The Truth About Flying Monkeys

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Narcissists invariably use “Flying Monkeys” don’t they?

It is about time you learned the truth about them in this extensive breakdown which will leave you stunned by HG Tudor´s revelations about them.

A massive injection of logic which will leave you heartened and encouraged.

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33 thoughts on “The Truth About Flying Monkeys

  1. relaxingtime says:

    I’ve been a silent spectator of this site for last few months. It has been very helpful in my recovery, so thanks to that. I always wanted to share my story, but never got the time. Today I just thought lets just start to write, then can share the story any time. I get the feeling that I’m being smeared for the third or fourth time who knows in my work place by my narc. Why third or fourth time? I’m a stronger person and got out of it every time and proven to be stronger. But this afternoon, again got the sensation because I slowly see my friends who I trusted are getting annoyed at me with no reason (well the only reason I can think of is that they are mutual friends of me and narc). So I guess that explains it. I come to this site whenever I feel alone in this world. I’m not alone. There is a comfort in all this misery. That we are all there for each other to share our story and comfort each other. We all can understand each other, only we can understand each other. We will come out stronger and live to tell the story.

  2. Snow White says:

    Good morning!
    I have been interested in reading more about all the people surrounding you and this was great.
    Having many people who supported my ex’s facade was what was the most convincing. I couldn’t imagine that if so many people loved her that she should be anything but a good person. Not one person said anything bad about her and no one went against what she said. All of the members at the gym loved her and this is what I saw.
    They made a great supporting cast for her. And I’m sure you and yours would win at the Oscars.
    Are you writing a separate article about the lieutenants?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Indeed I am.

      1. Snow White says:

        You are the best.
        Looking forward to it.

    2. Love says:

      Hi Snow! My ex narcs all had a large posse, and always one best friend (aka lieutenant). I also thought they had to have a good heart to be so well liked. But I realized they bought their friendships. Lending money, providing allibies, doing favors, picking up the tab. They showed kindness and generosity to get something in return. As Mr. Tudor mentioned, empathic traits are not required in a coterie. The friends were users as well. Birds of a feather flock together.

      1. Snow White says:

        Hello Love!!!
        I believe my ex also kept one around all the time and it was her lieutenant. He was a good guy who was as blinded as me. There was a huge blowup between them and she told him she hated him and never wanted to see him again but that changed and he ended up her best man. He will be around awhile unless his new girlfriend catches on.

        She had me fooled because all the old people at the gym said they looked forward to coming on because she was there and she helped them. Of course I didn’t know about fuel then. Lol… now I know why

        She told me frequently that she didn’t have friends ( she didn’t like to let people in) but many many people that she could hang out with in a second. She loved her contact list.

        When you when out with your narcs was there always some else with you?

        I wanted to tell you that I ventured into the sauna today because it was empty, Lol

      2. Love says:

        Omg Snow! My last narc used the ‘can’t let anyone in’ line. Blukh 😝
        And yes, the majority of my narcs always brought along their entourage. I think my only purpose was to babysit the crew’s wives and kids…. Which was a blast! Not!
        If there was a trip that included their family members, I already knew it would be non-romantic. Somebody would be spending the night in the room with us.😕
        Good for you for venturing to the sauna area. I’m proud of you! The best discussions happen there. You will have fun, I promise. ❤

        1. Snow White says:

          Same stupid lines Love!!! I thought they were real. Blukh and yuck is right.

          That’s terrible that you were the babysitter!
          You sound like way too much fun to be sitting around with kids while everyone else was carrying on with nothing to worry about.

          Whatever perks her girlfriend and I were getting it wasn’t always worth the spoiled dates and nights ending in tears.

          If I need sauna talk desiphered I will ask you Love! Lol ❤️🍎❤️

  3. Twilight says:

    HG the IPPS and IPSSs are they separate from your coterie?
    You have 1 IPPS and several IPSSs correct or am I misunderstanding?
    Do your IPSSs know of each other and compete for your attention and wait for the fall of the IPPS?

    Sorry about all the questions no sleep, changing locks and what’s worse imaginary drama or actual drama, I don’t know how you keep it all straight HG just trying to imagine a day in your life and I am in need of a vacation.

  4. Victory says:

    Do the coterie serve as Lts. also? His sister and brother in law(& best friend) seem owned lock, stock & barrel, serving as ministers of procurement, lie reinforcers & sources of fuel also. They adore you when he says, fill his emotional voids with their words & actions towards you & with a snap become cruel & disdainful. I have labeled them his flying monkeys.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No. As the article states, there are two groups – The Lieutenants and the The Coterie. The people you describe are Lieutenants as they have a pro-active role on behave of the narcissist. I know people use the term flying monkeys but this is too broad a description – plus they aren’t real!

  5. NP says:

    Oh dear, it all makes sense now.

    I think I have been used by Narc siblings in one way or the other, but its because I believed what they said.

    I didn’t think they were the evil one or that they could tell such horrible lies about someone else who they considered a friend before, or another family member.

    But thank God my blinders are off…

  6. MLA - Clarece says:

    Meh! My Squad can take on your Coterie anytime.

  7. Matilda says:

    A big circle of friends and admirers is another MASSIVE RED FLAG!

    The Coterie makes you look good, and gives the victim a false sense of security. Like the serial killer with (false) family portraits in his car to lure the trusting to their deaths. The Lieutenants will do your dirty work later on! And you are laughing at her, washing your hands of responsibility. One can only hope that you get a taste of your own medicine some day, it might be the only way you learn.

