Exorcism
The narcissist may be physically gone but his or her influence remains and it hurts. Whether you have escaped the narcissist or you have been cruelly discarded, the period thereafter is difficult, worrying and painful.
Why can’t you move on?
Why do you keep thinking about them?
How can we exert such a hold over you for months afterwards?
Why can’t you get him or her out of your mind?
Why do you see them everywhere you look? Why does it feel like he or she is still buried deep in your heart?
.Most importantly of all, what can you do to get rid of this feeling?
This is the answer. Through the narcissist’s perspective you will understand why you have been infected, why it is so effective and how you can successfully exorcise the narcissist from your heart and soul
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Last night the UMR Somatic recruited his crazy friend to harass me about my diet.
His friend is very eccentric. I like him. He’s either a Narcissist or having a hypomanic episode.
He eats zero junk food and gets disgusted by unhealthy eating. He made my friend cry by telling her she’d get fat if she ate chocolate etc. He stopped me eating lollies once and gave me fruit instead.
The UMR Somatic got the crazy one to join him and they were both questioning me about my diet. They were commenting on my weight and how it has fluctuated over time. The UMR Somatic grabbed my stomach to check my weight. He was staring at me, and kept asking “when is the last time you ate KFC?” I kept refusing to tell him, so he said “it’s ok I’ll find out”. His friend laughed maniacally like the Joker, and said “you’re gonna check her bank account” and the UMR Somatic said “yes”.
I don’t care about my body, HG. It didn’t bother me at all. It was amusing. I just don’t know what to make of these behaviours.
ugh what a despicable man Whitney! I’d have made him a smoothie out of a donner kebab and told him it was a healthy protein drink!
Ooooooooo that’s wicked! Love it
Alexis—one of my first odd moments was my ex’s admonishment of me eating a handful of Godiva. It felt really bizarre because I was really in good shape and we had only met maybe three months prior—it was a really strange scenario. Generally though he never made comments related to appearance. Even when I was pregnant etc. I think I’d knock someone’s teeth out for commenting on me eating chocolates at this point. I don’t even eat much freaking chocolate. Once in awhile sure but ugh—Ridiculous!
You can never eat enough chocolate Lorelei. Not ever, ever,ever,ever,ever
Fuck me. If a guy ever grabbed my stomach and asked when was the last time I ate KFC, I’d squeeze a handful of his balls and tell him it appears he could do with a little more meat.
Haha NA and Alex that made me laugh! You are both awesome
Whitney, are you seeking advice when you you write “I just don’t know what to make of these behaviours”. What I mean is that there are explanations for these behaviours here at this site and from what I can gather, other readers have given sound advice on other threads when addressing similar comments from you.
For what it’s worth I’ll give you my opinion: These behaviours are about controlling you and they are unsubtle and blatant. These people are sadistic, arrogant and abhorrent. You are being controlled psychologically and there is also physical risk.
I cannot read what you write without experiencing mounting frustration, and even something akin to panic. I am also very angry and part of that is towards what comes across as your nonchalance as regards your own well-being.
Thanks for your concern Anne. It’s ok, HG is going to help with my thinking and protect me from harm. I’m scheduled to consult with him.
I was laughing when it was happening, especially when the crazy one was laughing maniacally. But the UMR Somatic wasn’t laughing, he was serious and intent about the KFC.
Whitney, I’m glad you’ve chosen to consult with H.G. as I understand he is the best, or I had better say he is the best. H.G. will give you tools that you can use to protect yourself from any more harm, especially psychological. When he tells you to GOSO I feel confident that you will..
Your comments re: UMR often ‘trigger’ me in ways that are not always clear. I want to say here that I own those reactions as mine. But because of this I will refrain from engaging with your comments for the time being. I don’t know if you need to read this, but I want to say that it is important that you continue commenting freely any time that you feel like it and to say whatever you need to say.
I don’t know you but despite anything you may feel to the contrary, I do know that you are a good, lovable person and that you matter, even if there was once a time when you were let down by those whom you needed. most.
Hi AnneB,
You nailed it. It’s about control. These kinds of behaviors used to mystify me until I have read HG’s works that emphasized the essence of why the narcissists behave which is fuel and control and sometimes residual benefits and trait acquisition too. All of the narcissists in my life were very controlling with food although it manifested in different ways which I think is due to their school and cadre. I love the Understanding Wounding bulletin since it differentiated the different school’s in terms of how they would handle wounding just like the way narcissistic traits and behaviors manifest differently on them.
Whitney I’m glad that it didn’t affect you. I am the same with my body, it isn’t important for me so if somebody picks on me about that it wouldn’t affect me.
I find it interesting about narcissists and food though. I guess that’s a red flag but it depends on how. For example a non narcissist can be controlling with their own diets but you would never see them make other people feel bad about theirs. I am also wondering how this ‘control of food’ manifests in the different schools and or cadres of narcissists. My mom, a Victim Lesser was controlling of food in terms of being suspicious that other people spat or have put poison or urine in her food or drinks. So she was very controlling that she had to see how the food was prepared and if a nice neighbor would give us something that they cooked she would throw the food away. My Elite MR sister was very controlling with the table manners and table setting. My MR stepdaughter is very controlling and highly opinionated about healthy eating and diet. She is into beach body shakes and she only eats one baked sweet potato for lunch. She makes fun of people who are not skinny and she and her sister even gave me a hard time for cooking lamb one Easter saying poor lambie the whole time and didn’t even try it. I just find it amusing like you said. 😊
Mommypino 😁 thanks for your reply!
It’s interesting to hear about the odd food behaviours of narcissists in your family.
I definitely need HGs bulletin about wounding. I can’t believe the UMR Somatic gets angry or wounded by me eating junkfood. I thought it was a joke at first, but he’s serious about it. I’m interested in his psychology but I’m not upset by this 😊
Hello Whitney,
I wrote an earlier reply but it hasn’t gone through. I hope that you enjoy the Wounding Bulletin as much as I do. I learned a lot from it and it simplified a lot of the things that confused me. It is my small way of saying thank you to you and appreciate you for the beautiful person that you are. 😘😘😘❤️
Almost there, though never read this one. Maybe these pages will take me all the way.
Go lisk!