A Very Exposed Narcissist?

Say hello to Your Highness Qiao Biluo.

No, me neither. However, there are plenty of people who know who this lady is, or rather, thought they knew who she was.

The BBC reported that, fans of a popular Chinese video blogger who called herself “Your Highness Qiao Biluo” have been left stunned after a technical glitch during one of her live-streams revealed her to be a middle-aged woman and not the young glamorous girl they thought her to be.

Oh dear.

I have explained many times how social media has become a hunting ground for our kind and its multiplicity of platforms and applications now allow tens of millions of people to show the world either who they are, a version of who they are or something completely different. From the application of filters, Photoshop, cropped pictures, the duck-pout, the bathroom selfie, the nudes and so forth, many people have utilised social media to garner attention and alter the portrayal of who they are. Is this just framing yourself in the best light or the behaviour of narcissists?

Her Not So Highness Now was a video blogger on the popular Douyu platform. There she posed as an attractive, young Chinese lady and had a follower account of over 100 000 people. She would perform live streams and engage with the audience which comprised of a large number of young men, evidently drawn by her attractiveness and also apparently her pleasant, healing voice.

The blogger, is believed to have used a filter on her face during her appearances, and had been renowned for her “sweet and healing voice”. It is not know whether her “sweet and healing voice” was also manufactured.

China’s Global Times said she had been “worshipped” as a “cute goddess” by some members of her loyal audience with some fans even giving her more than 100,000 yuan ($14,533, £11,950).

Live-streaming platform Lychee News says the incident happened on 25 July, during a joint live-stream with another user, Qingzi on the Douyu platform.

The Global Times reports that all was as normal and that her fans urged her to show her face and remove her filter but she refused, instead apparently saying: “I can’t show my face until I receive gifts worth 100,000 yuan ($11,950). After all, I’m a good-looking host.” Whether she actually intended to reveal herself once this total was reached is unknown and given what she was doing and furthermore her conduct following the exposure it calls into question whether she ever intended to make good on her promise to reveal herself on the basis of the receipt of monetary gain.

Followers incentivised by her apparent declaration of showing herself, then began to send her donations with the largest reported to be 40,000 yuan ($5,813, £4,780) during the session.

However, at some point, and prior to reaching the total she had set, it seems the filter being used by the vlogger stopped working and her real face became visible to her viewers.

She is reported to have noticed only when people who had signed up to her VIP access room started exiting en masse.

Many of her original followers – especially men – are said to have stopped following her and withdrawn their transactions after seeing her true identity.

Most commentators said her followers were gullible, superficial and deserved to be “tricked” into parting with their cash gifts without first verifying her identity. 

Qiao Biluo has since suspended her platform according to Weibo users, who are debating the impact of what happened.

Some users are saying it’s good riddance to her for conning people out of their money. But others question the IQ of the men throwing money at her.

The story has been incredibly popular across Chinese social networks with more than 600 million people reading posts that use a hashtag which translates to “female vlogger experiences bug showing her old lady face” and more than 50,000 using the hashtag itself.

China has more than 425 million live-streamers and the use of face filters is something that is common across the myriad of social platforms.

Live-streamers are discouraged from broadcasting in a public sphere, and are extremely restricted on what they can say. Expressing their opinions could result in a backlash from the authorities if the content is deemed to be politically sensitive or against government rhetoric. They also have to be careful that they are not seen to be “vulgar”. 

Consequently, many live-streamers simply sing karaoke in their bedrooms, or eat snacks for hours on end.

And the highly lucrative industry is saturated by young female users, who will go to extreme lengths to stand out.

In another twist, the attention the story has attracted means that although Qiao Biluo stopped live-streaming after the incident, her Douyu profile page now has 650,000 followers. Perhaps she will upgrade from Your Highness to Your Majesty?

But what is Qiao Biluo? Is she just someone who wanted to remain anonymous and saw an opportunity to make money through vlogging or is she a narcissist whose behaviour with regard to obtaining money from her viewers backfired owing to a technical glitch? Is she an entitled individual who lacks empathy for her audience by conning them in such a way, or is she just someone normal who has seen an opportunity to make some money and really it is the gullible viewers who should have been far more judicious before parting with their money and receiving nothing of substance in return? Do they deserve to be conned, is she callous and manipulative or just somebody following the crowd and has made a mistake?

What do you think? Can you put your honed powers of narc detection to the test and identify the hallmarks of entitlement, lack of emotional empathy, lack of accountability, manipulative behaviour and grandiosity, amongst others with regard to this individual or do you find her to be something else? Was she just having some fun and it backfired? Was she actually providing entertainment and the risk lay with the viewers and they should have been more careful in taking her at, literally, face value.

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Is Qiao Biluo a Very Exposed Narcissist?

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42 thoughts on “A Very Exposed Narcissist?

