You are a magnet. You attract our kind. You have done so at least once and you will continue to do so. Again and again. There is no hope for anything else. As an empath, super empath or co-dependent you radiate with the traits which draw us to you. Hitherto you had no awareness that this was the case. You would enter a room and be oblivious to the heads that turned your way as our kind detected your presence. You would have noticed that you were receiving the attention of people, but back then you had no knowledge of who was engaging with you or why that was the case. You have several sets of traits which appeal to us. These are the empathic traits, the class traits and the special traits. It is your empathic traits which stand out most of all.
These are evident in the way that you behave, the words you say, the gestures you use and the expressions that form on your face. The way your interact with people, the way you look about a room, the way you walk, the way you sit, the place you decide to sit and so many other things indicate to us your empathic nature. In the same way that everything we do is marked with the taint of our narcissism, everything that you do is stamped with the essence of your empathic traits.
When you walk into the hunting ground of our kind, you are identified promptly as exhibiting potential. It as if you give off a fuel signature, like some kind of scent which our kind smells and recognises as soon as you come near. You once did not see the Lesser as he leant against the bar and noticed you as soon as you entered the premises, his eyes fixed on you as he observed your entrance. The Mid-Ranger would look up from where was sat and find himself drawn to you, that unmistakable essence which you give off, being picked up and identified. Both Lesser and Mid-Range would not know why they wanted to engage with you save that they felt a compulsion to do so.
This need arises in the same way that a lion knows that it is hungry and therefore it must find some prey. The Lesser and the Mid-Ranger’s antennae twitch as you the empath walk through the bar. They are alerted to your presence and then they will watch and pick up on the other indicators which tell them what you are.
The Greater sees you and knows what you are. His lascivious grin indicative of the thoughts which are running through his mind as he begins to assess your suitability. You are signalling to him who you are, that you are empathic, that fuel is passing him by and an opportunity has presented itself.
Once upon a time you were oblivious. You walked through this den of narcissistic intent, unaware of the parasitic creatures that waited to climb down from their waiting perches so that they could engage with you, coil about you and draw you into their web with their silver-tongues and charm. You just thought they were being pleasant, polite and taking an interest. You had no idea how much danger you were in as you allowed your empathic traits to shine like a beacon. Each and every day you radiated these traits, issuing a sub-conscious “come and get me” to our kind. How good it felt to receive this attention. How pleasant it was to be courted in this manner.
As our kind picked up on your empathic scent and were drawn to you, they sought additional confirmations, assessing your class traits and hopefully special traits too, through a combination of instinct and design, dependent on which school of narcissist you had engaged with.
You do this as as easily as you inhale and exhale. Your traits are imprinted on you and they are indelible. They are part of your core and you cannot remove them. You cannot flick a switch and turn off these empathic traits. They are you. Imagine you will if some kind of glasses were created which allowed a physical representation of your empathic traits as hues of red light. If one donned those glasses and looked into this hunting ground as above, a bar perhaps, then one would see several things.
First there would be the normals who would have a slight red glow about them, indicating some empathic traits but limited in number and extent. There would be the dark and empty spaces which are where our kind lurk, the empathic traits completely devoid. Next one would see the dancing trails of scarlet and rose that signify the empath. The roaring flames of riotous red which blaze and indicate the presence of the super empath and then the supernova of bright red which is the signature of the co-dependent. As your gaze swept the room, one would see these differing hues and varying intensity, all indicative of the ever present empathic traits.
It is impossible for you to become incognito. You are unable to remove your empathic traits. You cannot switch them off and pass undetected. Accordingly, you will always stand out to our kind. You will always be identifiable, you will be seen and therefore if our kind is in the vicinity, whether physically proximate or through the accessibility of technology, we will be drawn to you. Like sharks which scent blood, like the hungry dog which smells meat, we pick you out and converge on you in anticipation of the fuel that will flow from you.
You will aways be a magnet for our kind. You have been created with empathic traits and you will always keep them. You will remain that beacon which we see and flock to. You will always attract us.
Of course you may learn to dampen down the manifestation of your empathic traits by altering some of your behaviours. Certain actions, words and gestures might be reduced, lessened and altered to reduce the extent of the empathic traits which you exhibit, but your traits always shine through and you cannot maintain this cloaking for long. It is contrary to who you are how you conduct yourself. Your empathic traits are so extensive that even when you have suffered the beasting at our hands and mouths, that when you have been drained, numbed and exhausted, the empathic traits will remain.
The empath will not shine with them as brightly and following the full horror of the devaluation and discard,t he empath will not function with such an obvious display of empathic traits because the brutality of the treatment will cause some diminution in function and display.
