20 Bullets From The Pomposity Pistol


To say that my kind and me have a high opinion of ourselves is to put it too low. We are superior, of an elevated status and ethereally stunning and wonderful. Our achievements are magnificent, our accomplishments legion and we leave you mere mortals trailing in our wake.

We know you look on, slack-jawed and wide-eyed, a mixture of awe and envy washing over you. How good it must be to be like us, you wonder. Well not only are we spectacular and scintillating we are generous too, so generous that I can share with you twenty of our excessively vain and self-centred comments.

You may have heard a number of these said to you, about you or just uttered in your general earshot as we gaze nobly towards the horizon. If you have, you know you are dealing with one of our kind and that we wholeheartedly believe these comments irrespective of how pompous, hypocritical ,vain or ridiculous they may sound.All that matters to us is ensuring we gain a reaction to them.

Here are twenty bullets which the narcissist will fire from The Pomposity Pistol which you need to dodge.



  1. I don’t complain, I advise.
  2. I do, I am not done to.
  3. Don’t be sorry. Be accurate.
  4. I turn heads. I turn sexual preferences.
  5. I own you.
  6. I have every right to do this.
  7. I never lie.
  8. I achieved all this without any help whatsoever.
  9. I made you what you are today.
  10. I am very much in touch with my feelings.
  11. I hate liars.
  12. It is all down to me.
  13. I am a god.
  14. If it wasn’t for me, nothing would get done round here.
  15. I think of everyone but myself. I am too giving at times.
  16. It can be hard being this well-loved.
  17. I cannot help being so popular.
  18. They are my people. They get understand me,
  19. Everyone wants to either be me or be with me.
  20. I am the puppet master and the piper. Deal with it.

9 thoughts on “20 Bullets From The Pomposity Pistol

  1. Heather says:

    Here is the supposed heart wrenching apology from the “silent treatment” one month ago from my narc ex boyfriend; of course two weeks later I’m a slut as and I talk too much. Normally he loves it when I talk b/c it’s all about him.

    It breaks my heart that I couldn’t find a way forward w you. No one ever made me feel so strong and wanted. I know you wanted a full commitment but I needed you to meet me in the middle. 

    I am, who I am, you are who you are…but you refuse to respect what I have worked for my whole life. 

    You don’t respect my beliefs, you refuse to respect that I exceed you professionally and respect my position. You bring a lot of NEED into a relationship and ….. I didn’t care, because I ADORE you.

    It breaks my heart, even though you think I’m cold. I’m just hard, not cold…I wanted MY Heather…I always have…but you changed, became judgmental and demanding for personal NEEDS and other reasons. 

    I’m writing this because I’m incredibly sad, and even though I said a lot of rough things… I love you. I don’t know how to fix this , and I don’t know if you care. .I wanted you to know that you were loved more completely than you may ever know, and I’m very sorry that I am unable to communicate that love to your satisfaction. 

    I want you to know, I only wanted to love and support you and I failed. I am so sorry, and you may never understand. Please forgive my failure, I never meant to hurt you.



    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Heather and welcome to the blog. You have identified a range of manipulations in your comment and should you wish to analyse this further do avail yourself of a Narc Detector Consultation and continue to read here.

      1. Heather says:

        I should have done the consultation but alas, I finally freed myself from him. I moved to Kentucky when he decided to move to San Antonio. He fully expected me to wait until he got “established” and then I would get a job….blah, blah, blah. I sat quietly when he told me this was our plan – without even consulting me. Anyway, the fight, discard ensued and I just withdrew. When he found out that I got a job (promotion) with. Different company it more than startled him. The chase began. I humored him and let him “help” me but, I witnessed the unspeakable and told him if he ever contacted me again, His security clearance would be jeopardized because I would, once again, have to go to counseling. It’s been two weeks, and nothing. He’s probably taking out his rage on everyone he knows but, at least I am done.

  2. Violetta says:

    Don’t know if you’ve been following the Harvey Weinstein trial, HG, but forcibly performing oral sex on women (rather than forcing them to perform oral sex on him) seems to have been a big deal with him. What was up with that? Was it that he couldn’t always manage PIV (several witnessed testified that his genitalia looked deformed–sounds like Hypospadias)? Or was this some notion that women enjoy receiving oral, so if he could make someone enjoy something physically in spite of herself, he would really be Da Man?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I have been looking in. It was, of course, all about control.

    2. NarcAngel says:

      Wow. Weinstein was hit with genetic predisposition, the ugly stick AND weird junk. Little wonder the result.

  3. parkermccoy says:

    “Don’t be sorry. Be accurate.”

    Hahahaha. What a jerk thing to say!

    But it’s also pretty damn accurate.

  4. Gina says:

    My ex narc was never direct. Passive aggressive and charming. But in indirect ways he said 5, 6 and 9. 7 he said directly, only it was “I used to lie, sorry about that, but I never lie now.” Number 10, “I don’t have any problems, I am very happy. It’s the marriage that is the problem.” Meaning I was the problem because I was the only other person in the marriage. Number 15, “I have done plenty for this family,” this in response to asking how we will pay the bills and why he only thinks about his own needs. Number 20. “That part from the bible about men being head of household? I’m thinking that is correct and that someone has to be the lead in all of the decisions for the family.”

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