The concept of coupling, merging, becoming one together is invariably one with significant romantic connotations. How magnificent is it that somebody wants to become the perfect whole with you? You have such compatibility on so many different levels – your view of the world, similar interests, tolerance to particular issues, disdain for others, similar ambitions in terms of career, family and the attainment of happiness. You and him, you and her, whatever the constituent parts, the idea of two people becoming one is something which is embedded with the romantic ideal.
Of course the concept of finding your other half, often referred to as your better half, is not some flippant remark but is actual at the core of what people are looking for when they seek somebody to love and be loved by. They are looking for the other half of themselves. This does not mean an exact replica, but someone who has similarities – sometimes it may be striking physical likenesses, such as a red-head seeking another red-head, other times it might be similar levels of physical attractiveness but it is multi-layered with a whole structure of similarities and matches. This is why we are so deadly when it come to seduction. You are in effect seeking yourself and when we engage in our customary mirroring we are showing you yourself. Naturally, you do not recognise that you are being mirrored. You are too caught up in our artifice and its effective illusion to realise that you are being shown yourself. Instead, you fall head over heels for us as you believe that this is the real us and why wouldn’t you? Not only are we experts at this mirroring, we appear genuine and what we show you is so enticing you cannot help but fall for it. Fall for yourself.
It is quite the irony that falling in love with yourself would be what most people consider to be a rather narcissistic trait and who causes you to do that? A narcissist.
Thus, not only is this heart hook one which comes laden with romantic repercussions and emotional weight, it taps into the central method of seducing you. It sounds wonderful that we want to be one merged being with you, that we are such a perfect match we want to become as close as we possibly can be with you and thus become one person together. It is alluring, it sounds like an act of self-sacrifice, letting our own identity go to become a new and improved entity with you.
Whilst it certainly will sound desirable and romantic to you and whist it of course utilises that powerful premise of causing you to believe you have found your other half, this heart hook belies an actual truth, but not in the way you perceive it to be.
We want to become one with you because in our minds you belong to us as does everybody who we connect with. We control the environment and in order to cause the world to be bent to our will, we create the illusion that everything is connected to us and is controlled by us. When we want to become one with you, what we really mean is that we want you to shed your own identity and be subsumed into us. You effectively vanish as we own you and assimilate you into our being. You are connected to us so that you pump the delicious fuel into us, we assume your character traits which we apply to the construct and we commandeer your residual benefits – your money belongs to us, your house is our house, your friends become our friends, your resources are our resources, your network becomes ours to use as we see fit. You automatically sign away any sense of identity and independence from us as we suck you into our world and make you part of us.
When we declare that we want you and I to become one, you hear a romantic and heart-felt plea that evidences compatibility on every level. What we are actually telling you is that you belong to us and we want to consume you, absorb you and pull you into our world, causing you to submit to out total control for the furtherance of our aims and agenda.
You do not become one with us.
You cease to exist.