A Very Royal Narcissist – Update Part 12
Following the “Sandringham Summit” a number of matters have been decided on with regard to the Duke and Duchess of Sussex. Here is the further analysis on the ongoing saga. My observations are in bold and italics.
1. Buckingham Palace Statement
Buckingham Palace released a statement. This is produced below with explanation as to how this relates to the behaviour of Meghan Markle to enable you insight into the workings of the narcissist mind. Remember, the establishment of her being a narcissist was achieved based on a whole host of material in earlier articles (much of it before she became the Duchess of Sussex) and therefore the analysis is based on behaviour and reaction through the prism of narcissism.
“The Duke and Duchess of Sussex are grateful to Her Majesty and the Royal Family for their ongoing support as they embark on the next chapter of their lives. (False Appreciation and Facade Management – you have given us (me) what I want, which is control and although this need for control is unconscious this then allows me to be apparently gracious in response. This is a benign form of manipulation – similar to the paying of a compliment, buying a gift, taking you out for dinner when it is performed by a narcissist. The act of paying a compliment does not meant that someone is a narcissist, but when a person has been established as a narcissist through the analysis of a pattern of sustained behaviours, then everything they do is either a Benign Manipulation or a Malign Manipulation. These are necessary to enable the narcissist to control people, either in a good way or an unpleasant or even horrendous manner. The Duchess of Sussex needed control and as explained in early A Very Royal Narcissist articles, this meant leaving the UK under the “stepping back” arrangement. This has not been stopped. Therefore, Miss Markle retains control and this allows her (and Prince Harry who toes the line as an Intimate Partner Primary Source who is in the grip of control) to express gratitude. His, as a non-narcissist is genuine and has no ulterior motive other than thanks. Hers is a manipulation and is unconscious and instinctive. “You have done what I want, have a reward, I will be nice to you.”
“As agreed in this new arrangement, they understand that they are required to step back from royal duties, including official military appointments. They will no longer receive public funds for royal duties. (Agreement Only As Control Has Been Achieved – be under no illusion you will never have any guarantee of making a narcissist do something that you want. If it happens, it is because the narcissist wanted it to happen. If you think otherwise, this is an honest mistake borne out of a failure to understand what narcissism is and the impact of misleading Emotional Thinking. The Sussexes wanted to step back from royal duties so stating that “they understand they are required to step back from royal duties” makes it sound as if they have had this imposed on them, they have not. It was a requirement of the assertion of control of Miss Markle. She has got what she wants and therefore has no issue with such an observation. What about no longer receiving public funds for royal duties, surely that is a blow to the grandiosity of a narcissist (note not all narcissists operate with grandiosity)? Not in this instance. This is because of Grandiosity and Magical Thinking. The Grandiosity will be that the Sussexes do not need public funds for royal duties and and will be allied with Magical Thinking that they will be able to generate a host of income streams from a variety of commercial means (part of the purpose of stepping back from royal duties) and do so extensively and successfully.
“With The Queen’s blessing, the Sussexes will continue to maintain their private patronages and associations. While they can no longer formally represent The Queen, the Sussexes have made clear that everything they do will continue to uphold the values of Her Majesty. (Facade Management and Future Faking – again, since Miss Markle has got what she wanted and feels in control, it is easy enough to state that they will uphold the values of Her Majesty. Moreover, a narcissist will state that they will do something in the future as a means of controlling the NOW which is what the narcissism operates to do. Whether the narcissist will ever carry out the future event, is largely irrelevant, because the purpose of the stated intention is controlling the moment and by the time the future event arrives, the narcissist´s position with regard to control will have altered. The narcissists sense of entitlement, lack of emotional empathy and lack of accountability means that the future event might be delivered, but again, only if that serves the narcissist´s need for control. More usually, having obtained control, the future event is never fulfilled.
“The Sussexes will not use their HRH titles as they are no longer working members of the Royal Family. (Again you might think that not using the HRH titles sounds like some form of demotion and ordinarily, that would be a matter of concern for a narcissist as it would impact upon the notion of superiority and feel, to the narcissist, like a threat to control. However, in this instance the Sussexes chose not to be working members of the Royal Family, the non-use of the HRH titles is in accordance with and ratifies what they want, therefore control remains intact.)
“The Duke and Duchess of Sussex have shared their wish to repay Sovereign Grant expenditure for the refurbishment of Frogmore Cottage, which will remain their UK family home. (Future Faking – this is nothing that is set in concrete. It is merely stated as a wish which sounds useful to state now, for the purposes again of asserting control and for Facade Management. Since it is only stated as a wish this is as long way from being a cast-iron obligation and will only be undertaken if it suits with the narcissist´s need for control. The potential outcomes are either it is never repaid, it is repaid by Prince Charles for example on behalf of the Sussexes (he has provided them with significant financial support in the last year so aside from the refurbishment, their call on the Sovereign Grant was approximately 5% of their income) or they secure the jackpot of commercial deals, chat show appearances, book deals, after dinner speeches etc so that repayment is hardly an issue. Once more, the control remains intact.)