The super empath will continue to display these empathic traits because this person has the capacity to endure so much and then still have sufficient function to escape what has happened, once there is the eventual realisation as to what has happened. Once the super empath has had enough, they will seek their escape and their empathic traits continue to shine brightly.
The co-dependent, no matter how brow-beaten, how ground into the dirt he or she is, will continue to exhibit those empathic traits because the co-dependent would rather give you his or her last breath rather than take it for themselves. They continue to give, even when there seems there is nothing more that can be taken and thus their empathic traits remain on display.
This is why it is so often the case that you are almost passed from one of our kind to another. You are discarded but your empathic traits remain evident and thus another of our kind flocks to you, ready to gorge on the fuel which is generated by your empathic traits. Even if you escape, you continue to signal your suitability to us. You are unable to do anything other than stand out in this way.
It is only when you have gained the insight and understanding into knowing who it is that you keep attracting and why, that you finally learn what to watch out for. You cannot change what you are, indeed, why should you? What you can alter is your ability to identify us when we make that bee-line for you. As you radiate empathic traits, we also exhibit the narcissistic traits which once understood and once recognised in the behaviour of the everyday, mean you finally see and take notice of the red flags, flashing lights and blaring klaxons which herald this danger.
You will always be destined to be a magnet for us. That will never change. We will flock to you, be attracted to you and seek you out, our instincts seeking that scent of the empath which tells us that our needs will be met and fuel will be provided.
You will draw our interest and attention because the empathic traits flow from you. You will, once you gain the knowledge and understanding, know who it is who has joined you at the bar and flashed you that winning smile and then you can the seize the power.
8 thoughts on “Narc Magnet”
Should we start to haunt instead of being sitting targets?!😅
HG, this is now added to my list of favourite articles. It was so good to read it and totally understand what I read.
It certainly will be very interesting when it comes to going out in public places in the future. Very interesting. The beauty of it all? My knowledge about narcissism and my observation skills can be used to ‘spot the narcissist’, yet keep myself ‘safe’ from becoming ‘ensnared’. I can either act all ‘graceful’ or be ‘crass’ – depends on the social environment. Having said that, I never go into public places on my own unless I had made arrangements to meet a friend there.
With the impending restrictions of the Lockdown in the UK being lifted, this is a good time for educated empaths to recall and apply HG’s work that they have learned when leaving the ‘sanctuary’ of their homes.
Bearing in mind, not all narcissists can ‘instinctively’ sense the vulnerability of an empath who was subject to abuse by narcissists in the past, potentially those who also experienced severe traumas (totally unrelated to narcissism).
We discussed the merits and timing of lockdown before as being to our advantage. I think once ET is at a low level, we get on and live our lives. Previous ensnarements occurred because we were entirely unaware. Now we aren’t. Yes narcissists will be drawn to us but so are normals and other empaths. I’ve never been afraid of any one or anything ( other than wasps, but wasps are just plain evil) and I certainly don’t intend to start being afraid now. Use ‘The Knowledge’ Asp! (Like ‘The Force’ just fewer light sabers and less raising of spaceships from swamps.) Did I mention the Star Wars film with the Ewoks was the best Star Wars film? I think I did.
Also, before lockdown lifts, you have to watch Behind Her Eyes on Netflix! It’s brilliant. Spot the narc!
HG, Excellent article. Thank you.
HG, I am literally chomping at the bit here. Waiting on your commentary from the Royal Interview.
I absolutely loved this when I listened to it on You Tube. I don’t recall having read it before. Must have missed it. I love it because it’s visual, I visualise everything. I have imagined similar scenes in a similar way myself, the empathic traits surrounding the empath like light, narcs slowly gravitating towards the warm glow of the empath.
Don’t recall it ever happening to me though!
I am what I am and so far for me it took me maximum 2 years, as shelf-appliance or employee, to escape. I know I will be targeted again and again and again. We all will! That´s the downside of what we are. My shields are self-confidence and knowledge. All I can do is get rid of my ACON-issues 😉 and build up a strong sense of self-worth. I won´t hide, I will continue my activities because they are important to me. But now I´m aware. I have knowledge and I´m working hard on my ACON-problems 😉 so that I can GOSO as soon as possible when a “new friend” shows up and love bombs me.
I was wondering why I hadn’t seen this before, difficult to read, except for that little upswing right at the end. But, informative and important info to know nonetheless.
The beginning of this made me feel nauseous. Because it was absolutely true. Like watching a national geographic film where the gazelle or wildebeest is stalked and then set upon by a lion. You watch because it’s nature at its most basic but when the one culled from the herd is *you*, it’s nauseating.
And seeing it that way…edifying.