“The interview raised inevitable questions about the future of the Sussexes’ lives in Britain, with previous reports suggesting they had once been considering an extended stay in Africa or more time in the Duchess’s home of America. (Threatened Loss, Separation and Isolation. The latter manipulation is a common response of the narcissist. The narcissist perceives a threat to his or her control from other individuals exerting control over their prize asset, namely the IPPS. The narcissist seeks to maintain control over the IPPS by smearing those people, monopolising the time of the IPPS and keeping them away from the influence and interaction of other people. It does not matter if the other people are family or friends, this is done, always under the auspices of it being the right thing to do for the IPPS victim and/or because the other people are nasty, unfair etc, so that the IPPS is separated and isolated from the very people who may be able to assist the IPPS victim and thus in turn threaten the narcissists control of that IPPS. The narcissist will, instinctively use this manipulation in order to keep control and remove the IPPS victim from perceived threats.)
Last October I continued the “A Very Royal Narcissist” series in relation to Meghan Markle following the revealing interview that she and Prince Harry gave to British television during their visit to Africa. During this interview, reference was made to the potential for the royal couple living away from the UK. I wrote as follows :-
Prince Harry was asked about living in Africa as a consequence of speculation about living away from the UK. He stated “I don’t know where we could live in Africa at the moment,” he said in an interview during the tour.
“We have just come from Cape Town. That would be an amazing place to be able to base ourselves, of course it would, but with all the problems that are going on there, I just don’t see how we would be able to really make as much difference as we want to without the issues and the judgment of how we would be with those surroundings.
“I think it is a very hard place to live when you know what is going on and then you are again slightly disconnected from it. (This is the logical response to the prospect of living elsewhere and Prince Harry would clearly prefer to remain in the UK, but his statement is as a consequence of making remarks which would accord with what the Duchess wants, whilst enabling him to also maintain his own views. The royal couple may not move away and most likely will not, all that matters is that intermittent absence and the threat of a permanent move will be used for the purposes of reinforcing control in the here and now, that desire for immediate control NOW (not in the past and not in the future) being a central aim of the narcissist.”
Today, media outlets have reported that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex have announced they will step back as “senior” royals and divide their time between the UK and north America.
In a statement released by Buckingham Palace, the couple said they plan to “carve out a progressive new role within this institution”.
They said they intend to “work to become financially independent”.
The BBC reported on the matter and contained commented from former Buckingham Palace press officer Dickie Arbiter, who suggested the decision showed Prince Harry’s “heart ruling his head”.
He told the BBC the “massive press onslaught” when their son Archie was born may have played a part in the decision.
And he compared the move to Edward VIII’s abdication in 1936 in order to marry twice-divorced American Wallace Simpson.
“That is the only other precedent, but there’s been nothing like this in modern times,” he said.
This step which I foreshadowed in October 2019 and explained through analysis as part of the ongoing manipulation by the narcissist to separate Prince Harry from any influence which would threaten Miss Markle´s control over her Intimate Partner Primary Source only serves to reinforce the ongoing manipulation and devaluation of Prince Harry. It is of course dressed up, through facade management, as “carving out a progressive new role within this institution” but it is telling that there is no recent precedent, in modern times for this behaviour and that commentators, once again, fail to see it for what it is – manipulation.
A growing body of comment in the United Kingdom is against Meghan Markle and this has manifested particularly in the press. This largely critical and adverse comment amounts to Challenge Fuel to Markle, the comments and coverage are about here and therefore fuel her, but because the content is critical and adverse, it challenges her unconscious sense of superiority, sense of entitlement and lack of accountability. Her narcissism caused her to try and assert control over those challenging her and this resulted in
- Initially a charm offensive seeking to win people over. This failed.
- Utilisation of Pity Plays, this was done through the interview as I explained at the time as follows
“Asked about the “pressure” she is under and the “brave face” the couple put on, the Duchess hesitated on camera before admitting the situation was “hard”. (Pity Play)
“I don’t think anybody could understand that,” she said. “In all fairness, I had no idea.