“Buckingham Palace does not comment on the details of security arrangements. There are well established independent processes to determine the need for publicly-funded security.
“This new model will take effect in the spring of 2020.”
The content of the statement merely demonstrates that its content accords with the sense of control which Miss Markle has at the present time, control which continues to assert itself over Prince Harry so that he acts in accordance with the stated intentions, believing and misled by his Emotional Thinking, that this is the right way forward. For now, the control remains intact, but for how long?
270 thoughts on “A Very Royal Narcissist – Update Part 12”
Have only just found this website, so Haven’t read everything re Narcissist . However, HG Tudor, have you mentioned that controlling abusers (Another name for Narcissists) tend to be loners, in the sense they do not have any close loving family. They then go on to separate their ‘victim’ from their loved ones, which then gives them complete control. Darling no one loves or cares for you more than me. You only have me to spend on. I will never let you down like they have….etc etc.
Narcissists do not tend to be loners because of the need for fuel. Narcissists are set apart from others though owing to the rejection of intimacy and attachment (from narcissist to victim, not the other way around).
Yes, I have written about the isolating behaviour of narcissists.
Narcissists frequently travel in packs, especially if they are persecuting a scapegoated family member. You will have different grades of narcissists in the pack, and many I think, are headed by a covert narc/psychopath who is able to hide within society. I’ve felt MM to be a narc and manipulator for awhile. You can also sometimes see the dual sides of her face–i.e 2 different people. She has a crazy eye on the right side of her photo sometimes. She is often seen enjoying the Press, even if negative, while Harry looks painfully squinting at the camera. He does have empathic tendencies but is low hanging fruit due to the variety of issues within his family. For example, he must endure Camilla taking the place of his mother, he will always be second in rank to William and trailing along as the 3rd wheel to William and Kate couldn’t have been always easy. If he is an empath and sensitive, he may have fallen into acts of rebellion (e.g. dressing like a Nazi) as the artificiality and “prison life” of being Royal gets to him. That’s why he loves all the freedom and empathic work in Africa. Note how the press made MM’s MS-afflicted sister an object of scorn so she was not believed when she referenced the Pushy Princess. Perhaps MM’s father knows MM’s games the best as he calls them out so she craps on him some more. Perhaps he is really the naïve one, or is himself a manipulator. Note that she craps on the “white side” of her family. The baby, Archie, is a prop. I don’t care if he was conceived early, if so; but that might be why there was no public showing the day his birth was announced. If he was conceived before their marriage, enter another well known way to get a man to marry you, especially Harry who would avoid scandal. Archie (note the defiance in giving a royal child such a casual moniker–Archie is a comic book figure with red hair–see the irony, which is no doubt MM’s private little joke)–Archie wasn’t even named Arthur (Archie is a nickname for Arthur) a traditional royal name and one of Charles’ names. Archie was well hidden in blankets when he emerged making it impossible to see his actual size. MM also flagrantly ignored easy rules to follow when she wore black nail polish and persisted in wearing black or dk navy dresses when royal women reserve black dresses for mourning, and like to wear pastels or vibrant colours for joyful occasions. MM would always be 2nd banana to Kate who seemed to sniff her out right away and refused to help “connect her.” MM is obviously a gater who recognized that Harry’s hurt and pain from losing his mother would make him likely to accept her control as he feels even though a very young boy, he could have protected his mother. Enter Meghan. Being Canadian, I think most are here are live and let live but we are annoyed MM and Harry dumped this mess into our laps and assumed entitlement to expensive security (30 million a year). Trudeau, himself Narcy, thought at first M and H would reflect well on him but soon had to do an about face when Canadians polled said they didn’t want the foot the expense. Note that Harry and Meagan did not consult Canada either, and we paid for them as visitors but will stop as their status is now changed to seeking permanent resident status. Soon Canada will be devalued for L.A. When Harry starts rows (legitimately) with Meghan over her escalating demands, she will dump him. No doubt she will take on a rich, celebrity lover first, and smear Harry. But does she realize the Queen retains custody of Archie? I don’t think MM has a snowball’s chance of winning against the very well seasoned Queen, let alone the dangerous circle around her that protects the monarchy (ref. Sarah, Diana, Andrew). Need I say more?:
Omgl! My mother had five children, she wanted us to dislike dad so we would love only her. Also, my sister and I were individually rubbished by mum so we were not friends….we figured that out and are friends! Hopefully you know that something happened to ignite the narcissistic personality in their very young years, usually about age three, to set it off.
In today’s Daily Mail, Meghan defies the Queen through “friends.” What level of narcissist is Meghan, anyway?
