The Narcissistic Truths – No. 40

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47 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 40

  1. Ms brown aka Seastarr C★ says:

    @twilight… love it! On my playlist and streaming it throughout the house all day! Thx for sharing. Very therapeutic…

    1. Twilight says:

      I am glad you like like, nature really does provide what we need. answers many questions it is a matter of listening to understand and not listening to respond.

  2. Twilight says:

    Anyone familiar with Solfeggio Frequencies?

    1. No? Please enlighten! Sounds like something I would be interested in. Is it like binaural beats?

      1. Twilight says:

        Yes and no. Binaural beats you need headphones to listen to, because they are two different frequencies which converts in the mind to one frequency, Solfeggio is sound at one frequency so the need for headphone is not necessary.

        1. Ms brown aka Seastarr C★ says:

          thanks, i will look into that!

    2. windstorm2 says:

      That’s like Gregorian chants, right? They are very soothing. What are they supposed to do other than create a spiritual feel?

      1. Ms brown aka Seastarr C★ says:

        @windstorm…I find them similar to Binaural Beats in the 528 Hz range…. but you don’t need ear pods for this (like with binaurals) and can stream throughout your home to promote healing…. I appreciate twilight sharing this 🙏🏼

      2. Twilight says:

        I am not positive on that. Yet I wouldn’t be surprise if that is a common factor.
        I don’t believe it is just a spiritual feeling but a spiritual healing.
        Nature provides everything we need. People have become dependent on technology and convenience and have forgotten and/or disconnected.
        This is all my opinion and from my own experience.

    3. windstorm2 says:

      Been researching these Twilight. I’m very familiar with and fond of Gregorian chant, which is built on the Solfeggio scale and is often used in meditation. Are you talking about just listening to one tone to promote a type of healing? Or do you utilize various tones? Looking forward to hearing more about your experiences with this type of music.

      Ms Brown, thank you for your answer. I am unfamiliar with binaural beats. I, too am grateful to Twilight for introducing something new. Learning new things is what keeps life interesting!
      (NarcAngel if you read this, I don’t think I’ll ever type an exclamation point again without thinking of you!!!!!!!!!!!! 😝).

      1. Twilight says:

        Windstorm2
        Do you listen to Engima?
        I use different frequencies for different results.
        I am at work and can not go into detail yet will try to when I am off. Depends if this turns into a marathon day. 😂

        1. Windstorm2 says:

          K, thanks Twilight! Good luck at work. I’ve survived long enough to enjoy the glories of retirement! I’m in KS for my daughters oldest’ 5th bday today! My daughter’s is tomorrow. We will b celebrating!!!
          (Thinking of NarcAngel with every !!!!!!) 😊

          1. Twilight says:

            Sounds like you and your family are about to have some serious fun! I hope she has a wonderful 5th birthday 🎉 and your daughters day is amazing!
            I believe I have missed something with the !!!!
            Thanks I am at my store so things are smooth, just playing catch up with some paperwork.

      2. Twilight says:

        Windstorm2

        I utilize all of them. In the beginning I felt strange, now I realize I am where I was before life happened, with knowledge and wisdom now.
        Does music effect you? Do you get excited, sad or happy? I don’t believe it is the actual music but the frequency being used with in the music that stimulates us in a negative or positive way.
        As far as healing, yes I do believe that has happened with me. What I could do as a child I can again. This healing is spiritual not physical.
        Spiritual isn’t religion, we have just forgotten this. IMO and perspective.

