Little Acons – No. 24
11 thoughts on “Little Acons – No. 24”
Vent Your Spleen! (Please see the Rules in Formal Info)
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It is sad to see this picture of the child looking so sad. I have heard that when a child is unable to express their emotions time and time, again, it can be one of the contributing factors to bringing about BPD. I don’t know, though; it is just something I have heard.
I have heard this plus, crying is not going to help you! If it isn’t going to kill you don’t cry it makes you look very weak! Followed by stop it this instant, you are embarrassing me! Holding it back all those years is probably why a cry so much now. 🤦🏼♀️
FM1T
Not that I want you to cry, but I’m glad you can still release pain that way. Some get so practiced at holding back that the tears don’t come.
PS Thank you for being the beautiful soul that you are. You are very much appreciated.
NA
It took a long time for me to be able to cry, now it seems they don’t stop. ( like now )!
You are an amazing person NA, I wouldn’t be writing this comment if it were not for you and the strength you helped me to find to do so. Thank you for being you! 😘
foolme1time,
I’m sorry you heard these things said many times. I think it’s really harmful when someone makes you feel that your emotions are weak, embarrassing or unnecessary.
Your comment made me think back to my past too. I was often told that I’m too sensitive, like it was a terrible fault to have and was a nuisance or burden to those around me who didn’t agree with me (or wanted to feel better about themselves). In reality, the insensitivity and intolerance of those who said that was the thing ‘at fault’ if we’re going to play the blame-game.
Way back before knowing about narcissism, I often wondered why ’emotions’ got such a negative rap in society in general. Back then, I felt that emotions were like the foundations of our thoughts and actions and existed for an important reason.
I never understood the concept that emotions are ‘weak’. To me it’s similar to saying that “breathing is weak”. We need emotions just like we need to breathe.
foolme1time,
If you feel sad or happy or angry or whatever, it’s because it’s natural for you to feel that way in a particular situation or because of a certain event. Your emotions are the triggers to your thoughts and they affect your actions.
You can change your emotions and have more control over them, but first you have to respect your own emotions and accept them in order to understand them and be able to think in a way that’s going to lead to you feeling better.
WiserNow, Thank you for your kind words. I have learned that I was born with a gift of feeling, sensing, and at times seeing the feelings and emotions of others. It is my first language, this is something else I never understood, but it has been with me before I uttered my first words. So yes you are correct in saying it is as similar as breathing, it is something that just happens. As I begin to learn to listen to these feelings and emotions I realize they are there to help me not hurt me. They have helped me survive in away I never understood until recently. With having an over sensitive child even the best parents in the best home situation fail at supporting those sensitivities this child has. When you are in a situation where you are an over sensitive child and have been abused from early childhood up to adulthood the damage is quite substantial. Learning to accept and embrace these feelings and emotions and seeing them as a gift and not a curse, has given me a peace and calm within myself, that I have never felt before. The name you have chosen fits you well my dear. 😘
You’re welcome Foolme1time, and thank you for your lovely comment too. Your sensitivity and warm, feeling nature comes through in your comments, and it’s a pleasure to read them.
“Learning to accept and embrace these feelings and emotions and seeing them as a gift and not a curse, has given me a peace and calm within myself, that I have never felt before.” I feel the same way. It changes the way we feel about many things and our sense of living in the world and being ourselves.
I’m becoming a little wiser all the time, but still have a long way to go and will always be learning more😉, but thank you 😘
WiserNow
You are most welcome. I have come to believe that there is always more to learn day after day, we never stop learning.
I also have a long way to go but that is ok, I am looking forward to it, as long as I am getting there it doesn’t matter how long it takes. The day I am not looking forward to is the day ( in the very near future) when it is time for me to leave the blog and all of you. This has been something that has been on my mind lately, in fact last night was a sleepless one because of these thoughts. I have felt your emotions through your comments over time and I have also felt a strength and logic behind your words. I hope you continued calm and peace in your life always. 🥰🙃
Usually followed by or I will give you something to really cry about
Correct.
VJ
Absolutely, and tried their damnedest to deliver.