Chaos, Chaos Everywhere!


One of the defining features of our behaviour is the association with chaos. Our arrival into somebody’s life is described as a whirlwind. We are regarded as tempestuous, a tornado and a flailing dervish. People describe how we leave a trail of destruction behind us.

Reference is made to the drama and the rollercoaster ride that people experience when they become sucked into our sphere of influence. The honest amongst them admit that at the time they found this intoxicating, the excitement of wondering what was going to happen next, the thrill of the unpredictable and the allure of the heightened activity that surrounds us.

Others bemoan the mayhem that occurs, the random behaviour and the lack of certainty, never mind from one day to the next, but hour to hour. People conclude that we are creatures of chaos. That conclusion is wrong.

We are ordered and methodical in everything that we do – at least, that is accurate with regard to the regulation of the narcissism and it asserts control. There is order within but chaos without. Our narcissism is ordered, it focuses on the moment. It is methodical and incessant in its application as a self-defence mechanism.

The narcissism ascertains on a daily basis our need for fuel. It will establish which sources will provide that fuel and how this will be achieved. It will regulate our network of supply like a technician overseeing the electricity grid of a country. Where there is a risk of disruption to that supply it seeks to organise a contingency. The more evolved the narcissist the greater the availability and that contingency and the sooner it can be utilised.

Should we apply our energies to solving the disruption or should we replace it as quickly as possible? Our narcissism monitors and observes the world around us to ensure that our lifeblood is supplied effectively and efficiently. We identify our fresh targets and then our narcissism will assiduously plan how that person will be seduced.

We gather intelligence about that individual, what they like and dislike, who they socialise with, how strong their family connections are as we build up a dossier all about them. There is no random selection of our targets. We cannot leave such important matters to chance.

For the more evolved of our kind, we must undertake keen preparatory work so that when we strike we succeed and our target is ensnared. Once that person has been lured into our grasp we then structure our treatment of him or her. How might we best extract the juiciest fuel from them during the golden period? Where else should we be obtaining fuel from during this time? What threats exist to affecting or interrupting the supply of fuel from this appliance? These thoughts and many others filter through our minds although for most of our kind, this all occurs in the unconscious.

You may think that we suddenly flip from pleasant to nasty. Yes, I will admit that that is the appearance we give when we engage such a volte face. The reality is that such a change has been carefully considered and orchestrated to achieve the maximum impact where the Greater of our kind functions.

The apparent sudden shift from calm to volcanic eruption has been calculated to bring about the assertion of our superiority, control and the provision of fuel. Our rage will spiral out of control but the unleashing of that rage was a considered act. It is not the haphazard heated fury that sprays from the Lesser or the passive aggressive Cold Fury that leaks from the Mid Range Narcissist.

Once the spark has ignited the flames it however there may be no telling how hot the flames will burn and for how long, but we decided to create the spark. Each word and gesture has been considered and reflected upon in order to ascertain how effective it will be in furthering our aims. We plan an onslaught of affection which appears like a sudden storm, yet we planned this dizzying and disorientating display. The sudden appearance of silent treatment and its duration has all been worked out beforehand.

The difference is that there is some form of planning about everything we do before  the chaos is unleashed. For most of our kind, this planning is done unconsciously and it may only be very short in nature, but it is there although the narcissist will not be consciously aware of it. The Lesser´s narcissism calculates the response on his behalf in an instant and deploys one of a small portfolio of manipulations. The chaos is designed in the unconscious, by the narcissism and is quick, fierce and brutal. The Lesser´s chaos is there for control, a blunt instrument and he cannot even ascertain what made him unleash it.

The Mid Ranger´s narcissism will function with increased calculation, yet once again it is unconscious and the Mid Range does not sit and plot. The chaos is there but lack the brutality but is rather of the subtle, disorientating kind. Chaos reigns through the confusion and bewilderment that is created. The Mid Ranger understands that the outcome is for a reason separate from the real reason that the narcissism has acted in the way that it has. The chaos was created for control, the Mid Range is allowed to believe that your actions caused him to react as he did.

For the Greater, should the deep-seated malice be called upon, then the effect of our careful scheming is the oxymoron of a contrived, carefully controlled chaos – the chaos is yours.

The outcome of our love bombing is a torrent of whirling and tumbling affection. Our campaigns of mistreatment seem to burst out of nowhere, assailing you from random directions like staccato machine gun fire. We lift you up, spin you around, turn you upside down and shake you all about.

It is a chaotic process but it is the outcome that contains the chaos as we unleash it from within.

As Friedrich Nietzsche put it, “One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star.”

13 thoughts on “Chaos, Chaos Everywhere!

  1. Joa says:

    N2 is the master of chaos. Of all N. I know, he was the most powerful and varied. Most surprisingly and unexpectedly.

    I like chaos.
    I like order.

    Too much order bores me.
    Too much chaos makes me tired.

    I have to jump from one to the other.

  2. lickemtomorrow says:

    I enjoyed reading the other comments on this thread and had to look up the quote being used. After I did that I found some interesting commentary by way of Nietzche’s meaning.

    It was along the lines of social convention and policing of morals being detrimental to the individual, sapping out their ‘beautiful’ inner chaos and leaving them slaves to the ‘hive mind’.

