Understanding Word Salad


What is word salad?

Why do narcissists use it?

What does it sound like?

How do you deal with it?

This provides you with a comprehensive example of word salad and then detailed explanations about its use and how you may tackle it.

Toss the word salad here

26 thoughts on “Understanding Word Salad

  1. analise13 says:

    HG, excellent blog article. HG. do you use word salad in your work environment to undermine your underlings? Or just in your personal life?

    Circular conversations are very frustrating as they are used to shut us down by virtue of our own frustration.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Only in my personal life. There isn’t time for salad at work, I undermine them in far faster ways.

      1. analise13 says:

        No salad, not even at lunch?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Lunch is for wimps, remember?!

          1. analise13 says:

            *smiles*. That you are not. Enjoy your saignant steak, Mr Tudor.

  2. jenna says:

    Excellent strategies. I just say ‘i accept it’ to him.

  3. Dr. Harleen Quinzel PsyD. says:

    I got the pleasure of listening to a bunch of this last night. How annoying – only because at this point I hate wasting my time. That was a whole twenty minutes that I can’t get back. I don’t even let it bother me that much anymore because there is no content in it and I clock out.

  4. Diva says:

    “Word Salad. What is it? It is where we communicate with you in a method which does not make sense, fails to progress a discussion or results in a lack of an outcome.”

    Narc or no narc…….is this simply not a male trait???? Men have never made much sense to me. Or is it just confirming what I thought, that I have rarely, if ever, been without a male narc in my life?……….Diva

    1. Windstorm2 says:

      Ha, ha, Diva! I came to that conclusion about myself many years ago! I only know a handful of non-narc men and they weren’t by choice on either side – some work colleagues and some married in relatives.

      1. Diva says:

        Windstorm2…..We seem to have much in common…..it makes for an interesting life if nothing else!!!!. Although I am narc free at the moment……Diva

        1. Windstorm2 says:

          I guess I’m currently narc-free at the moment, too – but only because I’m home alone with my dogs! 😝

          Oh this is so funny!!! Right after I typed that last sentence one of my narcs called me on the phone! Cracked me up!! It was my oldest son driving in the car. Three of my narcs can’t stand being alone in a car. They always have to call and be talking to someone. Probably be hearing from my exhusband any minute for the same reason! Lol!!

  5. catlady2468 says:

    On point as usual, but especially with regards to points 3, 6 & 7 in how to toss salad list! Might I add a nice strong drink of gin as point 8?

  6. Sarah says:

    I just wanted to apologise for the typo on the word Believe , I wouldn’t want you to think that I have no educational standards . However , what I can spell with ease is Sack of Shit .
    I have a Masters Degree and Ph.D
    What exactly do you have Mr Wells ,, oops Mr Tudor …..

    1. Lori says:

      Should I assume that HG screens out some of our posts that he doesn’t like? By Sarah’s comment it sounds like she posted something already and yet it doesn’t appear here for us to reference. Can someone help clarify?

      1. HG Tudor says:

        It hasn’t emerged from moderation yet, that is all.

  7. Sarah says:

    Hi Mr Wells ,
    It’s Sarah , I just wanted to reconnect and inform you that no I didn’t go running for the hills shitting myself as you so eloquently stated To be perfectly honest I did not give you a moments thought until now .
    My comment obviously irked you somewhat ( and I don’t beleive for one second you will admit to that ) because I beleive you felt the need to express your views about me .
    Beleive me Mr Wells I have battled a bigger and better Narcissist than you .
    A high rolling , high flying Businessman from Manhattan with more money and wealth than you can ever dream about .
    So keep your ludicrous and unfounded comments about my education and background to yourself , you know nothing about me and never will . Have a wonderful day .

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Barnsley to Manhattan, who would have thought it?

  8. Wow, this reminded me of how much I don’t miss those conversations…! Off to get a juicy steak πŸ™‚

  9. K says:

    No wonder I ended up with short term memory loss.

  10. Cβ˜… says:

    #7…. lol

  11. Catherine says:

    Thank you for this post. It’s more informative on how to handle the Narcissist. More along these lines regarding other situations would be fabulous.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome and noted.

  12. echo says:

    Mmm, steak

  13. MyTrueSelf says:

    Great insight and advice! Thanks HG.
    I found the circular conversations over an important issue , or unimportant issue, for that matter, would leave me feeling emotionally exhausted. I would be trying to understand the situation form his perspective ( A.K.A be providing fuel?) but if I asked him to explain or clarify what he ment, I would be told ” I feel manipulated by you” and ” You’re too demanding. When you demand like that you’ll just push me away”
    H e would turn his back on me and go off to social media, take a bath, get pizza for himself etc…
    This would be sandwiched in between him telling me he wants to marry me and grow old together.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

  14. Windstorm2 says:

    Ha, ha! I read the other article first and replied to it with how we were all taught to deal with word salad in my exhusband’s family. We acknowledged it and moved on with the comment, “what’s that got to do with the price of eggs in China?”

    And yes, HG. I remember how hard it was for me to get used to dealing with nonsense said like serious conversation when I was a teenager. In my family, the narcs were midrangers and believed there own nonsense, but in my husband’s family, it was a game. The objective was to see how long you could fool or trick the other person. Boy I kept them cracked up that first year when I was 16 and truly believed all words were meant to be taken seriously!! I can remember them laughing when I’d get frustrated about, “What do eggs have to do with anything!” 😝😝😝

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