The Narcissistic Covenant
There is a covenant which exists between you and I, between our kind and your kind. It is not necessary for you to provide consent to this covenant in order for it to be binding. You do not know that this covenant exists but it does. Its terms govern the relationship between us and you, whether you are entangled with the Lesser of our kind, the Mid-Range or the Greater. It matters not. The covenant applied from the moment that we selected you to be our victim. There are ten parts to this covenant and they reflect the mind set and attitude of our kind towards you and how you and I interact. There is little doubt that in looking back at your entanglement with us you will recognise certain elements of this but whilst you were very much in our grip, you would have no idea that these were the terms which governed our treatment of you.
- You were chosen
Our ensnaring of you might have been portrayed as chance, a piece of serendipity but it was not. You were chosen to be our victim. The Lesser will have instinctively recognised your potential without knowing why. The Mid-Range will have applied some thought to the process, potentially dismissing less favourable candidates. The Greater identified you, monitored you and then moved in for the “kill”. In every instance you were chosen.
- You belong to us
You are an object to us. An appliance. Therefore, we are able to assert proprietary rights over you just as we would with some other kind of object or chattel. Since we own you, we choose what to do with you, without recourse to you or anybody else. This is our inalienable right.
- You exist solely for our purposes
We are the centre of your world, the heart of your universe and at all times everything that you do should be focused on us, for our benefit and advancement. You do not exist for your family. You do not exist for our children. You do not exist for your friends, colleagues, fellow members of a club or congregation. We are all that matters to you.
- This is forever
This covenant lasts for ever. In our minds it is one that exists in perpetuity for we do not wish to contemplate our own demise and care nothing for yours, other than it inconveniencing us by the interruption to our supply of fuel. This relationship transcends all others. You may have told us that you do not wish to be “with us” any longer. You may have broken off the engagement or divorced us. In our mind all that you have done is end the Formal Relationship which is something that people lesser than our kind engage in with one another and that which we accede to for the sake of fitting in. In our minds our relationship exists beyond this Formal Relationship. This is the Narcissistic Relationship and means we remain entitled to effect the terms of this covenant against you at all times until your last breath or our last breath.
- This is totalitarian
There is no limit to our power over you. We are entitled to and we will exercise our right to, govern every facet of your life, interfere in everything that you do, monitor you and control you in order to achieve our aims. You must accept that you are entirely subservient to us.
- You cannot end this covenant
You have no rights under this covenant. You cannot bring about its unilateral termination. Indeed, it cannot be ended at all. You are not able to state that its terms are inapplicable to you, that it has no jurisdiction or effect over you. Such protestations are invalid.
- We owe you nothing
We are entitled to do as we please without challenge, question or restraint. We have no obligation to do anything for you. We have no compulsion to act in your interests, have regard to your opinion, your feelings or your desires. If we do so, it will only be for the advancement of our position.
- Fuel provision is paramount
The provision of fuel is above all else. This is in terms of what you must provide to us and also in allows us to seek fuel from other sources, whenever we deem necessary and howsoever we choose. Concepts of fidelity and monogamy are null and void with regard to this part of the covenant. Issues of protocol and etiquette and meaningless.
- The Ends Justifies the Means
The covenant grants us carte blanche to do what is necessary for our purposes. This is supported by our concept of total entitlement and the fact that we have no accountability, culpability or blameworthiness for any of our actions. Whatever needs to be done will be done to ensure the furtherance of our agenda, aims and needs.
- We are the Victim
We are the victim in all of this. This is why the covenant exists by reason to compensate us for all of the outrageous injustices, misfortunes, unfairness and hardships that this cruel and feckless world has meted out to us.