    This keeps them from reaching their true potential and achieving the status of ‘Ubermensch” or ‘Superman’. Ubermensch are amoral characters and act neither to be good, nor care to be called
    ‘bad’. In place of that they pursue their own calling to reach the highest state of enlightenment, thus rising above the masses.

    The Ubermensch is therefore a force of chaos, transcending binary moral and social structures, existing in their own superior reality. In this sense they are like a ‘dancing star’ as one shining brightly to potentially go down in history as greatness rather than as one of the mediocre masses.

    In order to remain in control, the narcissist must create chaos. This provides him with the ability to rise above it as the orchestrator and eventual overseer of what he has created. Control is what makes this ‘dancing star’ more brilliant than the rest. Chaos gives birth to control.

    1. A Victor says:

      Exactly. And I’ll take the (narcissist’s opinion) mediocre over the chaos induced “brilliance” any day at this point! I didn’t ask for that to begin with, it was thrust upon me.

      1. lickemtomorrow says:

        It just occurred to me when I reread my comment that in “Get Smart” we had “Control” – the good guys – and “Chaos” – the bad guys.

        Yes, good point about the “narcissist’s opinion” that chaos is preferable to order, order being deemed the antithesis to their brilliance.

        It was definitely thrust upon us.

        1. A Victor says:

          LET, that is interesting, about “Get Smart”!

          I love my order and contentment. 🤗

          1. lickemtomorrow says:

            AV, I think the narcissist is the inversion of everything we desire.

            Empath: give me order and contentment.

            Narc: give me chaos and discontent/misery.

            I think during this discussion it’s dawned on me that narcissists use chaos as a method of control. Who would have thunk it? The more chaos they can create, the more control they can have. The reason being the narcissist has designed the chaos in the first place. We are caught off guard and wrong footed so we find ourselves off balance. How convenient is that for the narcissist’s purposes? How much easier are we to manipulate when we can see the forest for the trees? I’d say very!

            I’d say we need an Agent Maxwell Smart and Agent 99 to help sort this lot out 😉

          2. A Victor says:

            Yes, LET, it’s the shifting sands dynamic for sure, among others. If they can keep us off balance, they’re in control. During the love bombing we see it with the time they keep us busy, the constant contact etc, with us never havinga minute to think about anything. It is very frustrating.

          3. lickemtomorrow says:

            Yes, the love bombing is all about overwhelming us so that we get spun around with all the excitement and breathless at their seduction. We have no time to think, no time separate to them, and everything becomes about them as they begin spinning us in their spider’s web. It’s another way of implementing control, but it’s so marvellous that we don’t dare question it. Or, at least, we didn’t.

  3. Asp Emp says:

    “What is Nietzsche’s main philosophy?
    As an esoteric moralist, Nietzsche aims at freeing higher human beings from their false consciousness about morality (their false belief that this morality is good for them), not at a transformation of society at large” (

    “As Friedrich Nietzsche put it, “One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star.””

    Absolutely. Let’s ‘translate’ that. From the perception of the way it was worded to one that a layperson may understand it…….

    An empath ACON finds their way to HG’s work, KTN with ‘chaos’ within them. They learn, read to understand HG’s work, apply his work. Educate their minds and emotions to think and feel differently about their ‘chaos’ (re-programming the ET / LT). Some empath ACONs do eventually ‘exchange’ their ‘inner’ chaos for a renewed and improved mental / emotional and, sometimes, physical health = some dancing stars are born = empowered with knowledge and weaponised with wisdom empaths.

    I’d rather be the ‘dancing star’ that I am now compared to having the misunderstood chaos that I never should have been ‘stamped’ with.

  4. A Victor says:

    Then I will live my life happily without a dancing star.

  5. Asp Emp says:

    I read both these threads and there are some very interesting comments. It was good to read them. Thank you for posting these, HG.

  6. Truthseeker6157 says:

    “One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star.”

    Studies indicate that artistic types often have ‘disordered’ personalities. If an individual is disordered then they are less likely to be confined by rules, structures or generally accepted norms. Essentially they are chaotic. If an individual is free to explore thoughts, concepts, styles, patterns without the usual boundaries, it makes sense that they could also create unusual works of beauty. Harnessing the chaos and creating something from it.

    It’s interesting though that within the chaos there is also an ability to focus. A little like standing in the eye of a storm, it’s silent, calm, there is a hyper focus, yet all around there is chaos and destruction.

    Paul Ekman at the University of California Berkeley, conducted a study and tested a Tibetan monk who was a high practitioner of mindfulness. He brought the monk to the lab, wired him up to all kinds of monitors measuring heart activity, brain activity, sweat production, muscle movements etc. He informed the monk that at some point in the next five minutes he would hear an explosion. The instruction was that the monk must not react. He must stifle the startle reflex so that it wouldn’t be picked up on any of the monitors. The explosion was similar to a gunshot centimetres from your ear. The loudest sound that could be tolerated by the human ear.

    The monk was using a technique called open presence meditation, he wasn’t actively trying to control the startle reflex but instead the noise would seem natural, he’d be aware of it but it would seem distant and unobtrusive. The explosion went off, the monk did absolutely nothing, entirely still, the monitors essentially just showed a flatline. Extreme focus and control had removed the startle reflex.

    If the narcissist focuses on the pursuit of fuel and control and operates within the moment, it’s kind of understandable that he will be largely unaffected by the chaos surrounding him. Particularly if he is the originator of the chaos.

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