A Very Royal Narcissist – Part 8

A VERY ROYAL NARCISSIST PART 8

The occurrence which has been dubbed “Megxit” is the gift that keeps on giving in respect of providing further examples of a narcissist in action.

1. Where´s Archie?

You know Archie, he is the son of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, however, bit part player as he is, a Non-Intimate Secondary Source to Miss Markle and since only an 8 month old child he can be placed on the shelf with a nanny whilst the Sussexes returned to the UK make their announcement.

Doubtless argument would be made that he was better off remaining in Canada than being ping-ponged over the Atlantic and that is the plausible deniability that would be utilised where criticism is directed at Miss Markle for such a decision, however, this act o leaving her son in Canada is instructive when looking at the behaviour through the prism of her narcissism.

It is important to remember that an isolated act, whilst a red flag, does not mean that the individual is a narcissist. One must look at an aggregate of factors before making such a determination and this is what has occurred with regard to Miss Markle. If you read or revisit A Very Royal Narcissist , A Very Royal Narcissist 2 , A Very Royal Narcissist 3 and A Very Royal Narcissist 4 you have the detailed analysis demonstrating that Meghan Markle is a narcissist. What that means is that all behaviour thereafter can be viewed through the prism of narcissism to interpret it. A normal person and a narcissism do not always act the same, but there are some behaviours which are undertaken by both individuals, but the rationale and driving basis for the behaviour is entirely different. This is because for the narcissist, their behaviour is driven by the need for control and fuel as part of The Prime Aims.

Accordingly, by analysing Miss Markle´s behaviour in leaving Archie in Canada through the prism of her narcissism, what do we learn?

  • A Lack of Emotional Empathy – she has none and is unconcerned by her son being left for a period of time away from her
  • She instinctively feels she has control over him as he is a baby and therefore incapable, at this very young age, of rejecting her control, thus she can place him on the shelf (which is what narcissists do with secondary sources – friends, family, colleagues, intimate secondary sources such as a mistress or side person).
  • She exhibits a Sense of Entitlement to do what she wants
  • She is Triangulating Prince Harry. By leaving Archie in Canada, Miss Markle triangulates him with his father so that there is a clear basis for ensuring that Prince Harry returns to Canada also so that Miss Markle´s control over Prince Harry remains intact. There is a risk that if Miss Markle had returned to Canada alone leaving Harry in the UK to address the fallout of the bomb that has been dropped (more on this below), Harry might be influenced by the combined forces of the Royal Family to reconsider this planned “stepping back” and thus Miss Markle´s control over him would be weakened. By leaving Archie in Canada, Miss Markle´s narcissism achieves two things – plausible deniability “It wasn’t fair to fly Archie back and forth” when in reality this is just the narcissists cognitive empathy at work, she has no emotional empathy for Archie and does not care about him and secondly, it is a. method of maintaining control over Prince Harry by signalling to him “If you want to see you son again, you will have to leave the UK and therefore escape the interfering influences of the Royal Family”.

2. Dropping The Bomb

This is a common behaviour performed by the narcissist and is a manipulation designed to exert control over the various appliances (people) in the narcissists fuel matrix (see Dropping the Bomb ). Several insights can be gained from this :

  • There was no consultation for the “stepping back” announcement and thus this as explained in Part 7 demonstrates various aspects of the narcissistic dynamic and the lack of consultation is part of the Dropping the Bomb manipulation
  • Having dropped the bomb, Miss Markle then exits. Job done. No hanging around to deal with the aftermath or the consequences, which demonstrates Sense of Entitlement  and Lack of Accountability.
  • Prince Harry is left behind to deal with the aftermath, which shows a Lack of Emotional Empathy  for him in having to deal with upset, bewildered and angry members of his family, A Sense of Entitlement (I do what I want and if I want to throw you to the lions, so be it) and Lack of Accountability (I answer to nobody, not even my husband).
  • It is a Haughty Behaviour showing disrespect to the Royal Family, yes I have told you what we are doing, no, I am not staying to explain myself to the likes of you, toodle pip!
  • It is a manifestation of Control 

3. What Birthday?

The 9th January was the Duchess of Cambridge´s birthday and this would ordinarily merit celebration and a degree of media attention. This attention, which is fuel when received by a narcissist, is deemed to be wasted by the narcissist when it goes to somebody else and the narcissist´s inherent trait of envy will come to the fore. The narcissist unconsciously feels that their control is being threatened and therefore has to respond.