EXCLUSIVE: Defiant Meghan tells friends there’s nothing ‘legally stopping’ her and Prince Harry from using their Sussex Royal name, despite Queen banning them from using it
Meghan Markle has told friends there’s nothing ‘legally stopping’ her and Prince Harry from using their Sussex Royal name, DailyMail.com can reveal
The Queen said they couldn’t keep the word ‘royal’ in their ‘branding’, despite the likely thousands of dollars Meghan and Harry have sunk into their website
Meghan complained using the name ‘shouldn’t be an issue… and it’s not like they want to be in the business of selling T-shirts and pencils,’ the insider said
‘Meghan said the global projects they are working on speak for themselves and they chose that name to protect the royal name, not profit off of it’
‘She said they know what their true intentions are and that’s all that matters’
The friend added: ‘Meghan said she’s done with the drama and has no room in her life for naysayers, and the same goes for Harry’
The couple began using the Sussex Royal branding last year, after splitting from the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge’s household known as Kensington Royal
I am very much enjoying the headlines this morning on Meghan. A superlative bit of out manoeuvring by the palace 😊 . A demonstration of a mid rangers limitations maybe???
HG, didn’t you say Flack (who dated Haz for a while) was also a Narc?
I watched the Royal Divide documentary last night. It made me question what I was so sure about only yesterday morning. Of course, I also question whether it’s me who is the narcissist, whether anyone ever tells the truth or we’re all just big fat liars trying to make ourselves feel better, and if the world is actually flat after all.
And so…I’m going to jump all the way to the fragile end of the thinnest limb I can possibly climb out on…is it an absolute certainty that Meghan is a narcissist instead of it being the two of them both simply acting like spoiled, entitled trailer trash? I feel so wishy washy, but I can look at every single fact and I am able to construct 17 billion alternate interpretations simultaneously…
1. Use this https://narcsite.com/why-am-i-behaving-like-the-narcissist/
2. Yes, she is.
3. Who repeatedly acts in a spoiled and entitled manner? Narcissists do. (Note Harry is not, he is being dragged along under Meghan´s control). People repeatedly euphemism the behaviour of narcissists and you provided a further example of this and how doubt exists in people’s minds.
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I was really happy for Harry in the beginning and thought that Meghan would be a great asset to the RF.
I was completely taken in by the engagement interview.
I only began to notice that things were not working out when they split with the Cambridges.
Since the split from the whole RF I have been trying to work out what has gone wrong.
Now I am left thinking that perhaps Meghan thought that she and Harry could set up an alternative Royal court in Canada, as Canada is a commonwealth country. This would have enabled them to have high profile travel to all the countries of the Commonwealth at the taxpayers expense, That way Meghan would be able to achieve her aim of being a global humanitarian. As the queen, in her wisdom, would not allow this, I believe that they will leave Canada and move to LA. where Meghan will surround herself with as many celebrities as possible. she needs them to raise money for her causes. Harry will be left holding the baby and unless he comes to his senses he will be discarded as soon as Meghan feels she can make it without him.
This is all so sad as I believe Harry really loves her and thinks that he is doing his best for his family.
The really galling part is that Meghan has the rest of the world believing that the entire UK is a hateful country filled with bigotry and racism. Can’t deny that racism does exist and that Meghan did experience it in some measure, especially from the British tabloids, but she was given a warm welcome as the cheering crowds at the wedding will testify. This could have been a marriage with so much potential for good. Instead it is just so sad for everyone concerned.
Will you be sorry to see them go to Canada?
I am never sorry for anything.
I wonder if Mehgan realizes how much it rains and is overcast in Vancouver BC. 🤣🤣🤣 – She won’t be able to handle the weather there. She’ll be heading for Sunny LA soon! Californians are notoriously bad ad handling clouds or weather other than sun and low humidity. 🤣😂🤣
This is going to be a “royal” sh@tshow.
I apologize if this has been mentioned already, as I haven’t read all of the Very Royal Narcissist series, but what I notice with narcissists is how jealous they always are of others. I think one thing that came into play here with Meghan is that she’s jealous of William and Kate that they and their children are destined to be the King and Queen one day, something that she and Harry and their offspring never can be. So rather than come in second place to the Cambridge’s, she’s taken control and indicated being royal is inferior to them, acting as if being independent of the firm is superior.
Also, when Harry was giving his departing speech, he stumbled when he said “When “I” decided that leaving was the only choice we had” – it seemed like he almost said when ‘we’ decided or that he was trying not to put any blame on Meghan for the decision. But if it were just his idea and just his decision, then he wouldn’t have stumbled over those words.
He’s giving up one thing that meant everything to him- his military affiliation. Really Meghan, what a whirlwind blew into England such a short time ago.
