Exorcism : Purging the Narcissist From Heart and Soul

Banish the beast !

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38 thoughts on “Exorcism : Purging the Narcissist From Heart and Soul

  1. OMG says:

    Hello Mr HG
    I just read this book. What can I say…while I was reading, I kept wondering if you are not HIM. Some of the examples you provided were matching 1:1 with what I went through. Found myself saying out loud”Jesus!” a couple of times.

  2. TC123 says:

    Thank you for the considered reply and I look forward to the alcohol related writing. I guess around the fractured piece I didn’t perhaps explain it well. I think in terms of the fractured personality/adopted personae I agree with you that it is a patchwork quilt hence why there is the illusion of real characteristics rather than the shirt worn on Tuesdays (so to speak). But what I was trying to explain was that, as an example, having spun a tale (and these could be very straight forward basic lies but around actual events) to 1 group from the perspective of the downtrodden wife persona of a self absorbed businessman (her husband, they were separated when we got together but not divorced) she would then spin the same story with facts changed, added, altered of the sequence of events in the persona of a child of dysfunctional parents to another group. So if these were 2 drama triangles the first had husband as The Perpetrator and the second had parents as The Perpetrator. My question was about the actual trivial facts of the real sequence of events. In both of those cases the groups were The Rescuer and she was obviously The Victim but I would be observer/Rescuer of both situations. So when I asked about the changes, she would just shrug and put the ‘that’s the way I am’ thing on the table.
    So maybe I’m over analyzing (hence the question about Ever Presence, did she seed the over analyzing in me?) but I now think that this scatadaisical approach to simple facts was actually gaslighting all of us?
    TBH I think I am beginning the road to recovery as I’m planning to carry out a Deep Cleanse this weekend and follow some of the other steps to completely delete her from my life.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      The movement around the drama triangle is a common step and is done to maintain the sense of drama and chaos which is the catalyst for the fuel. It is entirely understandable to do this with more than one drama triangle. Thanks for expanding on the point.
      You capacity to over analyse is one of the traits which caused you to be selected as a victim BUT it is also something which comes to the fore because of the way you are manipulated and therefore she did indeed plant those seeds, she just did so in some rather fertile soil.
      Yes, apply the principles of Exorcism and build your defences as well.

  3. TC123 says:

    By the way my username has changed from antonycravengooglemailcom to TC123.

  4. As a child of a narcissist I grew up with a target on my forehead and sure enough, I hit the ‘jackpot’ with someone that was a Greater Narcissist but it has only been apparent since being discarded in a brutal way 2 years ago. I have been on an educational journey which has been very uncomfortable reading but has revealed my Narc as the fully fledged article with I think full awareness. Her life is just a succession of characters quite often I found adopted from tv programmes as well as the accumulated ‘clothes’ from her victims. She really was hollow with no internal character apart from the fury. She provokes and manipulates to escalate emotions in everyone around her and seems to thrive only on negative fuel. I have managed to deal with a lot of the remnants but the full horror of what she was has only just become apparent and this particular book is responsible. It still feels uneasy writing this as I have very sensitive alerts about you all and I think that you probably get fuel from this (and would use it to get fuel as well as an income to deadlines). But I have to say thanks, because this book stopped me from breaking no contact and is the beginning of the end for her.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Antony, I am pleased you found Exorcism to be useful and you gave a useful if unsurprising summing up of your entanglement. You are correct that it is often not until much later that the full horror of what actually happened becomes apparent.

      1. TC123 says:

        So I do have a question for you. I was talking to a friend of mine who is a psychiatrist and she thinks that fractured people do not necessarily remember the truth of what happens when they are in a particular fracture to when they move to another. This may be true of people with other conditions but from reading your books, I think that there is actually a totality to even the lesser narcissists? The reason I’m asking is because my ex narcissist as I mentioned thrived on the negative fuel so much so that her triangulated groups of friends were generally hostile to each other. So when I read your books the secondary and tertiary appliances are generally kept compliant by pleasant company so they are unaware that they are being used and generally used for positive fuel.
        She thrived on regular and systematic big deal bust ups and set piece confrontations from which she engendered sympathy from another triangulated group of friends. Do you think that when in ‘character’ narcissists are self aware or do they become the character? Are they acting out or do they become the character? My opinion as I mentioned before is hardening based upon your writing. My ex narcissist I think was fully aware even to the extent of telling me what she was, which at the time engendered sympathy. I think this was a diversionary tactic to lead me away from the hard conclusion, that all was manipulation, all was about negative fuel. So she was always aware of the impact of her actions and could not continue from 1 week to the next without a huge influx of negative fuel from a massive scene or argument in a public place. I don’t expect you to answer everything, just wondered what your thoughts were on the question of being in character? She did take drugs for schizophrenia but I think now this was about reinforcing the fractures that she created, so the adopted personalities were a front to enable gaslighting. It certainly didn’t make any difference when she didn’t take them.