The “stepping back” announcement was made on the eve of Kate´s birthday. Of course, the Sussexes would claim this was pure coincidence (Plausible Deniability) and if one was dealing with a non-narcissist, that would be the case, but because we know we are dealing with a narcissist, one looks at that behaviour through the prism of the response of a narcissist so that coincidence is not the real reason. Instead, this act demonstrates

  • Overshadowing by doing something to take attention away from another person and place it firmly on the narcissist. Thus the “fuel” that would have been provided to the non-narcissist (although they do not need fuel) is acquired by the narcissist. Fuel is the lifeblood of the narcissist
  • Control – the threat to the control is reduced or extinguished
  • Lack of Emotional Empathy  – Miss Markle does not care about Kate´s birthday and will readily dismiss it through the exhibited behaviour
  • Sense of Entitlement – I do as I see fit when I see fit and in whatever manner I see fit, regardless of the impact on anybody else.

4. Working For A Solution

It has been reported that following the “stepping back” announcement, the Queen mobilised by organising discussions with the Prince of Wales and the Duke of Cambridge in order to direct senior staff to work with the Sussex household and government to find a solution within days. Good luck with that.

  • Miss Markle has exited already, therefore making it difficult to achieve a solution. This demonstrates her Lack of Accountability, Sense of Entitlement, Need for Control and Lack of Emotional Empathy
  • Prince Harry finds himself caught between his family and his wife. How many of you who understand what it is to be caught in the grip of a romantic ensnarement have found yourself in such an invidious position? How many of you found yourself agreeing with family but having to do what your narcissist spouse/partner wanted in order to avoid devaluing behaviour from the narcissist? Plenty of you. By leaving Prince Harry in such a torn situation this means that the prospect of a solution becomes limited and couple with point one above, means it far more likely that Miss Markle gets her way and maintains control. In the less likely event that some kind of solution is found, it will be one which suits Miss Markle because her narcissism has created this imbalance of power and when a solution is found, it is only because that is what the narcissist wants. The narcissists need for control is such that you cannot guarantee making the narcissist do anything and where you do amazingly achieve a compromise or solution through negotiation, you have just been duped again. It was achieved because that was what the narcissist wanted. That is why it was achieved.
  • The Royal Family are sent into over drive responding to the pronouncement of the Sussexes (actually Miss Markle) and she will derive a sense of control and the tail wagging the dog because she is able to exert control, the mainstay of the narcissists existence, over the various members of the Royal Family.

5. O Canada!

After returning in the UK after their six-week break in Canada on Tuesday, the BBS reported that Harry and Meghan  visited Canada’s High Commission in London to thank the country for hosting them and said the warmth and hospitality they received was “unbelievable”.

Former actress Meghan, who is American, lived and worked in Toronto during her time starring in the popular US drama Suits, and she has several Canadian friends.

What does this demonstrate?

  • Facade Management – I am a kind person and my thanking the High Commission shows that I am kind, polite and decent. All part of the facade management that the type of narcissist that Meghan Markle is, deploys.
  • Triangulation – are you paying attention Royal Family, British media, the British people? See how lovely Canada is to me, Canada loves us (me). So, I am going to rub your faces in it by attending the Canadian High Commission to say thank you for allowing me to exert control over you. This is where we will now live so what are you, Britain and its media and its people, going to do to in response to this to allow me to control you?
  • Grandiosity – an entire country loves us (me)
  • Black and White Thinking – you (Royal Family, the British Media, the British people) have been horrible to me and threatened my control of you and therefore you are all painted black. I do not like you. Canada has been lovely to me and therefore submitted to my control. Canada is painted white and therefore everything about Canada is wonderful, fantastic and amazing.

6. Less Than Charitable But Then Again More Than Charitable

The Sussexes (read Miss Markle) were already preparing to launch their own Sussex Royal charity, which they set up after splitting from the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge’s foundation in June last year.

The Sussexes’ new charity is expected to be global, linked to Africa and the US, rather than domestic – and will have a commitment to female empowerment.

What does this tell us? Yet more evidence of the behaviour of the narcissist.

