How To Actually Frighten a Narcissist

I understand my kind, as I one of them, although I am a narcissistic psychopath, so my outlook is somewhat different from your pure narcissist. Nevertheless, there are plenty of them in my family, I have worked with many, I’ve messed with many, I’ve observed and studied many, which is why I’m able to provide you with so much information that I do about my kind. Earlier, I provided the article  How to Frighten a Narcissist, which was another, if you will, public information address, highlighting the fact that along came somebody with an article trying to tell you how you can frighten a narcissist and how they actually got it hopelessly wrong. There are too many people that talk about narcissism, that write about narcissism, and they actually know very little about it. Indeed, with many of them, what they end up doing is providing confusing information to people and often relaying information which is dangerous. For instance, the entirety of that article that I highlighted earlier would not cause the narcissist to be frightened in the slightest.

What it would do is potentially put you in harm’s way as a consequence of the narcissist lashing out at you. With all of that stated and highlighting the incorrect information that was provided in that article, I’m actually going to tell you how you could frighten a narcissist. There are essentially two routes to this particular market. The first one is invoking fear in the narcissist as a consequence of something that you do. Understand that the narcissist does experience fear. The narcissist experiences fear like many other people do. Certain narcissists are cocky and arrogant. They might try to mask that fear, but it’s there. There are others that will actually play upon their fears as a form of manipulation. But fear serves a purpose, like it does with any emotion that is experienced by the narcissist, because the narcissism utilises it for the purposes of seeking the prime aims. So, take a simple example. A narcissist is walking down the proverbial dark alley at night. When coming the other way is a threatening looking figure wielding a weapon. The narcissist, for all of their sense of entitlement and grandiosity apprehends that this person is going to do them harm. Therefore, that person’s presence is a threat to the narcissist’s control. In order to nullify that threat to control, there are essentially three potential options.

The first the narcissist could deal with that individual directly, which could be, for instance, seeking to persuade them not to harm the narcissist, threatening them so they don’t harm the narcissist, or possibly taking that individual down in some way, for instance, attacking them first. The second would be to do so indirectly. That option probably wouldn’t be available because there’s only the narcissist and the other individual in this alleyway. The third and most likely outcome is for the narcissist to move to a position of withdrawal because that’s the narcissist’s decision and in the circumstances causes the narcissist to gain control through removing themselves from the threat. Thus, The narcissist would be likely to experience fear at seeing this large, imposing figure with a weapon marching towards them, and therefore the narcissism uses that fear to cause the narcissist to run away, thus nullifying the threat to control. The fear might be utilised to run to a house to ask for help, which would then be an amalgam of initial withdrawal and potentially an indirect assertion of control by involving somebody else to nullify the threat to control, for instance, if this imposing figure continues to pursue the narcissist. To implore them to call the police, for instance, utilising the police as an indirect assertion of control.

Thus, in that situation, fear serves a purpose. And similarly, You have the capability to frighten a narcissist. You might do so, for instance, pointing a gun at a narcissist. Or threatening to beat a narcissist up when you’re an imposing individual. It could be that a particular threat that you issue towards the narcissist, for instance, to expose the narcissist generates fear in that narcissist. A threat to remove something, for instance, to dismiss the narcissist from a job. to take away financial support for the narcissist would invoke a fear response. The problem that you have is that it doesn’t always follow that the narcissism will necessarily move to fear as the motivating emotion to cause that narcissist to do with what you have done. You see, if you wave a weapon at a narcissist, you’re threatening the narcissist’s need for control. If you tell the narcissist you’re fired, you threaten the narcissist’s need for control. If you explain to the narcissist, I’m going to cut you off, I’m no longer going to financially support you, you threaten the narcissist’s control. In some instances, The narcissist is more likely to respond with fear, for instance, having a gun pointed at them. But threatening the narcissist with the loss of financial support could be met with a fear response, but actually is more likely to be met with a response of heated ignited fury and indignance at you being so bold as to do that. Invariably, whilst there are plenty of things that you might do which could frighten a narcissist, it isn’t actually guaranteed, and you run the risk of the narcissist responding with arrogance, with fury, be it cold or heated, lashing out at you verbally, lashing out at you physically.