  1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    I had not heard of this story, so thank you
    I understand people do this for a living and it’s not uncommon in China… however ….. how can you NOT be “narcissistic” or have narcisstic traits when you go on these blogs
    She “knowingly” went “masked”, so it was based on a lie ….. to make money (she didn’t care)
    She scammed dumb gullible (mainly male) souls? There appears to more of this happening … famous vbloggers selling fake powders claiming to have health benefits, personal trainers capitalising on body beautiful anything and others setting up ridiculous “go fund meeees” …the internet is now swamped with them
    The irony is ..she then kept asking for money from even dumber gullible souls when the lie was unmasked ……AND GETTING IT
    That’s entrepreneurial, astute, cunning and ballsy … haha
    I read she’s going into the music industry …. no stopping her is there ?

    She said the mistake was “voluntary”….riiiiiiiight …. haha ….. and further attracted a staggering 650,000 followers compared to her previously 100,000 followers
    She hasn’t shown any remorse that I’m aware of

    We have the Chinese cleaning out our supermarket shelves of baby powder formula from our country and reselling it back to China for a staggering profit and they are now pretending to be beggars on our streets and conning innocent people (even though they are well off )
    It’s all about money and being opportunists

    Very interesting scenario …thank you for enlightening us with this one
    Hmmmm …. Mr Tudor, what’s your face worth, I wonder 🤣
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

  2. AR says:

    “Most commentators said her followers were gullible, superficial and deserved to be “tricked” into parting with their cash gifts without first verifying her identity”- i recalled one video i watched once on youtube how narcissistic psychopaths fool you when i read this sentence.

  3. Abe Moline says:

    I don’t think making money from using a fake outlook makes one necessarily a narcissist.
    This could easily be justified by something like “I tried this and it worked, now I can’t stop anymore, because it just got too big to stop it, or it would mean a very big downgrade from my current income”.

    However, there are other indicators which I think make her a narcissist:

    1. “Your Highness”. I don’t see a normal person calling herself that, maybe only as a joke, but I don’t think she was joking, she was taking it quite seriously.

    2. Requesting money for showing her real face. This shows:
    – control in the now. She did not think that this might backfire at all, she just wanted the money, and she wanted it now!
    – also magical thinking – to believe that showing her real face would not seriously hamper her future income.
    – in case she did not intend to deliver anyway (to show her face at the end) – this shows entitlement, a total disregard for honesty and for her viewers.

    There is also data missing here which would be interesting to know for assessing her being a narc or not – how long has this been going on, when did she start all this? Did she now just disappeared completely, or is she enjoying the new attention she’s receiving? Did she offer any explanations, excuses, money back?

  4. Alexissmith2016 says:

    Pretty certain she’s a narc. The name she gave herself, the mask making herself younger and more attractive, the scamming people out of money. She reminds me of one of those ‘healers’, but in a slightly different way.

  5. E. B. says:

    There are different versions of this story so I do not know if she was future faking when she said she was going to show her real face.

    I have read that filters are used by hundreds of thousands of streamers in China. It was not a secret that she was using a filter to hide her identity. Her followers knew this from the beginning. She was honest about it.
    However, she lied when she told her ‘fans’ she was young and pretty. When her male followers asked her to show her true face, she saw it as an opportunity to get money from them.
    Deceiving people into giving her money, her grandiosity to call herself ‘Your Highness…’, her lack of accountability (withdrawing instead of apologizing and accepting responsibility for her actions), not planning to return the donations, no signs of guilt or remorse and so on. She is not a Normal.
    I voted she is a narcissist.

  6. Caroline R says:

    HG
    So very interesting, thank you!
    She’s created a facade to get massive amounts of fuel everyday, she’s commodified herself for residual benefits (and she’s getting them!), and she has a wide reach of power over people (men especially) who she possibly, although I don’t have specific evidence of it, is laughing at all those she’s duped and conned.

    What photo does she use in her NarcClub ID? The younger or older face?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Ha ha good point. We never know if it´s her or someone else.

      1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

        Dearest HG: Are you interested at all to assess Julian Assange? What in the world is all that about with that guy? Also the guy that went to military prison that supposedly gave Assange classified info: the guy that was going to have sex reassignment surgery, or something like that, and the military did not want to pay for that during his incarceration, and last I heard he was identifying as a female? And the women that out of nowhere says that Assange molested them or something, from his own country, but I am not sure? And the U.S. desiring that Assange stand trial over here? That is one confusing situation to me. And I guess that govt. that was going to give him asylum, changed their mind, after so many years and someone said if he dared step out of the embassy a sniper would assassinate him? That would be some assessment. Are you interested at all in that situation, HG?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          He is on the very list.