  • Black and White Thinking. I tried to control you, Kate and William, as Non Intimate Secondary Sources (family) in my fuel matrix but you just would not be controlled,  so now I do not like you, you are painted black. Remember this response is an unconscious one. So, now you are painted black everything associated with you (Lack of Boundary Recognition) is deemed to be horrible and awful, which includes your charity, so we are splitting.
  • Need For Control – I must have control, so I reject you because I am unable to control you.
  • Triangulation – look at our charity, it is better than yours.
  • Provocation – I am doing my own thing, without you! How’d you like me now? Show me, so that your irritation, annoyance, upset provide me with negative fuel and show that I am controlling you in a different way.
  • Grandiosity – your charity is domestic, that is lame. My charity is global, thus it is better and more befitting my status as a global behemoth.
  • Magical Thinking – I am a global icon, I am a beacon of female empowerment.
  • Facade Management  – I have a charity, see I am such an honest, kind, caring and empathic person.

7. Fancy Some Tat?

It was revealed in December the couple had made an application to trademark their Sussex Royal brand across a string of items including books, calendars, clothing, charitable fundraising, education and social care services.

This action again provides insight with regard to the narcissistic mindset of Meghan Markle.

  • Control  – where you read couple, read Miss Markle. Prince Harry nods when told to by Miss Markle. He is an IPPS who is in devaluation. She makes the decisions and he abides by them, but they are touted as joint in order to manage the facade of harmony.
  • Lack of Awareness – this is a crass and tacky step, but the narcissism blinds Miss Markle to it
  • Facade Management  – this will be touted as a step with regard to achieving the supposed financial independence as part of managing the facade and advancing plausible deniability. It is not, it part of the facade because financial independence will not occur (see below for an element of this).
  • Delusional Thinking  – I am so loved that these items will sell like hot cakes! My clothing line will be a huge success, I am a person of style! So declares a person who apparently uses spray tan, a hair extension and wears unsuitable clothing.
  • Grandiosity – social care and education provided under the Sussex brand because that is what really matters when delivering those services, yes? I am the educator and I am the saviour. Grandiosity at work.

8. Financial Independence (On My Terms)

It seems that this could actually be achieved because Prince Harry has a multi-million pound fortune a start of his inheritance from Diana, Princess of Wales. Miss Markle apparently has a multi-million pound fortune as a woman of independent means, therefore they should be able to look after themselves (plus those Sussex branded calendars and How To Learn To Be An Global Phenomenon Education Packs are bound to bring in the money). Therefore why is it then that, as reported by the BBC,

  • The couple said the Sovereign Grant paid for 5% of their official office from 2019, with the remaining 95% being funded by Prince Charles through his income from the Duchy of Cornwall. Basically pater is paying?
  • They will retain Frogmore cottage, the Grade-2 listed property in Windsor that cost taxpayers £2.4m to renovate, as their official residence so they have a “place to call home” in the UK.

This evidences further narcissistic behaviours

  • Hypocrisy
  • Sense of Entitlement
  • Lack of Empathy
  • Poor Boundary Recognition 
  • Asset Acquisition – what is yours is mine, what is mine, stays mine.

The saga of the Sussexes continues to provide an excellent guide to narcissism. For those of you who are familiar with my work, it demonstrates to you a host of narcissistic behaviours which you have experienced in your own ensnarements and from studying my work. For those of you who are new to my work, welcome and you should now start to see how certain behaviours which you may have not noticed or you may have frowned at but not realised what they really are, are actually the behaviour of a narcissist. Utilise this saga as an opportunity to learn more about a disorder which is far more prevalent than you may think, use it as an opportunity to ascertain how you may have been affected by narcissists in your life and do something about it and finally recognise how so many commentators in the media completely fail to realise what it is and offer explanations such as this

Bryony Gordon, a Daily Telegraph journalist who knows and has interviewed the couple, suggested their decision could be linked to their mental health, after becoming a “punching bag” for a “misogynistic and racist” nation.”

There is no doubt that there has been racist behaviour towards Miss Markle and that is unacceptable, but that is not the reason for the decision. It will be used as an excuse, but as this article and the several before it repeatedly demonstrate, this is a narcissist at work and the decision is linked to the need for control and fuel. Perhaps, readers, you will be instrumental in causing the commentators and media to realise what is actually happening here ahead of the inevitable update when we analyse the next behaviour of A Very Royal Narcissist.

