Found In Translation



The way that our kind speaks is a language all of its own. Narcspeak appears at first to be a normal way of speaking, with the inferences, interpretations and connotations that one would ordinarily expect when hearing phrases such as ‘I love you’ and ‘I am sorry’. You will not grasp that there is a different meaning to much of what we say to you, at least not until it is too late. Once you have mastered Narcspeak however it becomes readily apparent what is actually being conveyed to you. Understand this form of double speak from us is a useful skill to achieve. Not only will it bring clarity to what has been said to you in the past and what was really meant, it will assist in understanding how to deal with the narcissist in your life going forward, if you have occasion to interact with him or her again.

Narcspeak arises because we operate in a different reality to you. We perceive the facts differently and therefore there will be an alternative interpretation attached to what we say. We know the context of what we are saying, so that it apparently fits with the situation and the discussion, but that is purely as a consequence of our ability to mimic and to convey what should be said. We know what we actually mean when we say these things. We mean something else.

This allows us to evade any culpability at a later juncture if you try to tell us that we said something. We may deny that we said it and if we do admit it, our admission is only ever in the context of what we intend it to mean. We use these words and phrases as a cloak to what we are actually saying to you and the sooner you begin to understand what we are really telling you, the sooner you will achieve a clarity of understanding which will remove the fog of confusion and enable you to decide how best to respond.

By way of example here are a number of phrases which you will always hear with our kind and beneath is what is really being said to you.

I don’t think that it suits you

You look absolutely ridiculous


I didn’t look at anyone else the whole time I was out.

I kissed several people. I have no idea who they were.


You must believe me.

I am telling you a lie.


What are you thinking?

I am not going to tell you anything until I have worked you out first so I know what will be the right things to say to you.


Don’t you trust me?

I find your insecurities both irritating and wonderful. I am annoyed that you think you can exert control over me. I am pleased that you are anxious and I make you that way.


I promise.

I’m just going to tell you what you want to hear.


We will always be together.

You belong to me. I will pick you up and put you down as I see fit.


I cannot stop thinking about you.

You and her. Oh and her. Her as well.


You don’t understand me.

Everything I have told you is a lie so it is little wonder that you do not.


I like you.

You do what I want.


I need some time to myself.

I am spending the night with your best friend.


We are just friends.

We have slept together and we will again.


I am so confused.

I want someone else now.



We have nothing in common.

We never had, I just made it look that way.


You will always be special to me, no matter what happens.

Your fuel is well worth coming back for and that is why I have come back.


It was nothing serious.

Yes, we had sex.


I didn’t do it.

Oh yes I did.


I’d like to see you again.

You have more fuel to give me.


Let’s stay friends.

I want to establish a reason that seems credible to you for returning and hurting you.


I don’t really remember.

I know only too well, not that I am going to admit it to you.



I am broken.

I know saying this will sound good and I am feeling somewhat desperate at the moment to keep hold of you.


She meant nothing to me.

Her fuel meant everything to me. More than what yours means to me.


I must have been drunk.

I was drunk. I often am. I know what I did though because I wanted it to happen.


I am just speaking my mind.

You had better fucking listen to me.


I am not starting an argument here.

It’s fuel time


I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better.

I haven’t a clue and I don’t care.


I will change.

You are a fool.


I want to be a better person.

You are a bigger fool than I first thought.


You always make it all about you.

It should be all about me.


I’ve no idea who she is.

I have slept with her at least a half a dozen times.


I don’t recognise that number.

I do. Why is she calling me when I told her not to?

I’m not with anybody.

I am but that is not standing in the way tonight.


It is all rather complicated.

It is bullshit.


I didn’t mean for that to happen.

Oh yes I did and I will do it again.



You made me do it.

I am too weak to accept responsibility.


You don’t have to if you don’t want to.



I don’t know who I am sometimes.

That sounds deep. She will love that.


I love you.

I expect you to do what I want.

I love your fuel.



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11 thoughts on “Found In Translation

  1. Joa says:

    Ooh yeah! Thank you HG. I certainly read better than I used to.

    I will have to allow emotions for some time to be true. I will consciously have to throw myself into a whirlwind of confusion.

    But your reader has been coded by me and will be pulled out frequently. Thank you 🙂

  2. jasmin says:

    “Can’t you do anything alone, you always cling to me”
    “Why you don’t talk to me anymore?”
    “If I had been unfaithful I would have thrown myself from a balcony”

  3. leelasfuelstinks says:

    And here´s the (Super)Empaths speak:

    “I´m sorry, I totally forgot”
    No, I haven´t. I just didn´t feel like doing it.

    “I will do it tomorrow.”
    Never! And I hope you will have forgotten about it tomorrow. 😇

    “Aw really? Tell me more about it”
    I don´t give a shit, but I wanna be polite.

    “Oops, you wanted me to do [this]? Oh, I thought I should do [that]”
    I didn´t want to do what you want and need an excuse for it.

    “No, I wasn´t annoyed at all, I was just thinking about what you said. That was a really interesting point!”
    Yes I was totally annoyed. And thanks goodness, you have no empathy, so I can lie my way out. 😇

    1. Asp Emp says:

      Leela, this is very well worded. I loved it. Had me laughing. The ‘attitood’ of the Super Empaths…..rolling with it! LOL.

    2. Leigh says:

      😂🤣😂🤣 OMG Leela! I love it!!!

  4. leelasfuelstinks says:

    “You´re my best friend” (MMRA)
    You´re a great source of fuel!

    “Just trust me and everything will be fine” (MMRA)
    Just believe my lies and shut the fuck up!

    “Listen to me and you will do fine” (UMR)
    Just do what I want.

    “We as your parents know what´s good for you” (UMR)
    Just do what I want, I don´t give a shit what´s really good for you.

    “You´re THE One for me” (ULA)
    What a great fuel source you are. You shall become my IPPS.

    “I would never do that, that´s morally wrong” (MMRA)
    I don´t do it because it servers me no purpose, but I know what you Empaths want to hear.

  5. vandenboss says:

    Their interpretations can be very shitty and are a red flag! When i’m not ignoring…then shitty interpretations are in my arsenal too.

  6. Asp Emp says:


    Oh, yes. It is so fascinating that I am able to ‘scent’ a narcissist, over the phone! It is how they word sentences and what they say. A normal or an empath would not have said as such.

    LOL. The other day, I ‘followed up my own enquiries’……I wanted to put a face to the name, so to speak. Then I actually ‘double-checked’ on a point that they had made over the phone to me. Ah, there it was, the “erm, no, it was not that….erm, it was, erm….”. It seems to me that there was a rather prolonged half operating and half malfunctioning robot that had been electrocuted when in fact it runs on batteries! Because there was absolutely NO apologies at all, there was blame-shifting, deflecting, denial……I am in no doubt with what I saw for myself.

    If it is a service that has had no break, nor change over a period of years and then someone is “pointing” it out, I am going to respond. Accordingly. And I did. I could have easily dropped a ‘narc bomb’ of my own but didn’t. I am a nice gal, when I choose to be 😉

    HG, you are absolutely right, “Scientia Potentia Est”.

  7. A Victor says:

    “Don’t you trust me?”
    “I am not starting an argument here.”
    “I love you.”

    Standard fare that worked, for his goals, every time.

    1. leelasfuelstinks says:

      “Don´t you trust me?”
      Don´t you believe my lies? You´d better fucking do!

      “I am not starting an argument here”
      Yes I do! Rock n´ Roll!

      “I love you”
      I love your fuel.

      1. A Victor says:

        Yeah, he’s an ass. My mom too.

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