Objectification:If The Narcissist Was Honest

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  1. Savoy Truffle says:

    It’s funny – even in better times, before I had any idea what my ex really was, I had moments where I was helping him and I felt like I was just one of his tools. I’m starting to wonder if a narcissist sees himself as the *only* person in existence, with everyone else in the world as an appliance.

  2. leelasfuelstinks says:

    A couple of weeks ago: This object called “Leela” who is the “daughter” dared to get up one hour later than usual! Object Leela was on vacation, on a short visit and she really dared to get up late! Patri Narc couldn´t continue his cooking because mom had prepared the table for Leela and her husband. There was not enough space for Patri Narc to cut the onions! And this object doesn´t get up when it´s supposed to!! 😱🤪 So, the Upper Mid Ranger decided to sit and sulk. Mom was already desperate and told me to please “cheer up your dad”. 😣 Okay, so, grabbed my cup of coffee sat next to Patri Narc and “apologized” for getting up later than I was supposed to (false apology). Patri Narc explained that he was irritated because he couldn´t cut the onions because of me. I knew I have to submit to his control! I gave a false apology and blamed it on the weather. What a crime getting up one hour later than I´m supposed to! 🤪😂

    1. Wendy says:

      LFS, wow, unbelievable! How dare you sleep in an hour while visiting?!

      This for some reason reminds me of my ex who got so bent out of shape when I cut the potatoes the wrong size! You just can’t make this stuff up! 😂

      Thanks for sharing and I hope you enjoyed yourself in some way regardless of patri Narc.

      😊

      1. Alexissmith2016 says:

        Hahahah Wendy, cutting potatoes the right size is very important. My husband taught me that too

        1. leelasfuelstinks says:

          And my Patri Narc too! 😂😂🤪🤪

          1. Wendy says:

            😂😂

          2. Sweetest Perfection says:

            Next time: “Julienne? Macedoine? Chiffonade? Brunoise? Please, be more specific (asshole).”

          3. leelasfuelstinks says:

            He likes them cut in VERY thin slices. I cannot cut them so thin and I do not like it that way.

        2. Wendy says:

          AS2016, yes I had no idea I had been doing it all wrong after 2 marriages, two children, and five grandchildren! So thankful the ex narc got me up to speed on this! 😂

      2. leelasfuelstinks says:

        Of course! I can take it easy, because I KNOW what my “dad” is. He´s by the way the same as your ex! You have to cut the onions and potatoes the way HE wants it! So, Patri Narc never ever lets me help with cooking because I do not cut the veggies exactly the way HE wants them! 😂🤪 Every time I want a slice of bacon or meat or cheese, whatsoever, I have to ask first and Patri Narc cuts it for me, because it should be cut exactly the way he wants it otherwise his fury gets ignited. 🤪🤪

        1. Wendy says:

          LFS, I intentionally cut my potatoes in all different sizes and shapes when I make a potato dish! Ah, the freedom! 😂

          1. Joa says:

            Wendy, I do not know what is with these potatoes, but my mother’s current partner (for over 20 years, certainly 100% low-grade narcissus), for several months tormented my sister and me to peel potatoes into “thin skins” and that we were wasting a lot of potatoes (yes, I peeled their potatoes and did a lot of other things, when I was going to their house as a guest!).

            So in the end, I cut it potatoes almost into squares and threw the pot in front of his nose. I screamed that he would either eat it or peel it himself!

            He left the house around the clock, and my stupid mother was crazy as always that something had happened to him and that it was because of me 😀

            Circus and cabaret. This is my family 😀

          2. Asp Emp says:

            Ah, Joa, that was such a tonic to read “I screamed that he would either eat it or peel it himself!” – hilarious. I would suggest that it needn’t be restricted to potatoes either (LOL).

          3. Joa says:

            Anyway, what do you know about potatoes? I come from the land of the “flowering potato”, so narcissists from here are specialists in the field of 🙂

            PS Leela, your laziness cries out to heaven for vengeance 😀

          4. leelasfuelstinks says:

            Yes yes, boooooo! Shame on me! 🤣😂

          5. Joa says:

            I smiled. You reminded me of my daughter right now 🙂

            When my mother starts her speeches, we do not allow her to speak, we only extend our index finger towards each other and say in a happy, unanimous chorus: “It’s your fault” 🙂

            My mom hates it.

            Oh well. I have to protect my daughter.

          6. leelasfuelstinks says:

            😂😂😂 That´s a good one! I use to give false apologies and say “Oh well, sorry dad, my fault” and think “BULLSHIT”

          7. leelasfuelstinks says:

            I have a kitchen machine for that 😂😁

        2. Wendy says:

          Well ladies, judging from the potato stories from us this is certainly a thing with narcs. 😂I think we should all make this a question we ask when we meet someone new.

          Something like this: “ I was just curious, so how do you like your potatoes and do you think they should be a certain size and dimension before cooking?” Or “ So, what’s your favorite potato dish and what’s your philosophy when preparing them?”

          “Potato, potahto? we might need to call the whole thing off!!” 😂😂

  3. alexissmith2016 says:

    Great article! Slightly off topic. If they can recognise physical attractiveness in others why are they unable to see they’re not necessarily attractive themselves? I understand their narcissism prevents this but sometimes it’s hard to get my head around that.

    E.g. one N possibly L/MMRN, constantly tells me and others that he is ‘Fit as Fuck’. He has magnetism when he wants which definitely gives him appeal but judging him on physical attractiveness alone I’d rate him about 5/10.

    HG, does he genuinely believe he is ‘Fit as Fuck’ or does he just say this in an attempt to convince himself and others?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      He believes it.