To understand more about narcissism access these insightful materials

Evil

Fuel

Black Flag

Sex : How the Narcissist Views Sex and The Role It Plays In Your Entanglement

Escape : Beat the Narcissist

No Contact

The Devil´s Toolkit

Ask

What Fuel Feels Like To A Narcissist

The Devastation of the Illusion

and read further works at narcsite.com and HG Tudor´s work available on Amazon.

485 thoughts on “A Very Royal Narcissist – Part 8

  1. karen Walters says:

    So very true….Camilla must be made up and breaking out the champers!!

  2. Susan Vancouver says:

    I think the A listers are already avoiding her. She can run but she cannot hide the tide of awareness about her NPD con artist ways is growing. Canadians have now launched a petition against taxpayer money paying for their security.

  3. KimH says:

    Was MM even friends with The Obamas, Oprah, or the Clooneys before she started dating PH? If not, those persons are using MM as she uses them—co-dependent power relationships. Similar to relationships PA wanted with Epstein and his “rare connections” (per PA damning interview). MM is just more successful in choosing her connections.

  4. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    K and Violetta: I found the Title of the episode!!! Here is the episode Title of one of my favorite episodes of Seinfeld, with Elaine dating the `person of color` guy. Hahahaha: I found it: See why it is so difficult to find the titles of Seinfeld Episodes? It is because many episodes have non-intuitive titles!: The Title is: . “The Wizard,” Season 9 Episode 15.

    1. K says:

      Thank you PrincessSuperEmpath
      Hahahaha…I am going to watch it this weekend!

  5. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    K: I just thought of another one of my favorite episodes of: Seinfeld. Do you remember the episode where Elaine was dating a guy, the `person of color` guy episode?: Hahahaha! I do not know the name of the episode, but I sort of want to watch it again. I may look for it later, but, it is tedious finding the actual titles of those episodes in order to locate them. It was so funny. Viioletta: I think you would like this episode of Seinfeld. Hahaha. I will not give a spoiler.

  6. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Dearest HG: Shakespeare`s “version.“: Ok. I`m sorry about that. Of course. Yes of course I should read his version of his own play. Hahahaha. Sorry. High Culture is a bit confusing to me at times. lol. Branagh`s film it shall be, for now. Plus he is a good actor. I want to start with Branagh. I can just imagine him seething and plotting already. And, uncut is just so amazing!

    Mel Gibson? wow. Who knew? Everyone but me, probably. lol. It is a wonder that Mel G. has gotten himself into so much trouble these past years, in his off-screen life, with all this culture under his belt: He has become his own play, in a way. Mr. Mel G., maybe, is a Narcissist in a perfect profession for himself, for quite a while now, where his Narcissism is/was hidden in plain sight. Perhaps, `all`s well that ends well,` will be his case, at some point. hmmm.

    Nevertheless, HG, I am very excited to see these 2 dramatizations of Hamlet! With the actual written play on standby, as well. Thank you so very much.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

  7. Violetta says:

    Lisa: The only person who’s grateful for the existence of MM at the moment is Camilla. It’s really taken the heat off her. One reader commented on DM that at least Camilla stood by Chucky and took all the flak with him, instead of scarpering off to Canada. At this point, I think the UK would tolerate a Queen Consort Camilla before it would take a Queen Mum Meghan.

  8. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Alain: If all it takes is little Archie Harrison: (Schleswig-Holstein-Sonderburg-Glücksburg, Battenberg, Mount-Batten-Windsor), to save that Monarchy, that Monarchy has no actual problem for their Heraldic Dynastic Perpetuation in their future: Yawn. And the average diversity groups will actually be (unbeknownst to themselves) patronized, while they will be shouting, `Huzzah! Long live King Archie`: Yawn. The Games Will Always Be Played. And, Knowledge truly is Power. lol.

  9. Alain says:

    PSE– Like any functioning narcissist, Meghan has done her homework on the RF and has noticed two glaring weaknesses: their inherent inflexibility and the tendency of primogeniture to alienate the second born. So using the tools of “wokeness” and diversity, she will be able to gather many allies in campaigning against the RF. Prince George will not be getting married for another 25 years and that will be far too late, even if he were to marry diversity, to stem the tide. I could already see Labour taking a Republican position, just to appeal to ethnic minorities, in the coming year. Due to his order of birth, Prince Harry is facing the same frustrations and hopelessness that Princess Margaret felt. This makes him easier to turn into a traitor against the Crown. After a brutal media campaign against the RF led by Meghan and Harry, in the end the Tories will compromise and accept Archie in order to save the monarchy.

