hahaha!
NarcAngel says:
March 1, 2019 at 16:25
Re: Zoo
Only natural with a peacock running the show.
HG Tudor says:
March 1, 2019 at 16:31
Pah! Get back to the chimps’ tea party you!
https://narcsite.com/2019/02/22/everpresence-2/
Thank you K,
I’ve heard you are the one who can find anything. Nice to see you in action.
FM1T,
I hope your surgery and recovery go well.
Thank you all who have been kind to me here.
My pleasure Gypsy Heart
Thank you, most of the time I can usually dig up something. The kindness here is wonderful.
HG i have a question. You wrote that people often mistake UMR for a Greater.
“Be afraid of men like me who will take notes, not the ones who lash out” – is it something that lower greater will say?
I am asking because i could be wrong classifying him as mid-range narc.
That is a comment more likely to be made by a Mid Range Narcissist.
Thanks
My guess is a Greater would just take the damn notes and not let on that he was doing so.
I understand your point lisk. He said that to me when we were just friends and when we were discussing my family. It was his kindda advice.
It was kinda his advice*/warning.