        1. Windstorm2 says:

          Twilight, thank you for your explanation. I still don’t know what you mean by enigma. I of course know the definition and the WWII code, but was not able to find anything in my search that seemed to fit. I’d like to know what you mean by enigma.
          Yes, music affects me extremely. The actual tones involved definitely affect me, but also the words are very important. No matter how a song sounds, if I Shazam the lyrics are they don’t fit with the feeling I get from the actual music – that ruins the song for me from then on.
          I have never been that fond of purely instrumental music. (Although I played trumpet in school bands for 11years. It’s very different if you’re hearing the music live vs a recording and especially if you are producing it!). Instrumental music can sound wonderful, but I grow quickly tired of it. For music to really move me it needs to be sung by a human. It is the emotions that I hear in the voices that move me. I feel extreme joy, happiness, personal strength, etc from many songs. I avoid all songs with negative emotions for this reason. Synthetic or spherical music is just noise to me.

          1. Twilight says:

            Windstorm2

            https://youtu.be/2rALVgdoMHk

            Engima

          2. Windstorm2 says:

            😝😝😝😝😝😝 that’s completely hilarious!!!!
            Ok. Now I’ll try googling the RIGHT thing! 😄

          3. Twilight says:

            For me I prefer instrumental, I am not big with synthetic. Lyrics move me to a point yet it is tone that really affects me.
            I played the flute and piccolo for many years. Woodwind instruments are what interested me.
            Many in my family have some connection with the military, so I am familiar with different aspects.

    4. windstorm2 says:

      Never heard of enigma, although I did have a professor say once that I was an enigma wrapped in a conundrum! I’ll google it.
      The !!!! thing is just a joke about NA telling HG that he could always identify empaths by how many exclamation points we use in our writing. 😉< probably emojis would work too!
      Our bday boy is off to a good start on his day. They're all off to the pool while I try to nap and recover from my 12 hour drive last night to get here.
      What type of store do you have?

      1. Twilight says:

        It is a restaurant, very challenging for me. The man I was seeing was a greater, the you will regret that he took to an entire level I didn’t expect. Let’s just say the punishment fit the crime this time. I was in the wrong initially.

  3. Narc affair says:

    This one i didnt understand but i have heard the term used in conjunction to narcissists. Ill check out the article. My guess is theyre able to isolate the way they think

  4. Giulia says:

    I wish I never met him. For me to feel like this says a lot.
    I wish I had found this blog last year.

  5. Kim Michaud says:

    Well as usual you were correct Mr Tudor I posted in a different thread that it had been three months since discard and I had only received a malign Hoover at two months and nothing since u said there’s still time we’ll last night in the middle of the Night exactly three months and two and a half weeks post discard I hot a benign text from him saying he hopes I’m doing well and that he hopes I’m not angry at him lol I finally got my hoover so happy now cuz now I can ignore it lol thanks again

    1. Kim Michaud says:

      I mean I got a text from him lol not hot a tect

    2. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome Kim.

  6. Karma says:

    The N told me early on that what exactly how he is coping. Now I understand ….

  7. gabbanzobean says:

    That always made me wonder if he indeed knows what he is.

  8. gabbanzobean says:

    My Middle ranger used the term ” hyper compartmentalization” frequently. Damn cerebrals.

  9. horseyak says:

    HG, can you expound on this for a sentence or two?I understand keeping things/people separate but how does this further the narcissist’s agenda?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Please see the article Compartment Store which addresses one element of the use of compartmentalisation.

    2. MLA - Clarece says:

      I would say this ability is what allows a Narc to operate efficiently by seamlessly switching gears between all their fuel lines through the course of the day. It allows him to juggle doling out negative fuel to a predecessor prior to conducting a work meeting while fielding texts from a new potential, flirty secondary source, then meeting the primary source for a dinner date at the end of the day. Each getting 100% of his attention and focus while staying in its own individual file in his brain. Emotions don’t cloud his thinking. He could have a complete fuel charged pow wow with the predecessor than walk into a work presentation cool as a cucumber with his co-workers with nobody the wiser. Meanwhile, predecessor is probably crying her eyes out for the rest of the day, and that thought fuel is going to charge him up for the IPSS and IPPS later on with some highly charged sexting to the secondary in waiting and then the Primary source will get taken to all four bases outta the ballpark.
      Then he’ll sleep like a baby until it all starts over the next day.