    Lisa — Many thought talk of that other grand narcissist, Donald Trump, becoming President of the US, was tongue in cheek. But you are correct, Meghan turns into an irrelevant Fergie without Harry. So she will keep him in tow, lovebombing him with lots of fantasy wild sex with threesomes, etc. She will wow him with all the Hollywood royalty she has access to. But once she achieves the crown for Archie; Harry gets kicked to the curb with a brutal devaluation and discard! If I were MI6, I would be figuring out ways of separating her from Harry!

  10. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Alain: If you want to have some real diversity up in that RF?: One of the daughters, such as Kate and William`s eldest, could marry a man of `Diversity,` and the male child born of that union is at some point made King in the RF. Bingo! Now that would be quite the real diversity King for the BRF. In every aspect, and in Truth. Archie: not so. But, perhaps Archie will appease the belief system of the populace, and then all would still be business as usual, in general, for the RF, lineage-wise, and set in uninterrupted hereditary rulership. Very smart. lol.

  11. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Alain: So much has gone on in Royal Ascensions throughout history. I sure do not want to see murder, which is often the fast track for manipulated change and usurpation. HG Tudor suggested to me, Shakespeare’s` Hamlet, as a good play to read. HG, can you tell me a good version of Hamlet to read, or a good production or something? It is time for me to check out this work, right now.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      To read, Shakespeare’s “version”.
      If you are referring to a screen version, I prefer Branagh´s Hamlet from 1996 as it is an uncut version. In terms of accessibility you may prefer Franco Zeffirelli´s version starring Mel Gibson.

  12. Lisa says:

    I’m presuming the comments about King Archie are being said tongue in cheek !!
    MM will end up eventually like Sarah Ferguson In no mans land, but probably financially taken care of.
    I’ve noticed a few headlines saying
    How Harry and Meghan fell out of love?
    Even if people don’t understand the full dynamics some are seeing that this is a doomed marriage.

  13. Alain says:

    Sarah — Succession to the throne in Britain can be changed by Parliament. Most recently, the Succession to the Crown Act 2013 altered the laws of succession because the former laws were thought to be prejudicial against women and Catholics. There is no doubt at all the Meghan is going to launch a campaign against the “racist” royal family by declaring that it’s a white’s only institution and is unacceptable in a multi-cultural state like Britain. She will gets plenty of support from wealthy Hollywood stars in the US and Britain. There will be calls for a “diversity King”. The threat will be to abolish the royal family altogether and make Britain a Republic like the US or France. The compromise will be King Archie — but not Queen Meghan. Parliament would change the succession laws so that Archie would succeed to the throne after King William dies.

    Now if Meghan and Harry have a second child, and that child would happen to be female, then Meghan may have lots of fun triangulating between the children in deciding which she would put forward as the diversity sovereign of Britain.

  14. corinneb says:

    Do you think Meghan is getting over reaching and becoming more grandiose? I’m a Canadian and their news has not gone well here. We have laws regarding immigration criteria and neither Prince Harry or Meghan met any of the current criteria for permanent residency in Canada. (Previously she lived here on a work permit because she was employed by a TV show produced here). Canadians frown on favouritism or special treatment so she’s not going to get special treatment. As well, we don’t want to pay their security bill either. The sense of entitlement has been truly breathtaking and the polls show that the majority of Canadians oppose wither paying their cost of security or giving them permanent residency. If she’s angry at the UK, how’s she going to react when it become obvious that Canadians are NOT lining up to do her biding. She’s placed our government, the UK government and the royal family in a very difficult situation because of her entitlement.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yes, the fact that she will perceive that she is winning, the fuel she is receiving will in turn cause her to believe she is invincible.

  15. Bubbles 🍾 says:

    Dear Lorelei,
    Thank you lovely and fantastic to hear
    Love your shoes
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    1. Lorelei says:

      Thanks Bubbles! I love ballet flats.

  16. Lorelei says:

    Bubbles—I saw your comment and I appreciate it. This isn’t the right spot to reply. Thank you—I am working on this and it is a temporary set back.

  17. NarcAngel says:

    V
    Great question. I hope Bubbles answers, as I also wonder what resonates most with people.

