This one is so very true and works on those who lack self respect and love. They need validation and keep trying to please those who arent showing them the attention they want. They respect the most those that respect them the least. Very sad.
Hi Doc,
Yes, me too.
I used to be hurt by it. I do understand how it hurts, particularly when one has invested a lot of time and resources in the relationship. And when they have begun to merge lives when the devaluation begins. That’s brutal. One of the reasons I do not move in unless married. (Hmmm, perhaps that’s why I have 5 engagement rings lol 😂) No accepted engagements anymore until the 3 year mark! For good measure. (Shit, I’m dying alone with cats)
And if I have another deep romantic and loving relationship again, it is gonna proceed slow as a snail stuck in molasses. Mmmm molasses cookies…now I’m hungry!
Done with Candyland and Chutes and Ladders! They have NO IDEA how good WE can be at making them think we do not know it’s a game. Watching all the while, dissecting it, labeling parts and even walk away from the table. Empath bonus points: invisibility cloaking.
I don’t give a shit about anyone who doesn’t give me the proper attention I deserve. I don’t have time to sit around wasting energy on that shit when I could find someone better and replace the fucker. Lol
I didn’t move on with my ex for a few reasons. One of the reasons I never mentioned to anyone and for the first time am saying here is I wanted my space. The thought of having that dipshit up my ass everyday monitoring everything made me cringe.
I look back now and realize he future faked the shit out of me. From the start he was telling me he wanted to marry me and then as time went on he would barely even mention it. He would mention moving in together. When I started getting my doctorate (I already at that point had my masters in school psych) He tried to indirectly convince me to just get a job and drop out of school. Hahahha wow yeah fucking right! Could you fucking imagine if I did that just to make him happy and so we could get a place together. That dumbass also never looked beyond his nose.
Lemme tell you what he really wanted – he wanted someone who looked good – who was a hole to stick his dick in – someone who would let him use them for money – a roommate – someone to do housework- he wanted a cover “beard” because he really wants dick not a chick – he wanted an emotional punching bag – fuck that and fuck him.
One time – He had the balls to say I was being disobedient! Haha – like you should ever say that to anyone? I mean you sure as shit shouldn’t say that to someone with ODD.
The second a perceive someone trying to get me to do things for them or like they speak to me in a controlling or condescending manner or…. they tell me how I should behave or think – I clock out.
I will never fucking settle on anything less than what I want and I will never fuxking never let anyone treat me like shit ever again!
Yes, I know what it’s like to receive the silent treatment and be ignored and I often give it in return because I know that’s what wounds him the most. I’m just wondering if it has the same affect on him or if it just angers him. I think he’d go off the deep end if I was silent for good but I’m not sure he’d miss me. More likely he’d miss what I have to offer him.
Adoring and ignoring works on me.
Not you Mr Tudor …. the narcissist!
Dear Mr Tudor,
The tables have now turned … I now ignore you!
So long, farewell, auf wiedersehen, goodbye!
Thankyou Mr Tudor! 😝
This one is so very true and works on those who lack self respect and love. They need validation and keep trying to please those who arent showing them the attention they want. They respect the most those that respect them the least. Very sad.
Interesting, something inside me has changed – when I’m ignored…I get over it and I’m onto the next.
I will never beg for another individual’s attention ever again.
You want me or you don’t. You like me or you don’t. If not fuck it bye.
Hi Doc,
Yes, me too.
I used to be hurt by it. I do understand how it hurts, particularly when one has invested a lot of time and resources in the relationship. And when they have begun to merge lives when the devaluation begins. That’s brutal. One of the reasons I do not move in unless married. (Hmmm, perhaps that’s why I have 5 engagement rings lol 😂) No accepted engagements anymore until the 3 year mark! For good measure. (Shit, I’m dying alone with cats)
And if I have another deep romantic and loving relationship again, it is gonna proceed slow as a snail stuck in molasses. Mmmm molasses cookies…now I’m hungry!
Indy,
We can keep eachother company lol
These men disappoint me and bore me!
😂 Doc, you got it!
Done with Candyland and Chutes and Ladders! They have NO IDEA how good WE can be at making them think we do not know it’s a game. Watching all the while, dissecting it, labeling parts and even walk away from the table. Empath bonus points: invisibility cloaking.
Never settle!! 👊🏼❤️
I don’t give a shit about anyone who doesn’t give me the proper attention I deserve. I don’t have time to sit around wasting energy on that shit when I could find someone better and replace the fucker. Lol
I didn’t move on with my ex for a few reasons. One of the reasons I never mentioned to anyone and for the first time am saying here is I wanted my space. The thought of having that dipshit up my ass everyday monitoring everything made me cringe.
Indy,
I look back now and realize he future faked the shit out of me. From the start he was telling me he wanted to marry me and then as time went on he would barely even mention it. He would mention moving in together. When I started getting my doctorate (I already at that point had my masters in school psych) He tried to indirectly convince me to just get a job and drop out of school. Hahahha wow yeah fucking right! Could you fucking imagine if I did that just to make him happy and so we could get a place together. That dumbass also never looked beyond his nose.
Lemme tell you what he really wanted – he wanted someone who looked good – who was a hole to stick his dick in – someone who would let him use them for money – a roommate – someone to do housework- he wanted a cover “beard” because he really wants dick not a chick – he wanted an emotional punching bag – fuck that and fuck him.
One time – He had the balls to say I was being disobedient! Haha – like you should ever say that to anyone? I mean you sure as shit shouldn’t say that to someone with ODD.
The second a perceive someone trying to get me to do things for them or like they speak to me in a controlling or condescending manner or…. they tell me how I should behave or think – I clock out.
I will never fucking settle on anything less than what I want and I will never fuxking never let anyone treat me like shit ever again!
Would this work in reverse?
Do you mean if you ignore us, do we want you more? Depends when you do that during our dynamic, but it can, yes.
Yes, I know what it’s like to receive the silent treatment and be ignored and I often give it in return because I know that’s what wounds him the most. I’m just wondering if it has the same affect on him or if it just angers him. I think he’d go off the deep end if I was silent for good but I’m not sure he’d miss me. More likely he’d miss what I have to offer him.
That’s interesting. I only managed to ignore him twice, and on both occasions he turned up at my door begging.
Hmmmmm. Here’s one that works FOR me and ON me! 😈