    1. NarcAngel says:

      I cant stop laughing. Serial killers luring people to their cars with family portraits! Like some kind of macabre mobile photo booth. I shit you not-I am currently wiping away tears of laughter.
      *exits vehicle to approach woman on park bench*
      Serial killer: lovely day!
      Victim: why yes it is! Join me on this bench and enjoy the sun.
      SK: well that sounds lovely but I was wondering if youd like to come to my car to take in some lovely family portraits I have there.
      V: Do I! Why I havent seen a good Grandpa Jack in a while!
      SK: I have a Grandpa Jack! We were meant to be together.
      *both stroll to car*
      SK: Get a load of that portrait of Aunt Mary hanging from the rearview mirror while I fetch the others from the trunk.
      *returns with other portraits*
      V: Heeeey…..wait a minute…..Aunt Mary looks suspiciously like the same woman I saw in a frame at the department store……
      SK: Heh heh….well its nothing to lose your head over….
      *cue scary music and pan to knife behind his back*

      Serial Killers luring victims to their cars with family portraits. Matilda youre the best!. I havent laughed that hard in ages. I think I peed a little in my pants.

      1. Matilda says:


        Huh, what are you talking about?! 😀

        Lovely, that I sparked your imagination 😉 . I probably should have worded it differently: I was referring to hitchhikers who accepted rides from serial killers, deeming these people trustworthy because they presented themselves as family men, doting husbands and fathers… and one of the tactics they used was the display of (fake) family portraits in their cars. I don’t remember the killers’ names, but it happened. And reading about the coterie triggered the memory.

  8. HG,
    Thanks for explaining that. I pictured you saying it like a PowerPoint presentation. I have met all of these people. One in particular that stands out is a guy I will call JFK. He was my ex narcs right hand. This guy cleaned up every mess, smoothed over numerous people and catered to this narc like he was the king. He is the one who set me up with the Narc. He is the one that would be like, “come on ABB don’t be like that, he loves you…etc..etc. Hang in there. Accept him”. He came running after me literally on behalf of my ex narc when we broke up at Narcs Father’s funeral. He brought another girl after calling me and telling me to come with my son to his father’s funeral because he needed people he loved with him and he knew now that his Father loved me and I should get back together with him. Another Girl!!!! What was this guy thinking HG? I really would like to know. I mean the narc not the lieutenant. Oh and do you have a right hand man HG?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I have a left hand man and a right hand man.

      1. Should have known that based on your ambidextrousness! 🖑🖐

        1. HG Tudor says:


    2. Love says:

      In the mob world, we like to call the left/right hand man ‘the cleaner’.
      By we, I mean them. And by them, I mean the ones I’ve seen in movies 😀

  9. Paranormal effects are in work as well to create he narc hive mind. Great article HG

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thanks GG.

  10. Sarabella says:

    Its a question I asked this morning (hope you have time to answer, in the Pretend post)…. I sense from you in all of these categories, a sort of disdain and contempt for the characteristics of all these people. Despite the fuel, do you still hold these group members in some contempt for how easy they are to manipulate, how hypocritical they are, and how well, “stupid” they are to not really see you or even sense what they see when it is staring right back at them? To not be able to check their own reactions to you and challenge their own acceptance of you even when you know those people hear of your awful deeds?

    I guess I am a bit of his enemy then in that I never fit into one of those groups with any sort of solid membership, even before he hooked me. I never “found” my place. I did not perform very well, I guess. Broken appliance?

  11. Love says:

    Thank you. This was very informative. What would you say is the percentage of narcs vs empaths vs norms in your coterie? You wrote the Pick Mes and assumingly Harpies are lower level narcs. Are Waterfalls mostly codependents?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I assume you mean Simply Wonderfuls and not Waterfalls. No they are not necessarily co-dependents. The Harpies and Pick Mes need not be narcissists but those with strong narcissistic traits. In my coterie it is 20% normals, 10% narcissists, 30% narcissistic traits, 40% empaths.

      1. Love says:

        Thank you! I love numbers ☺ interesting that empaths are a minority in your group in comparison to the sum of others. Why do you think that is? Are the ones who are more empathic lined up as a potential intimate source?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          The IPPS and IPSSs are the main fuel sources. They are not part of the Coterie. Thus the fuel producing empathy is required there most of all.

          Those in the Coterie are there to provide some fuel, but to be used in the ways that I have described which does not require masses of empathic individuals.

  12. Elena says:

    Respetado Sr. Tudor:
    Escucho los posts del blog en YouTube.
    La voz suena didáctica y profesional: dicción clara, correctamente modulada, dando el sentido preciso a cada frase.
    La voz adecuada para un profesor.
    Adiós. Un abrazo.

  13. Laurie says:

    What about when the coterie consists of other narcissists who are all mid-Rangers? How is the leader of the coterie, the top dog ,picked? Or is there some tacit understanding amongst you that you will all take turns fake giving a shit about and oohing and ahh-ing each other’s accomplishments?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I would envisage such a coterie would be governed by a Greater, hence he or she is top dog.

      1. Laurie says:

        Thank you. Just seeing your comment. My internet skills can’t keep up with your website changes. The leader of the coterie to which I was referring is a mid-ranger but I will tell you this I would put this snake-in-the-grass covert against almost any greater any day. She is a master manipulator and totally controls her flock.

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