For the forty-second day in a row you arrive at work and find that there is an offensive voicemail waiting for you. “You left without paying and you will soon do so you fucking bitch. Nobody leaves without paying. Understand?” You replace the handset and feel the sick sensation rising inside you again. Why does […]
Devaluation. This period of the narcissistic dynamic is regarded as always part of the dynamic and understandably the worst part of it. Those who consider it as an ever present part of the dynamic however are over-stating its presence because whether devaluation appears at all and if it does, how it will manifest, depends very […]
The period of devaluation will feel like an ongoing onslaught against you as the various methods of manipulation are deployed against you. We know that it cannot be an unending assault, for no matter how tempting it may be to keep exacting the negative fuel from you as a consequence of your tears, […]
It is fundamental that we remain unaccountable for our actions. Not only is it the case that we believe we are entitled to complete immunity for what we say and do, occasioned by our innate superiority, we also believe it to be necessary for us to be able to gather fuel as often and […]
The use of and imposition of silence are two of the most powerful weapons in our abusive arsenal. Silence is easy to deploy and horrendously effective in securing our aims of compliance, control and fuel. 1. My silence is always meaningful You may sit quietly because you have no need to say anything. You may […]