          1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            Dearest HG: Oh my! Such good news. I can not stand it!!!!! I know you know that it is all so very blue touch papery. People are so polarized over him in the U.S. that it is practically not safe to bring up his name, to people that are politically oriented and to those that are not. I never knew what to think at all about it, but I knew a lot is going on with that guy, and maybe he overplayed his hand or something? Or underestimated the powerful and their ability to shift the sand, against what he is calling freedom of the press, whistleblowing, national security secrets, diplomacy, extradition and other rules of engagements? Is he over-simplifying the meaning of freedom of the press. Why was he not able to leave that embassy and enter a vehicle owned by the country that was going to provide him with asylum. Many countries said that situation was a breach of international diplomacy agreements. That he could not leave. Why did that country withdraw the offer of asylum. Were they forced to do so. Who would have assassinated him outside of the Embassy. Britain? U.S. Agents. Some politician over here, I do not remember which one, said someone should shoot him. That person then had to back down that statement, but only by a little bit, from what I can remember. Did all the rules change on him because he offended the U.S. and everybody else had to fall in line. Did he really assault those women, or is that made up? Can the U.S. bring over a citizen to be charged like that? Did he go into some strange waters, so to speak? Was he used by the U.S. to let steam off some bad info. and now he is the fall guy and scapegoat? Most people do not dare take up the topic of Julian Assange. Was he a victim of his feelings of omnipotence? How do you even begin to assess all that H.G. I am glad that he is on your list. It is such a confusing situation in so many ways and it has so many tentacles, including the Manning person. These questions come immediately to my mind. And I am a lightweight. I Really do not know what the real problem is, on a higher lever. The Curious Case of Julian Assange. He is in the middle of a big can of soup. Is he bad, HG? I look forward to your assessment of him, in due time. Thank you.

      2. Caroline R says:

        HG
        Hahaha!

  7. Anm says:

    There isn’t enough information here to determine this. I was a stripper in my early 20s. Men were often gullible, and would often give me large sums of money for nothing in return. It is a trait of narcissism, but doesn’t necessarily make one a narcissist. I will add, if the person is not a narcissist, and they engage in this behavior, over time, and under enough stress the person will develop characteristics that are similar to borderline personality disorder or split personality disorder, that takes commitment and time to recover from. It is part of Karma. I have seen this time and time again with people.

  8. WokeAF says:

    I would need to know more about her as a person .
    She could be just a highly narcissistic young woman who is taking advantage of other shallow people for monetary gain .

  9. Christopher Jackson says:

    I voted narcisst she was worried about her looks and she had some cognitive function about what she was doing. However she doesn’t know what she is. She showcased that she has a huge self grandiosity “Your Highness Qiao Biluo”,self entitlement what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is MINE she felt entitled to the money saying “I cant show my face until I receive gifts worth 100,000 yuan, boundary breaking because she knew what she was doing was wrong by conning people out of their money. Lack of empathy she didnt care who she affects or affected I need the money and it doesnt matter tough shit she looked at her Male admirers as appliances she needed them for one thing and one thing only…MONEY. and lack of awareness she wasnt expecting to be caught nor did she think she was going too. A huge self of grandeur “Your Highness Qiao Biluo” She also was able to control her fury as this facade was compromised she licked her wounds and her fury abated instead she applied another tactic in order to achieve her prime aims and haughty behavior “After all I’m a good looking host” and as for the commentators I would refer them to the videos “Errors of the ignorant ” all of them because obviously they no idea what they are dealing with……

    Ms “Your Highness Qiao Biluo” is a MMRN Somatic Narcissist. Checkmate.

    1. cb says:

      Yes, us non-narcs have this pride of:

      “If someone meets me in real life, they recognise me from my photos”

      “They recognise my voice”

      Or else it’s just not me, dammit!

      Narcs seem to totally lack this pride, they don’t care. Copying and plagiarism is their life.

  10. strongerwendyme says:

    Hmmm. A narcissist who masks their identity…sounds so familiar but I just can’t put my finger on it 😉

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yes and I make it clear that I do of course

      1. strongerwendyme says:

        Of course.

  11. mollyb5 says:

    People aren’t forced to send money . Men do it everyday ..giving to came girls , hookers , and even waitresses they give huge tips for their looks. Don’t be in the dark it’s going on everywhere.

    1. Caroline R says:

      Good point Molly. Men are suckers for good looks, and easily parted from their cash.

  12. I’m really angry! I grant the supreme privilege of be whipped from me
    for only 150 eur! and she instead just to show a face that wasn’t even his
    he took all that money. I agree with who said that those men deserved to be plucked.
    More than a narcissist, she seems to me a frustrated and unhappy woman who needed money and also to have some fun, and at some point
    the game it got out her of hand.

  13. zwartbolleke says:

    Interesting story, I have no idea. Normally I use as standard: if you steel or take money from vulnerable people, than no doubt. But these were not vulnerable people, ok they were trusting people, but not vulnerable. So brings me back to: I have no idea. Curious what The Master himself has to say about this!

