The Narcissistic Truths – No. 162


13 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 162

  1. cordelia says:

    What would be an example of when a marriage with a narcissist is not an emotional noose? What else might it be?

  2. Romi says:

    Dear H.G please help, do you think this is manipulation?

    So, the story is, I met a guy and it was just three meetings that I felt strange vibes from him, like he claimed on the very first day that he likes me. Giving me few dollars to pay my taxi Bill which I felt very strange. I told him not to rush as it’s just one week and he used to get angry. Finally I texted him and told him that I don’t see us together. Now he has convinced everyone that I did wrong to him. I have touched his hairs, his face. And the 35 year old man has got madly in love with me. Everyone around me is upset why I did this to him. This might be a minor issue for others but it’s threatening me very much. Do you think that this is a victim narcissist thing??

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It has the indications of narcissism yes.

      1. Romi says:

        What should I do now as I am so restless and feeling guilty.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Arrange to consult with me to gain a definitive assessment and then understand what you need to do to move forward. In this instant, read more to build your logic so your emotional thinking (which is causing you to feel restless and guilty) is reduced as much as you can.

      2. Romi says:

        It’s 3a.m here and I am not even able to sleep. I had a huge fight with my friend over this. Despite having a very tiring day today, I am still awake. Mentally exhausted. I need relief.

  3. Dr. Harleen Quinzel PsyD. says:

    If whatever is being promised doesn’t come to fruition in a reasonable amount of time (set a date in your head) then bye.

    Ain’t nobody got time for that lol.

  4. narc affair says:

    Future faking comes in many forms. The promise of marriage is one of them.

  5. HI HG, I don’t know if you have answered this already but I would like to know if it is ever safe to have a narcissistic boss?
    Would abuse be inevitable or is it possible to be treated well?
    I’ve been offered a new role and while it is a great opportunity, the boss interviewing me caused alarm bells to ring, particularly calling me an introvert when I am not.
    I am considering just exiting before the pain, I also have PTSD so being around narcissists in general is awful for me to see.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      A narcissistic boss is still a narcissist. If you have a greater, you will witness someone impressive and effective but remain at risk that if you make a wrong move (and you will invariably not know what that is) you will in a very bad place. If the boss is a lesser, expect a volatile and bullying experience. If Mid Range, expect to be dumped on, unappreciated, blackmailed into doing things and carrying him or her for his shortcomings. Given what you explain, save yourself the pain and look elsewhere.

    2. Adele says:

      Don’t do it, my ex husband put me through hell working for him, nothing is ever good enough in their eyes, very demanding. ( demands will increase), it’s always about them, so they get the spot light and they will get rid of you at a drop of a hat once they know your not doing as the expected.

      My ex employed another narc,a woman and both of them caused me to have a near breakdown, this woman also caused a beautiful young girl to loose every bit of confidence in her self, panic attacks etc. At that time I had an idea that they both had narcissistic traits but after reading and many years of research they were both narcissists, it’s not worth you health and sanity.

  6. Noname says:

    That’s truth. Not here, not there. Nowhere. Grey zone.

  7. thepianist20 says:

    One day it will NOT be almost!

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