  18. Bubbles 🍾 says:

    Dear Violetta,
    I had beaten myself up for so long ….l really needed healing !
    I was given the kindest empathic support to stay!
    This was the safest and best place to be !
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

  19. CherT says:

    Confused…..lm presuming the author knows MM personally…..and is not basing their conclusions on information gleaned from the press and social media?!?!(because they know everything as fact don’t they!!!)
    Also, having grown up dealing with a narcissistic mother, l have come to realise that every single person on this planet has the capability to show narcissistic behaviour at some point in their life.
    Has anyone thought that maybe, after watching his mother be torn apart by the press, and subsequently losing her life, that he is not prepared to stand back and watch the same happen to his wife??

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello CherT, thanks for your comment. The final sentence you write is part of the reason why Harry has fallen for the manipulation and this has been considered but has been considered within the context of the behaviour of the narcissist. You also need to be aware that the analysis covers behaviour prior to Harry and therefore “the Diana Factor” is outside of establishing that MM is a narcissist. Do read all of the articles and then you will understand how the analysis has been arrived at.

      Everybody has narcissistic traits but there is a massive difference between having narcissistic traits and being a narcissist. Do keep reading the work here and you will not only learn more, you may come to realise more about your mother’s behaviour which will help you.

    2. NarcAngel says:

      CherT
      It has been considered, but for most, it has been discarded as the reason due to her collective behaviours (use the search function to find all of the A Very Royal Narcissist articles). There are also many ACONs (Adult Children Of Narcissists) here, so you will identify with much that you read in the articles and comments, and hopefully share as well. Welcome.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Well stated, NA.

  20. Violetta says:

    Bubbles: what was the one comment that made you stay?

  21. Sarah says:

    ‘And if she succeeds in creating a crisis, if she succeeds in dividing the British people, the “unifying” solution will be King Archie’

    There are a lot of people between Archie and the throne, including his father. I know the lunatic fringe of Meghanistas think she should be queen, but that comes from a place of unfathomable ignorance.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Amused me.

  22. Ines says:

    Thank you. Is this a window where Harry might experience a moment of clarity? While she’s far away, he’s surrounded by caring family talking sense and reason. He’s known them for thirty-five years. He’s known her for only three or so. Obviously, the child is a critical factor. But do you think the longer they’re apart the better his chances of snapping out of it?

  23. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Dorion: Yes, the beauty of a person can represent virtue, but it also can be vain and bad in the hands of various people. And it fades. And most of us, whether we are attracted to it or not, or suspicious of it or not, at times and for whatever the reasons, do often give beauty more credit. Obsessive concern over beauty can be harmful, even if not actual NPD. But, what I have learned from Narcsite is that HG Tudor has given us a key to unlock the mystery of certain human behavior so that we can put a person`s behavior into a decrypted format to see if their behavior follows understandable criteria and actions and patterns that will clearly determine whether or not a person is a Narcissist.

    However, I am witnessing first hand that it easy to say that a person that is beautiful is a Narcississt. And it is even easier to call such a person a Narcississt if one dislikes that person. I see many criticisms of Meghan apply to most people in her field. So, those criticisms show bias and not analysis, and do not hold much weight, even if they are not called out publicly, by anyone. Everyone does not wrestle nor argue nor debate nor even post on these venues. But they are still reading and observing and analyzing. Because such obviously biased criticism is quietly not applied to others that are doing the same thing in the same sphere, because the criticizer likes or admires, etc. the other people more, and therefore gives them a quiet pass, such criticisms are not persuasive.

    However, I do not dislike Ms. Meghan. I first encountered her on Suits, which is sort of a Niche story line that may not interest most people, but that appealed to me, because of the lead male character that is very intelligent, but he never went to law school, in this story line, but he hid this fact and was actually working without a law degree as a young lawyer in a powerful law firm, unbeknownst to his employers for quite a while. And it was very stressful for him, always trying to make sure he was not exposed for fraudulently practicing law. lol. And, I also had the desire to go to law school, but did not do so, and I have mentioned that on here before, and so I was enjoying this story line for one season, at least, until I did not have time for it for various reasons, and Ms Meghan was part of the show. I do find her beautiful, and in the way of a person that does not neglect her natural good genetic looks and that also does everything within her power within reason to stay as good looking as she possibly can be.