The instances where you’re most likely going to cause fear in a narcissist is where you do something which is life -threatening. So for instance, holding a narcissist on the edge of a cliff with the clear inference that you’re going to throw them off it. As I mentioned earlier, pointing a gun at them. Those situations will induce fear in a narcissist and the narcissism will utilize that fear as a way to drive the narcissist to try and nullify the threat to control. For instance, running away from you when you’re pointing a gun, pleading for their life when they’re being held on the edge of that cliff top, et cetera. I wouldn’t actually advocate that you go down this route of seeking to frighten a narcissist this way. Tempting as it may well be and indeed. I am sure that many of you would relish Injecting some fear into the narcissist particularly after the way that they have treated you problem is as follows You’re actually giving fuel to the narcissist albeit. It’s likely to be challenge fuel possibly negative fuel. This is what the narcissist wants secondly In many instances, although not all, you’re likely to be met with an adverse response. For instance, if you threaten the narcissist with the idea of causing fear, they may well retaliate against you. And, in certain instances, you could find yourself on the receiving end of physical harm, verbal violence. In other instances, the narcissist might well report you for what you’ve done. seeking to nullify your threat to control indirectly by involving the authorities and in a sense you’ve scored a bit of an own goal because you’ve allowed the narcissist to take action against you. In some instances you’ll actually find yourself frustrated because what you’ve done hasn’t caused the fear outcome that you would have wanted and you’ve ended up with an adverse response. Furthermore, of course, you’re involving yourself with a narcissist, and if you’re an empath, which many of you are, you’re breaching your no -contact regimen, and with the consequence that your emotional thinking is going to increase. Indeed, your emotional thinking might seize upon your empathic trait of justice, or your narcissistic trait of defiance or resentment to cause you to want to induce fear in the narcissist as a means of getting some form of revenge, and thus you are occasioned to breach your no -contact regime with the risk factors that I have explained. Thus, whilst it is entirely feasible for you to be able to actually frighten a narcissist, and to do so most likely in circumstances where you threaten the narcissist’s life. You need to be wary of doing so, because you might be committing a criminal act. And furthermore, there are the other downsides that I’ve just mentioned.

There are lesser acts which might frighten a narcissist, particularly those of a more cowardly nature. You would be looking at middle, middle range A, particularly middle, middle range B in that regard. So those narcissists may well be particularly adversely affected by the threat of exposure and be frightened of it, as opposed to responding in an arrogant and bombastic way in the way that, say, an epileptic type B would. But even then, it’s not guaranteed that you’ll gain it. And in the circumstances, tempting as it is, logic would dictate that whilst you have the mechanism to cause fear in a narcissist through those various routes, you’re better off not taking it. So that’s the first route to that particular market, to generate fear. But what’s the second? The second is, naturally, the imposition of a no -contact regime. Again, certain narcissists won’t respond in a fearful fashion, although they certainly won’t like what you’re doing, and it may even generate anxiety, even with those more hardened variety of narcissists. But for many narcissists, there would actually be a fear response, and the no -contact regime is the most effective way to frighten a narcissist for the following reasons.

Firstly, because you’re not going to have anything to do with the narcissist, you’re not going to suffer any adverse consequence from the narcissist. Two, you’re not providing any fuel, therefore you’re starving the narcissist, which not only means that the narcissist is not getting what they want, but the fact that you’re starving them of fuel may well exacerbate the fear response. Three, you’re not heightening your emotional thinking because you’re not having anything to do with the narcissist. You’re staying out of the arenas of interaction. Four, the narcissist will often have a fearful response to no contact because you’ve ended the relationship and therefore they are fearful of being on their own. They’re fearful of the fact that there’s nobody there to look after them any longer. they’re fearful of the fact that nobody’s there to support them, to provide them with money. And therefore in the circumstances, your no -contact regime of itself is problematic because it threatens the narcissist’s control and starves them of fuel, but it also has the wider significance that you’re taking away from the narcissist residual benefits, character traits also. And all of that bundle may well cause a fear response in the narcissist that the narcissism then reacts to, to propel the narcissist to either try and get you back through the initial ground hoover, read my book No Contact for more about that, or, where eventually the narcissism recognizes that you’re no contact regime and is difficult to penetrate, fear of being alone, fear of being unsupported, fear of not having money, propels the narcissist to go and find somebody else so that you are left alone.

Narcissists experience fear. Some narcissists are more fearful than others in the same way that non -narcissists can be more frightened than others. Particular types of narcissists are more susceptible to fear, for instance, as I’ve explained, the middle -mid -range narcissists. You’ll also see it amongst middle -lessers also. Upper -lesser type A experience fear, although they’re less likely to show it, but it’s there. Upper -lesser type B tend to shrug it off more readily. Lower mid -range do experience fear, but not to the same extent as middle mid -range. A or B. Upper mid -range do also, but they similarly are better at brushing it off. But it’s experienced by all categories of narcissist. The fact is that rather than open yourself up to problems by doing something directly to the narcissist, you’re much better aiming at generating fear by the removal of you from the narcissist and everything associated with you. Now naturally, you don’t get to see that fear manifest in the narcissist, because to see it would be to breach no contact. To see it would mean that you would have some degree of proximity to the narcissist also, which could mean that you would be providing fuel or being subjected to an adverse consequence. Therefore, you have to utilize my work to understand that fear is caused, and then you can imagine how fearful the narcissist is, But you don’t do so for long because, of course, thinking about the narcissist is a breach of no contact. But you can have that satisfaction of realizing that the most effective way to bring about fear in a narcissist, and in a manner which actually benefits you, is the imposition of the no contact regime. And narcissists hate it. It will ignite fury. It will result in a furious response. It will result in jealousy and envy coming to the fore. But for certain narcissists, fear looms large. Fear at losing you. Fear at the loss of status. Fear of exposure. Fear of losing certain residual benefits. Thus, if you want to actually frighten a narcissist, and to do so safely, best thing you can do is impose a no -contact regime, and for many narcissists, fear is what they will experience.