I should imagine that most of you looked at this picture of a person pushing a boulder up a hill and thought to yourselves,
“Oh yes, that is what life with a narcissist is like.”
I know you do as I have had it said to me several times. I always reply,
“Achieving and maintaining brilliance is not meant to be easy. If it was, every one would be doing it. You have to work hard to keep up with me.”
You see there are certain types of empath who really do go above and beyond the call of duty. They may be of a co-dependent nature but it is not necessarily the case. It is more the fact that his person, a super empath, has an near unquenchable desire to do good, to heal, to fix and make things right. They regard anything and everything as a challenge but that no challenge is insurmountable. Their level of optimism is quite frankly baffling but I am not going to complain as I harness it to my advantage. The super empath believes there is good in everyone, it is just a case of finding it. This person believes that good will always triumph, that love will conquer all and no person is a lost cause. Sometimes it is fairly easy to identify these people as they do tend to congregate in the caring professions or if they do not, one can tell that they are a super empath by the way they undertake charity work, care for animals or overly romanticise everything. I have written before about how in the very early stage of our interaction I engage in a systematic and deliberate methodology of ensuring that you are going to supply with me fuel and that you will be drawn into my sphere of influence. This methodology also enables me to spot the super empath. Once I have one on my radar there is an exciting surge of anticipatory power through me as I relish the fuel that will be soon flowing from this hitherto untapped reservoir. When I have a super empath in my sights then I know that this person will go the extra mile, they will put in the hard yards and aim for 110 %. Armed with this knowledge I will issue my statements of intent so they do indeed work hard and supply me with what is amazing fuel.
What do these statements of intent look like? They come in a variety of forms but some examples are as follows:-
“You know I will hurt you so you would be better off staying away from me.”
“I don’t know what it is but I am on the verge of frenzy and you will get caught up in so you need to steer clear.”
“I am difficult to please, I think you should be aware of this.”
“Nobody ever meets me expectations.”
“I have always been let down in the past and I do not expect you to be any different, so if you want to go now, before it is too hard, then you can.”
“I can promise you it will never be dull with me, but I do not know if you could handle it.”
“The intensity of my love will be brutal and you will probably be broken by it. It takes a special kind of person to be with me.”
“I am giving you the chance to walk away now before it becomes too much for you.”
These comments and similar are all the oral equivalent of throwing down the gauntlet. I can say these things utterly safe in the knowledge that you will now walk away. It is against your nature to do so. You hear these words and as a super empath you see a challenge but something that is completely worthwhile. There is a lost soul to be shepherded, a desolate being to make good once more and a wayward person to steer towards the light. You want to rescue me from the dark side, pull me clear of the abyss and save me. No matter how hard I make it sound, how difficult and dangerous it is described I know you want it all the more because you want to prove you can do it. No matter how high the obstacles are raised and how awkward and demoralising the journey, as a super empath you will hang in there.
I do not make these statements of intent for your sake. I am not warning you off out of any sudden sense of guilt or concern. Not a chance. I am doing it to appeal to you all the more. I know it is like turning the after burners on and you will respond by giving you absolute all to try and please me, heal me and fix me.
You never succeed. All you do is give me the most wonderful fuel.
The boulder will roll back down the hill, no matter how far you have pushed it and you will be flattened by it. Every time.