    However, even though I do not dislike her, after reading HG`s key to the decryption of her personality and and after seeing how he lays out and formats her behavior under his key that illuminates clearly her Narcissistic behavior, to the point that he is even incredibly predictive of her behavior, I agree hands down, that she is a Narcissist, even though I do not dislike her, and therefore, I do not have a latent nor hidden nor even overt bias against her. Having a bias does not mean one is necessarily wrong in their assessment of a person, of course. One can be both biased and correct, but a bias must be more carefully controlled and monitored, so as to not become only a self-fulfilling prophesy, versus a logical deduction, so to speak.

    HG Tudor has nailed her personality to a T, and there is no way to squirm around it, if one ACTUALLY READS his assessments of her personality: Ms Meghan is a Narcississt.

  24. Bubbles 🍾 says:

    Dearest Renarde,
    Thank you for including me beautiful one, I feel honoured
    Mr Tudor’s site is the only one I’m on
    I do not interact elsewhere or ever will (I was very hesitant at first, but the best decision ever, one comment here made me stay )
    I have evolved progressively, step by step and since being “here” have chosen not to deliberate in others ignorance
    I have entered myself into a non combatant emotional platform, all thanks to Mr Tudor….. unless it’s a personal attack and worthy of a justified response
    Emotional thinking plays an enormous role and dearest Renarde it’s not about you or MB personally
    I would suggest eradicating superfluous social media forums and stick to what is true
    Quote …
    It’s like the the three C’s in life
    Choices, chances, changes.
    You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change ….
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

  25. Bubbles 🍾 says:

    Dearest WiserNow,
    Mr Bubbles n I were solely responsible for our three kids
    We didn’t have grandparents
    We didn’t rely on anyone
    If we were invited somewhere, we didn’t go
    We were not beholding to anyone
    Our kids, our responsibility !
    We didn’t trust anyone with our kids ……. not until they had a voice
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    1. WiserNow says:

      Dear Bubbles,
      I understand, and I think you and Mr Bubbles were wonderful parents for doing those things and having that attitude of responsibility. Well done to both of you.

      The more that’s known now about early childhood development and the life-long effects the experiences babies and children have, the more important it’s proving to be that children are given a stable, consistent and emotionally secure upbringing.

      You and Mr Bubbles did very well Bubbles, and I’m sure your children thank you for it xx 😊😘

  26. Alain says:

    Violetta,

    Judging by the Christmas card they distributed this year, Archie is for the time being the Golden Child. This may change if other children enter into the equation.

    In terms of a regency, Meghan should be studying Catherine de Medici, who was the queen bee of all royal narcissists.

    1. Violetta says:

      De Medici was street-tough. She was sneaked away from people who intended to rape and then murder her when she was EIGHT.

      MM has no street-smarts whatever. She’s a jumped-up mediocrity, with neither the respect for tradition of a higher class nor the resourcefulness and resilience of a lower one.

      1. Kathleen says:

        Love that insight- “a jumped up mediocrity” unfit in either direction. A slot on morning show “the view” perhaps in 10 years or so.

  27. Violetta says:

    Alain:
    And she’d want an extended Regency, til Archie is “old enough” to rule.
    Louis XIV and Queen Victoria were supposed to be puppet monarchs, but eventually, both wrested power away from the protectorate.
    The question is whether Archie will grow up fruitlessly trying to win Mummy’s love and approval, or whether he will reach the point where he turns on her and rejects her.

  28. Sam E says:

    An American here. I know I’m on perilous ground discussing race but it seems that Meghan’s pride in being a woman of color was invisible until she started dating Harry. She didn’t hide being multiracial but she did nothing that would show an identification with black Americans. She did not attend the NAACP Image Awards or associate with black charities or causes. She straightened her hair and seems to have altered her nose to look more Caucasian. She attended a college with historic black sororities whose members included trailblazers but she joined the white girl prom queen/cheerleader sorority. It doesn’t seem as if she has dated any men of color since high school. Nor does it seem as if she had any black women friends before becoming besties with Oprah, Beyonce and Serena, all of whom are billionaires. Her lifestyle blog Tig didn’t touch even occasionally on social justice–it was a conduit for freebies designed to establish her as a lifestyle authority like Gwyneth Paltrow, It was a marketing gimmick. Many biracial women in the US define themselves as black–Halle Berry. Zoe Kravitz, Sen. Kamala Harris — and others such as Jennifer Beales have chosen roles playing black women. The closest that Meghan got to that was the girl with the black Dad on Suits. And yet many black women in the US see her as “one of us” and a victim. I do think she has had to endure a lot of racism in the UK but I think her racial identity is a prop that is useful sometimes and when it wasn’t, it was chucked out the window. Is this typical of biracial narcissists?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Sam and thank you for your useful observations. We are chameleons and we shape ourselves to fit in and portray the most advantageous image to achieve what we want and need, namely The Prime Aims, paramount of which is the need for fuel and control. By rejecting or limiting her multiracial qualities MM did so in order to fit in and achieve those Prime Aims and then when it has suited, she has adopted being multiracial again to achieve those Prime Aims. It is similar to the narcissist showing sexual fluidity, or disliking football and then apparently loving football. Whatever it takes to get those Prime Aims, it will be done.

