Understanding Word Salad


What is word salad?

Why do narcissists use it?

What does it sound like?

How do you deal with it?

This provides you with a comprehensive example of word salad and then detailed explanations about its use and how you may tackle it.

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9 thoughts on “Understanding Word Salad

  1. Stunned says:

    I am absolutely speechless as this is the almost verbatim conversation that I have had with my narc husband for years: the honesty and blatant willingness of the non-narc to solve issues and the constant ducking of the narc, the good-will of the non-narc and the malintentions of the narc to twist things around with taking ZERO responsibility or at least look into the issue at hand. It took me 18 years to realize there is something fundamentally wrong in this type of interactions as they didn’t affect me as much until I really wanted something from him that of course I never got and I have been consistently blamed for not having it gotten. Working on freeing myself from this pattern of abusive interactions.

  2. Mary Vanek says:

    I just got off the phone with my soon to be ex-narc. I needed to talk to him about his contribution to our finances, and I got push-back and resistance, and refusal to take responsibility, and when I pushed right back and argued my case (we are both lawyers) to him he implied that I was acting like I was mentally unstable – “you really need to sort your anger issues out with your therapist and stick with it this time!” So glad that thanks to this site I could see that bit of manipulation and gas-lighting for what it is. It brought back memories of all the years we were together where he would yell and scream his head off at the smallest things, but if I got a little upset over anything, he would accuse me of being crazy.

    He then asked me about the infamous letter that he sent me which I never responded to, the one where he exhibited all of the blame shifting and denial that one would expect of the Mid-Ranger that he is. I told him the letter was Exhibit A as to why I was re-filing for divorce, and he just laughed and said “I knew you would say that!”. But even knowing that, he still couldn’t see the light, the truth of how his actions have hurt me and our kids. He still couldn’t bring himself to write a different letter, one that was humbly repentant and apologetic and took full responsibility.
    I was proud of myself for saving $400 in attorney fees and standing up to him, proud of the fact that I quickly got over my momentary lapse into thinking maybe he is right, maybe I am mentally unstable. But no, I am entitled to be upset when he refuses to contribute financially. In the end he did agree to my request, reason prevailed and the bills will be paid.

    I understand that the arguments are all that connect us now. I understand that the fuel he gained from these arguments is what kept him going all those awful years. I understand now that its not my fault. He just is what he is. I am so glad I am moving on. I am so thankful for all of the insights of HG and all of the people who post comments on this site and shed light into the puzzle that is narcissism.

  3. H. says:

    This could of been a recording of my conversations to the exact words. Unbelievable.

  4. Tiddlywink says:

    Grrrrr..this was sooo real HG.. that was exactly how my mid ranger would talk to me..round and round and round twisting things in his favor, not answering the question and no outcome whatsoever, just made me furious…plus his fave line was always “you’re crazy, you need to see a doctor”…….

  5. Patricia J says:

    Speaking of Porn..again, I noticed my Ex GN Narc would alway endulge himself with purchasing Porn on all Religious holidays, Easter, Christmas..and on Sundays. Anyone else notice this?

  6. On My Journey says:

    That looks to me the prior or next stage of the mud story … like the Narc have this converstion and call the friends and family after … ?? Or before ???

    That is the quintessence of an example of dead end and converstion going in circles.

    HG … give us the trick .. how she we go about stopping it before is spins too much ? I think you talk about it in one of your book but I am not sure.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is explained in ‘Escape’.

  7. 69Revolver says:

    Oh my god. This conversation is such a trigger for me. F’ing word salad.
    All narcs have the same playbook.

    Never again.

  8. apocalipznow says:

    I sure don’t miss that clusterfucking crap.

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