      1. Love says:

        Great example Clarece. I wonder is it compartmentalization or lack of emotion that allows them to carry on, in such a cool manner. We empaths are affected 6 ways from Sunday after a fight because of our emotions. They are not hindered by such chains. I used to be puzzled at how quickly they got over a terrible fight. I would question where their pride and dignity were when someone insulted them so harshly or cursed and yelled at them. They brushed it off so well.

        1. MLA - Clarece says:

          Pride, dignity and for me, I would always question does he have an ounce of sentimentality in him? I’d get “not my style”. Arrrggghhh.

          1. Love says:

            Clarece, was this Junior Narc? Sometimes the young ones try too hard to be ‘tough’. I bet his sentimentality came out during hoover time. All of a sudden, they long for days past. Even though they complained all through those good ol’ days.

          2. MLA - Clarece says:

            Hi Love!!
            Yes… Lol… that would be Junior. Actually, he is not sentimental at all. It seemed to be something he was curious and fascinated with me but then could get equally and quickly very irritated with me over it when I would question why some things didn’t resonate with him. It’s a form of attaching to someone and they struggle with that.
            But, yes, him being younger, being “tough” maybe…. he actually told me he considered himself pretty “smooth” with me. Which became a zinger during fights because I’d tell him I don’t want one of his “smooth” lies, I want something true.

          3. Love says:

            Ah, he wanted to be a smooth operator. 😉
            https://youtu.be/4TYv2PhG89A

      2. Ms brown aka Seastarr C★ says:

        👍🏼

      3. Brian says:

        Yes, I need at least a day to get over a big fight…back when I allowed myself to get drawn into them 🙂

      4. Narc affair says:

        Mla…your post sums up my narc perfectly!! They are able to seperate themselves from each individual situation. When we get into conflicts and i disengage he still carries on his usual schedule. Im lost and devastated and hes still doing his thing. It amazes me how much it affects me and hes like nothings happened. Yet he hoovers and proclaims how he misses me and feels badly….the same old. Theyre able to dissociate from the situation and carry on. Also the fact they have multiple supply sources enables them to be unaffected. If you took this away theyd be panicking and feeling the affects.It reminds me of a trauma victim in that they can remove themselves from all emotion. This is why they can come and go as they pls. The greaters know we as empaths cant and they use this to manipulate. We are so invested in the relationship and cant turn it off like a switch.
        I wanted to add that id read on one of the silent treatment articles that with a present st that the narc usually the next morning will be over whatever triggered the st like a system reboot.
        However even if they seem to have gotten over it they never forget. Narcs always remember the injuries or percieved wrong doings towards them. So just bc they seem to be over a fight be on guard bc theyll be passive aggressive payback on the horizon and fling back.

        1. MLA - Clarece says:

          Yes, exactly and on top of their ability to do this, don’t forget when they do get back in touch, then they are blame shifting, gaslighting and deflecting pretending to not know or understand what you would still be upset about which confounds the confusion even more. They’re working the Jekyll and Hyde from hot to ice vibe going and you’re frozen not knowing how to react.
          It took me a while to figure that part out because I’m actually pretty good at compartmentalizing myself as far as boundaries between work life, personal life, time with my daughter, etc. and zoning out everything else. But it would be the compartmentalizing mixed in with the silent treatments and all the other manipulations that would leave me wrecked and not understanding how he wasn’t affected and could be completely fine and productive to function each and everyday.

  10. Patricia says:

    I don’t really understand this

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Read the article Compartment Store.

      1. Patricia says:

        Thank you! I have read it and that article is so accurate. I had no idea how this factored so effectively in the Narcissists world but it is the truth!

      2. Laurie says:

        Love it. Printed it out.

  11. I don’t understand compartmentalization (long word) as well as I’d like. HG, which books explain it best? Thanks.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      See the article Compartment Store for one element of the use of compartmentalisation.

      1. I will.. Thank you.

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