  14. nikitalondon says:

    I vote normal. The story is hilarious 😂. I just did not know you could do all that stuff.. technology advances and I have no clue..

  15. Cindy says:

    I voted normal. In todays society, if you’re not young and beautiful, no one wants to listen or look at you. Her motivation was money. If she were a narc, she wouldn’t have felt the need to completely hide her identity as she would believe there is nothing wrong with the way she looks.

    1. Bibi says:

      I would agree with you but I draw the line at conning people into sending you money.

      1. Maria says:

        I think conning is a strong word. I think most people know that the internet and images are part of living in a world of suspended belief or disbelief.

        We do that here with HG Tudor. I buy his books, fully aware that “he” is an internet personality and may not be exactly what he says he is. (Maybe “he’s” a therapist who believes, rightly, that this is the precise vehicle that some of us need to take delivery of this message.)

        My opinion is that in most “internet personality” money exchanges, there is the unwritten caveat that you are paying for entertainment.

        She lives in China where the majority of the population is piss poor. I would not blame a normal, poor person for doing this. The rich do it, but they aren’t doing it because they are starving or their clothing is threadbare. And so, I just can’t see this as a narcissist act without other indications.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You make a valid point with regard to anybody on the internet, but I am not a therapist. If I was, what I am doing would contravene their ethics and license terms, it is precisely because I am not a therapist that means I can do this. It entertains me to be described as an Internet personality, but there are worse labels available!

          1. Maria says:

            HG , I am glad you are entertained by the description and not offended. I was concerned you might be.

            Point taken about ethics and therapists. I just mean that I wouldn’t be upset if we found out some day that you are not, in fact, a true narcissist. The information you provide is helpful and may be even life-saving for some and I am glad you provide it. Period. So, thank you.

          2. HG Tudor says:

            I’m what I explain I am. That’s why I’m the best at giving you the information you need.

          3. Maria says:

            I don’t know how you could know what you know otherwise, so I do believe you.

          4. kel2day says:

            I like your gravatar HG. It seems symbolic like you’re piloting us to a safe place.

          5. HG Tudor says:

            Interesting and accurate.

  16. lisk says:

    I voted Normal.

    Were she a narcissist, she would believer herself to be beautiful as is.

  17. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Dearest HG: I say a Narcissist: Grandiose. No Empathy. Greedy. Magical Thinking that she would not be caught. Entitlement to portray herself as a god. False superiority. No remorse or conscious. Did nothing wrong, and buyer beware attitude. Built a construct/facade. She committed an ethical crime if not a legal one. I wonder if she has to provide restitution, return the money, or is penalized in some way. I bet she will continue to perpetuate this type of fraud, in some manner, if she can get away with it. Maybe she can come out as herself, now. With that many people over there, she should be able to find a following. She is not ugly. She can still improve herself aesthetically with more effort. By the way, HG, have you ever seen the amazing Asian female facial transformations using makekup that go viral??? These makeup artists can probably defeat the highlest level facial identifyers. Here is a sample clip!: Thttps://youtu.be/qqDLBJsBbiI

    1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

      https://youtu.be/qqDLBJsBbiI

      1. MB says:

        That was amazing PSE. I hadn’t seen this before. Thank you for sharing.

        1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

          MB: Your welcome. I chose a less drastic one! Some are so shocking that some men would never trust women again and have nightmares!!!!

  18. Sniglet says:

    Comical happenstance. Celebrities do this on a daily basis with photoshop. I should do what Qiao Biluo did but filter myself as a 90 year old. After the filter glitch old men will be stunned into submission and their sons and grandsons will follow me in droves. Women too. I have a soft soothing voice with a mysterious accent. Unassuming nonjudgmental. Does it help? That’s a narcissistic move. Pow wow. <>

  19. Maria says:

    I don’t know what type of narcissist she is but boy do I wish we had the technology to unmask all of our narcs so publicly without seeming unhinged like we would if we tried it now.

    The world would be so much easier to navigate, albeit if a little less exciting. So much pain and heartache would be prevented.

    1. Maria says:

      Actually, I am going to take a vote. I voted “Normal” due to her first motivation, which I think was probably to make money and probably not to gain fuel, though gaining fuel may have been a secondary benefit that she ended up enjoying.

      If she’s not normal, she’s Narcissistic. I think a true narcissist would try to stand their ground and manipulate this situation back into their favor. They wouldn’t shy away but would instead try to prove it to the world how great they are and how truly altruistic their actions were. Or, they’d play the victim. The model, Carissa Pinkston, who recently pretended to be transgender and kept digging herself in deeper with new lies, comes to mind as a comparison.

      1. WokeAF says:

        Unless getting found out was such a massive injury that she’s had to retreat

        1. Maria says:

          I had not considered that @wokeAF… you might be right!

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