Someone had mentioned a tweet from Serena Williams’ husband which could be referring to Meghan. Tweet and replies are here:
This photo may be involved:
And yes, more people are using the other N word–narcissist.
Well; it’s a challenging piece.
It took me quite a few moments to work it out. At first I thought shed fallen asleep after too much ‘refreshment’. There is something very awkward about her limbs.
Then I clocked it. Wow. What an absolute fucking idiot.
I PRAY HARRY WILL COME TO HIS SENSES AND SEE WHAT MEGAN IS ALL ABOUT. SHE IS A NARCISSISTS PIG !!!!!!
Violetta, so clever, cute and true. You are a poet! Haven’t been on the site long so I’m just learning the many talents of my comrades. I just keep seeing those creepy photos of MM carrying Archie (if you can call it that). Why not a stroller so he could actually be stimulated by the beautiful surroundings. Oh dear, she wouldn’t have been able to take the puppies. Puppies always draw empathetic sighs.
I too clocked the very awkward (theres that word again!) way of carrying him.
Personally for that very obvious photoshoot, I’d have ditched the pooch. Too busy and it means in that vapid single track mind of hers, she cabt focus on either effectively.
Susan: that’s a 2nd-generation parody. Lewis Carroll made fun of the preachy poem “How Doth the Little Busy Bee” with “How Doth the Little Crocodile” in one of the Alice books, and I riffed on that when someone mentioned Meghan’s crocodile-smile.
I feel bad for Harry, but she is entertaining, in a sick way. I suppose when things finally blow up in her face, I’ll feel sorry for her though. I’ve been feeling sorry for Madonna lately, of all people. I looked at footage of her from Live Aid, and thought, “She was having fun then–that’s what sold her act: not her singing or dancing.” She’s not having fun anymore, and that’s the real reason she can’t fill even a mid-sized venue anymore, not her age or the age of her fans. Cher and Joan Jett can still sell tickets, and they’ve been around longer.
HG, if I may suggest something, it would be great if you could write about how you know that Harry is in devaluation phase. Well, I think we all “feel it” that there is something going on behind closed door but from the outside it still looks like loving family – we don’t know about her looking for the replacement, we didn’t hear her badmouthing Harry, she acts like loving and protective wife and now they will be closer with each other than before – without snoopy family. Do there are no evidence she no longer love bombs him.
But still we are missing something, maybe you could tell us how you dertmined their golden period is over, it would be super interesting and educational.
I suspect that HG determined that Harry was in devaluation by observing a repeated pattern of behaviour evidenced by the media. The Inside Track may also help fill in the blanks.
HG, thank you for your response and insight. Now I have a method to better analyze modern society and how it seems to be changing so rapidly.
Apple. Tree. Proximity:
It’s not even proper etiquette to discuss finances in regard to your children and a person having paid for whatever. You pay for what you pay for because it is a responsibility you choose, and then keep your mouth shut. In fact, doesn’t your mouth just stay shut because normal people don’t even think of what they paid for re, their children? Is the insinuation here that daddy Markle is a sulky mid range narcissist? I’ve never looked at material discussing him but if this link is accurate it sounds like a pity play.
Has the “A Very Royal Narcissist” series has come to an end? If yes: because you fully exposed and explained her actions? If no: can we expect an update any time in the future?
Oh, I don’t doubt that you work in mysterious ways.
……and most lawyers are politicians 😂
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
“If people try hard enough they can be offended by anything.”
As for employment, I have done the whole gamut from blue collar to white collar work and everything in between. I don’t judge.
The only thing that I personally could not tolerate at this point (and totally respect those that do) is food service or nursing.
In attempt to pay my way through art college, I lasted one night (hired on the spot) as a waitress at an Italian eatery and refused to go back.
Nursing – because of my experience with victim narcs…pretty certain I would have trouble maintaining any level of a decent beside manner if I recognized a client as such.
And for the record – I love my lawyer!
I didn’t mean it that way, HG! I just thought this particular one leaned more towards entertainment then towards instruction.
Beside, I’d likely already have it if it were currently offered in paperback 😉
I entertain and instruct, WC. Everything I do is to educate you all, sometimes when you do not realise.
”Moreover, a narcissist will state that they will do something in the future as a means of controlling the NOW.”
I love it! ‘Mammy can i have an ice cream,i promise to clean my room when we get back home.’ I use to do this,i think.
I bet he has a 44” waist Alexis. He’s not elite—just cerebral but he read the requirements on being elite and he is mirroring Bradley Cooper.
Hahahaha Lorelei! You have him sussed!
Just a silly jab!
How doth the little Meghan M.
Grin as she swims about?
Found the RF, invading them,
And lured poor Harry out
How she did flout their customs!
How she evaded laws!
And welcomed poor old Harry in
With gently smiling jaws
Kip and HG
I am so grateful for the insight. Absorbing.