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2 thoughts on “Sitting Target”
In Siting Target, you note that “the co-dependent is highly prized, is always a primary source, and is only discarded for a short period. . .[y]ou will have our kind fighting it out to secure your fuel and is one of the few occasions where you may witness a narcissist becoming undone at the hands of another. . .” (p. 61).
In Chained, you note that “[T]he co-dependent will be content to care for both narcissists. . .[but][n]either narcissist will allow such a situation to persist. . .We do not like to share.” (p. 100).
I have a couple of questions applicable to a married target co-dependent.
1. If an MMRE originally assesses or targets a married co-dependent (who is in devaluation with another narcissist), but it appears that only a DLS type of arrangement would be possible due to external threats (e.g., potential job loss), does that exclude the married co-dependent from consideration because she cannot be a primary source?
2. If the narcissists do not like to share co-dependents, then how can a DLS arrangement work in this situation?
3. Following on from No. 2, can this “inoculate” a co-dependent from being a DLS?
Thanks so much.
1. Not exclude but makes them less desirable.
2. So long as the narcissist feels that when he calls on the DLS she is available. Since she is DLS she is not a primary and therefore there will not be a repeated call on her.