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Interesting perspective, thanks! I think it’s true, except I do think it’s possible to make a narc understand there’s no forever. If you pay attention to someone’s, thoughts, behaviors, and patterns. It’s easy to identify what makes them tick, which subjects/people make them uneasy, and what they value most. Although narcs hide behind a mask, they are quite predictable. They lie all the time, but eventually, they let something slip. Especially if you present yourself in a naïve manner. They love to brag, so you let them talk and gather the info you need. In my experience, if you discard a narc first, in a completely unemotional and detached way, they can’t stand it. They still think they own you, so they come back for the hoover. This is when you stick the knife in and twist. You hit on an insecurity/subject that is DEEPLY important to them, in a nonchalant way. Something that will infuriate them. You craft it in a way that would make them look crazy if they complained about what you said or did, but both of you know. Of course, you have taken steps beforehand to assure they cannot affect your life in any way. They are blindsided and start to realize what they are dealing with. Whether they rage or try to play it cool, there’s always that pause of shock before they speak. you don’t show any emotion at all, like the sucker-punch you just dealt is as mundane as doing the laundry. You then move on to a different subject. You don’t ask them how they feel, explain yourself, or breach the topic. You end the talk like any other convo and give them no closure. They may send you a text or two, to try to ascertain where they stand and whether or not they were actually played. You ignore everything. They realize they picked the wrong victim, and you never hear from them again. I don’t believe they think they own you anymore. Maybe you think differently, or you are smart enough to give zero ammunition in the first place. Most narcs aren’t. Most “victims” aren’t smart enough to load the gun the right way either, even if they have the bullets. I’m not a narc, but I’m a different corner of the same triangle. I love learning everything I can about the way people think/behave and the reasons why. I’d appreciate your insight, if you care to share.
Hello Anon
I agree, once you become familiar with their mind set, narcissists can be quite predictable, however, you are imposing your worldview.
Narcissists value control and fuel above all else and it is an inherent part of the dynamic that you belong to the narcissist forever, therefore, there is always the risk of a hoover occurring. These articles below explain the ways that the narcissist thinks and behaves and the reasons why. Enjoy the reading!
https://narcsite.com/2019/12/17/no-contact-mistakes-thinking-we-will-not-hoover-you-2/
https://narcsite.com/2020/03/07/the-narcissists-3-assertions-of-control/
https://narcsite.com/3-key-interactions/
HG Tudor says:
September 23, 2019 at 09:32
They do not own you from your perspective, but we do own you, from our perspective. We need control, to control something, you must own it, hence that mind set.
https://narcsite.com/2019/09/20/a-bowl-of-cherries-3/#comment-299491
Thank you both. That makes sense. The fuel requirement is what drives the need for ownership… Narcs are incapable of relinquishing title to that person in their minds, even after a brutal narcissistic injury. I’m guessing that perspective is adopted and ingrained into the psych to protect the ego. Admitting someone got the upper hand, even to themselves, is intolerable. Therefore, it can never be true. Whereas, my objective was met, and that’s the end of my concern. In their minds, they always have the option of going back, but may choose not to. They realize certain individuals have very low potential fuel output in the future. They “could” return, if they wanted to, but they realize they are digging for emotional output in an empty barrel. Whether or not an objective person could declare a “winner” in any of these mind games is irrelevant because they must always win in their own eyes. Is that correct?
My pleasure Anon
Bingo!
The need for fuel is the driver behind all of their behavior (see sadistic Streak). Correct, the narcissistic perspective is hardwired and is, above all, a self-defense mechanism. Admitting that someone else got the upper hand would be a transfer of power and the narcissism won’t allow it!
In your world, your objective was met and your concerns were satisfied (self-validation) which allows you to move forward.
The narcissist doesn’t have any choice in how they interact/respond to their appliances because the self-defence mechanism dictates their behavior, however, instinctively they recognize when an appliance may pose a risk of wounding, which raises the hoover bar, so they would turn to an alternative appliance instead (one that is easier to manipulate).
Again, you are correct, in our world, the only way to win is by NOT entering the battlefield because, from the narcissistic perspective, the narcissist is alway winning and everyone else is always losing.
“In our minds we win every single time.” (see Shifting Sands)
https://narcsite.com/2020/03/31/sadistic-streak-13/
https://narcsite.com/2020/03/30/shifting-sands-13/