        Another couple of thoughts I’ve suddenly had. Where does alcoholism fit in with being a narcissist? Would you consider that an adoptive persona too? She did have elaborate adoptive personae, sometimes taking wholesale a tv character and making it seem genuine. The other question, am I under the influence of Ever Presence in writing this!? One of her persona was the mental health empath. So there was a constant devaluation of me because of a ‘perceived’ lack of knowledge. (I say perceived because I am highly qualified in my field and it was clearly the case on the many occasions she liked to compete with me on a subject, she could not and that included mental health and the mind). Apologies for the length, I was just curious about these things and also may have missed a book about them?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Hello TC123, it is no surprise to find someone who would pit one group against another. This often happens within say a group of outer circle friends where they vie with another for the praise, attention and favour of our kind, turning on one another,much to our fuelled entertainment. Whilst we may well maintain compliance through keeping secondary and tertiary appliances sweet, compliance can also be achieved by causing them to compete with one another. With regard to your point about the fracture resulting in a loss of memory of the truth, is it that the truth is recognised but then lost or is it that the truth is never recognised to begin with? I favour the latter because our kind operate from a different perspective in the way that we are so that to us it is the truth, hence why so many of our kind lack insight, and thus the same set of facts can give rise to two different perspectives. You regard us as not knowing the truth because we operate from a different perspective from yours, but this is our truth, borne our of our perspective.
          As for alcoholism, I will be writing more about this element and the relationship with narcissism in due course, as an appetiser, it often provides a brief glimpse behind the curtain.
          in terms of adoptive personas, we operate adoptive personas all of the time through our acquisition of traits. It tends to be more of a patchwork quilt effect but that is not to say that we would not take another’s personality wholesale and pass it off as our own if it provided us with a considerable benefit.
          Concerning your query about Everpresence, it is likely to still affect you but I would need to know more about your current situation before commenting further.

  5. Miss_stress says:

    For you HG…libertate mea!!!!

  6. Miss_stress says:

    I missed this posting. Will go buy this now and start reading tonight, thank you HG. Timing is everything.

    1. Miss_stress says:


      1. HG Tudor says:

        I’m obliged.

        1. Miss_stress says:

          I need to be saved from the subsuming. With my fear of heights, I don’t relish ceiling crawling.

  7. Cooperkm0 says:

    I left my N and filed a lawsuit and won! Bought a house my yard is beautiful! There is life after N ! You guys aren’t calculated as u think

  8. mlaclarece says:

    Downloaded and will begin after I return from a weekend trip! I know you thought this one would be very applicable to my current situation!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It certainly is oh beacon.

  9. twinkletoes says:

    Me too!

  10. Evan711 says:

    Brilliant,and hair raising …!!

  11. I am reading it today, thank you

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

  12. Yo says:

    Dear defective person. I havent read any of ur books. But based on comments for the blog i have an impression that apart from the same info as in blog u give advice to readers how to heal themselves and/or overcome a narc-experience.

    Q: is there any psyhoterapist involved (ad ur co-author) to vetify recommendations and technics u propose?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You haven’t read any of my books, that’s outrageous! What a terrible and unwarranted criticism, I need some fuel and quick.

      That’s better. I do not advise anybody how to heal. I am not a healer. I explain everything from our perspective to that people have that knowledge to do with what they choose. If they choose to understand and apply that understanding it will help them because they are pulling themselves free from the emotional quagmire. But it is entirely down to them. I offer ways that certain behaviours and actions will affect my kind, which many people will not know about and again it is a matter for them to choose whether they apply them or not. I recommend certain steps which I know will prove effective as they are from our perspective and my awareness means I know why we do what we do and why we are able to effect you so deeply and extensively. So there is no psychotherapist involved per se (although I do utilise the assistance of the good doctors in the sense that the increasing awareness they provide forms part of my work) after all I would have no desire to let anybody else steal the limelight would I?

      1. nikitalondon says:

        Nobody can be better than you here 😍😍

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Thank you and you are so right!

      2. Yo says:

        Thank you HG (defectivevperson 😉 for a detailed answer.
        Just a matter of curiosity, what u said about perceived criticism (coz i didnt read books),
        Was it a joke (sarcasm?) OR in ur reality u perceive it as a critisism indeed?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I was being humorous (I dealt with your criticism in a different way before I responded)

      3. Yo says:

        I do think ur books could get another/ add new segment/niche if u r able to get comments there from somebody (famous) from doctors

        Does NPD for dummies already exist?

      4. Yo says:

        So tell me, how did u deal with “my critisism” before u responded?🙄 what exactly did u doto get ur fuel?))))

        1. HG Tudor says:

          That’s between me and the appliance.

    2. nikitalondon says:

      You miss something good ” Moi” 😃

      1. Yo says:

        Jajja gracias NL 🤗😊

  13. bethany7337 says:

    What a picture!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Good isn’t it?

  14. But why oh why, would I want to do that….?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      So I could infect you again perhaps?

      1. Infect is such a harsh word.

        I prefer possess….don’t you think?

  15. nikitalondon says:

    I have your masterpiece 😍😍😘😘

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I am obliged.

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