“Which probably sounds difficult to understand here.
“When I first met my now husband, my friends were really happy because I was so happy.
“But my British friends said to me: I’m sure he’s great but you shouldn’t do it because the British tabloids will destroy your life.
“And I very naively – I’m American we don’t have that there – thought what are you talking about? That doesn’t make sense, I didn’t get it. So yeah, it’s been complicated.”
Appearing to hold back tears, she said: “Not many people have asked if I’m okay. But it’s a very real thing to be going through behind the scenes.” (Pity Play, Blame Shifting, Turning on the Waterworks) (It is important to remember the distinction between Prince Harry becoming tearful and Meghan Markle doing the same. He is an empath and therefore his response is seen through the prism of being an empath, his is as a consequence of emotional empathy for others and his vulnerability. It is not done to assert control. Meghan Markle´s response is occasioned by her narcissism and the need for control. There is no emotional empathy (because she is a narcissist) instead her response arises because her narcissism dictates that turning on the waterworks is the appropriate response to appear to care and to garner sympathy (sympathy being a form of Fuel) and thus assert control.”
The Pity Plays failed to win people over. Markle failed to assert control.
- She then moved to a different form of manipulation. This was again an unconscious, instinctive response and she then moved to Threatened Loss (see above) where mention was made of potentially spending time outside of the UK. I commented that the couple may not move away, however, it is evident that her manipulations failed to have the desired effect and because of her total need for control over her environment and everybody in it, she has had to move beyond Threatened Loss (by suggesting a life outside of the UK and prolonged visits outside of the UK such as the recent one to Canada) and implement an extensive departure from the UK by announcing this shared arrangement.
Her attempted manipulation failed to sway opinion in her favour, she did not assert control over popular opinion and the press and therefore this has continued to threaten her control. She has therefore salami-sliced through further manipulations by causing Prince Harry to agree to this revised role. Prince Harry, unable to recognise what he is dealing with and in the throes of devaluation, will, as an empathic individual be seeking to pleased and accommodate Markle and has thus agreed to this step which is virtually without precedent. Such is the hold the narcissist has over him.
Since Markle has been unable to assert control over the establishment, the media and popular opinion in the UK, she is beating a partial retreat. In reality, what we are seeing is her narcissism realising it cannot assert control in the UK and therefore rather than continue to fight a battle that cannot be won, it will cause her to achieve control by no longer seeking it – she moves elsewhere. She perceives a more receptive environment and once thus easier to control, in North America. Her narcissism caused her to think that she could control and conquer in the United Kingdom, but despite the Charm Offensive, Pity Play and Threatened Loss, it failed and thus she shifts her focus to an alternative environment.
Prince Harry, controlled by her, may well have had reservations about moving but in the grip of the narcissist and clouded by Emotional Thinking, he has agreed to this shared situation. What is likely in store is what is touted as a shared arrangement will become one where the Sussexes spends more and more time in North America (if that environment proves conducive to a benign environment to control for Miss Markle) and slowly and steadily the salami slicing will continue so that the Sussexes spend the majority of their time in North America, they make North America their base and UK becomes a place which is visited rather than their home or even a shared base.
If North America proves conducive to Markle´s control, she will continue to exert her control over Prince Harry and he faces the risk of being disengaged from because ultimately he will have served his purpose to Markle and should one of the Disengagement Triggers occur, Prince Harry will be dispensed with and doubtless replaced. There is no doubt that Prince Harry is in devaluation, he will not have wanted to move to North America, but he is being conned into doing so, doubtless persuaded and pressured through a range of unconscious manipulations used against him by Markle to suggest that North America is a better home for them (read instead a better environment to control). Desperate to keep his family unit together, desperate to keep the peace, Prince Harry, already having experienced a rift with his brother whom he was once very close to, has allowed himself to be steadily isolated from his support networks (so Markle is better able to control him through this manipulation of Isolation) and the result is the new arrangement.
Let us see how the division between North America and the UK pans out, it will tip in favour of North America, soon enough. You read as such, again, here first.
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