      1. alexissmith2016 says:

        Damn! I hate that!

        Thank you though

    2. Witch says:

      @Alexis
      Some narcs use their “unattractiveness” as a pity play.
      My narc ex would occasionally mention that he’s putting on weight “which he was” as a pity play… but if I had told him he needs to stop ordering 2 burgers with his meal at McDonald’s he would have thrown a fit.
      He would also try to make me less attractive by telling me he prefers me with no makeup, that I would look good completely bald, that I look too sexy to leave the house, that I’m dressing like I’m single.

      I can also think of the “feminist social justice warriors” who say they are obese because they are oppressed 😂 – most definitely narcs

      So some narcs recognise less than perfect things about themselves but use it to garner sympathy or to be provocative and garner negative fuel

      1. A Victor says:

        @Witch, yes, my mother became obese when I was a young child, it serves to keep my dad’s advances at bay, she blamed it on us kids because it was due to her pregnancies with us that she gained the weight, she obtained fuel from those who sympathized with her struggle to lose it etc. In all the years I have known her, she has not once made a genuine, ongoing attempt to lose the weight, it is far too useful to her. And now that she’s old, it continues to serve her, she needs a cane or a walker to get around, she has other ill health effects from it that she shares freely with all who will listen, accepting their pity but never accepting personal responsibility for the choices she had made that have had this effect on her. It is sickening to watch.

        1. Alexissmith2016 says:

          It just makes no sense to me why anyone would seek pleasure in pity from others?

          I saw an aunt I hadn’t seen for many years until recently. We used to stay with them as children. I loved my uncle (her husband) dearly, but she was a witch!

          I always knew she wasn’t nice but didn’t know why. But seeing her at my uncles funeral was just awful. She had aged wss using a stick which I don’t believe she needed. Hobbling and completely trying to force out some tears to garner attention. She never loved him I always knew that but didn’t understand why.

          I literally cannot bring myself to offer even fake comfort to someone who has been so awful. Especially when my uncle was such a beautifully kind person.

          1. A Victor says:

            It’s the attention, in the form of pity, anger, joy, whatever. I think with my mom, she found pity an easy way to get attention, she is a Victim narcissist.

            Yeah, I can’t comfort her, she knows I won’t so doesn’t try with me. I will do things for her when she asks in a straightforward manner and I can do it on my time frame. If I didn’t hold to those requirements, she’d be playing many more games than she already does, and have me running for her all the time. She has taken to smearing me as much as possible and turning her tv and music up loud so I either have to hear it or ask her to turn it down, both of which give her fuel, her two most recent additions to her arsenal. It’s so annoying but at least I don’t have to interact with her much.

      2. jasmin says:

        Yes,

        -Have I gained weight?

        Trap!! You don’t know what to answer because if you tell the truth that’s hurtful and if you lie, you end up feeling bad for no being honest..

        You go with the lie:
        -No, I don’t think so.
        -Now you’re lying.. (FEEL Guilty!!)

        You go with the truth:
        – Yes, you have gained a little.
        – How kind of you! , said with sarcasm (FEEL Guilty!!)

        I have never in my life asked anybody if I have gained weight. Why would I? I live in my body every day and I know perfectly well if I have gained weight or not! I also know that I would put someone else in a difficult position by asking that question, so I don’t!

        Daddy knows also..

        After having that figured out:

        The truth:
        -Yes, you have gained weight.
        – How kind of you!
        – If you can’t take an honest answer, don’t ask! (No sense of guilt)

        🤗🤗

  4. Rebecca says:

    HG,

    I know some managers who treat their workers like appliances and every time the outcome is the same. The worker gets tired of being treated like an unfeeling object and they leave, then the manager has to find new workers,go through training the new ones and hope they stay. The thing with a narcissist is they don’t care if the new ones stay or not because they never really get attached. The IPPS is the one they’ll hold on to, but that’s only until they find a new IPPS, when the old one starts malfunctioning….didn’t get the warranty with it, I guess…. I understand this more clearly now, it makes sense to me. I don’t like it,nonetheless, it is what it is. Matter of fact and to the point, doesn’t matter if like it or not, doesn’t change it. Logical thinking at its best.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Correct.

    2. Violetta says:

      My job last year to a T. The Mid-range director hires Lessers or people who are barely a cut above Lessers, prefers people with low-to-no credentials so she can pay them rock bottom (I only got my job because there was a pandemic, and applicants were limited), treats them like factory workers, complete with clocking in and out on a computer when they arrive, leave, and every time they hit a bathroom or go on brunch–tough if there were employees logging in/out in front of you; just shorten your break–and then wonders why a) they grudge everything they have to.do above the bare minimum for the job; b) anyone who actually tries to go above and beyond that, essentially doing what’s in the brochures and the trainings, will be hounded out by the others or burn out on their own: either way, constant replacements, and people rage-quitting in the middle of a shift.

      Sadly, I’m describing a day care center.

      1. Wendy says:

        Violetta, I’m sorry you had to work in that environment but I am more sorry for the poor children who were being cared for by unqualified and uncaring staff!!

        This happens in nursing also. Nursing assistants are paid bare minimum for one of the toughest jobs but one of the most important jobs. The good ones get burned out trying to cover the work the uncaring slackers don’t do and they end up quitting. The turn over rate is incredible leaving the patients at risk!

        Most upper management could care less about the nursing staff, work environment, or the patients. Only about the almighty dollar. There are quite a few narcissists I’ve come to find out in the nursing/medical field. It’s disgusting.

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