  29. Alain says:

    Thanks WN,

    Being on ‘shrooms is an excellent way to describe the cognitive dissonance created by a narcissist’s smear campaigns backed by many flying monkeys. The grandiose self-image of a narcissist is in a sense an hallucination; and for the victim still grounded, however weakly, in reality, the surreal events orchestrated by the narcissist can indeed seem like a really bad acid trip.

    But MM has many weapons at her disposal. She will make herself the Princess of Woke and will wage a relentless inclusive and multicultural smear campaign against the exceedingly exclusive and mono-cultural royal institutions. She will falsely try to link the word “racist” to “royal” in an attempt to devalue the royal family. And there is no way to defend against such an accusation. She will employ elite flying monkeys (this term will soon be considered “problematic”) such as the Obamas, Oprah, Beyoncé, etc. She will in particular target the Duchess of Cambridge. And if she succeeds in creating a crisis, if she succeeds in dividing the British people, the “unifying” solution will be King Archie.

  30. Ines says:

    I’ve read thousands of comments and tweets on the recent events. Does Miss Markle not realize that millions of people see right through her? Her thinking, scheming, motivations are no mystery. What kind of reaction did she expect? Do you think she’s watching the news and scanning the web to gauge public opinion? If so then is she panicking? I would be.

    All this reminds me of Diana, who had borderline personality disorder. (A member of my extended family is the gold standard of BPD. I know of which I speak.) She was genuinely taken aback when her antics (e.g. tell-all book & t.v. interview) blew up in her face. She was a superstar who thought she could control the narrative. At times she could. But eventually it caught up with her.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No because her narcissism will cause her to never accept she is wrong or at fault and in a variety of different ways maintain that it is everybody else’s fault. The narcissism must always ensure control is asserted and this means adopting an alternative perspective so that the narcissist is always winning and everybody else is always losing.

  31. Lisa says:

    There’s some guy on YouTube doing a podcast about MM being a narcissist , he’s American. I’m not saying this as an advert for this guy just that it’s out there’s !!

  32. Haining says:

    Hi HG.

    Slightly off topic mate but I was wondering why you’ve blocked me on twitter?Over the last couple of years I’ve found your work to be invaluable in understanding NPD and have nothing but the upmost respect for you.

    I’ve genuinely got no idea why I’ve been blocked but it was one of my favourite accounts to follow.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Haining, thanks for your comment. You’ve not beed blocked, the account is suspended at present. It will be reinstated presently. In the meanwhile, read here. I am pleased you’ve found my work so useful.

  33. zjk says:

    Hello HG Tudor,

    I remember coming across your material a couple years ago when I was overcoming the ensnarement of a narcissist and looking to heal. It was quite informative and helpful, so I thank you for that.

    I also remember at the time coming across some tidbits you had written about MM possibly being a narcissist. I found it quite intriguing at the time and I must say it must be somewhat rewarding for you to have all your sneaking suspicions turn out to be true (Not that you would WANT MM to be a narcissist, but rather that you could sense it before it became overwhelmingly obvious).

    My question is do you the the Palace had advisors informating them that MM is a Narc, and how to best deal with and handle them? They really could use your insight.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No, they don’t have such advisors

    2. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you for the compliment and for returning

  34. T says:

    Typically; I’d NEVER question the Brilliant One (HG) on any matter…but I have a different perspective, HG.

    Like black British women; African-American women see this situation differently.

    We feel Ms. Markle has been treated unfairly because of her race.

    Lady Diana was also a rebel; but that rebellion was not compounded by her race.

    Typically; offering up our nearest and dearest up for abuse because of duty is not how we are raised….African-American women actually think she hung in a bit too long.

    I’d never doubt you, Brilliant One…but we were super stoked about one of us making it in and getting the fairytale….and this just proves what we always really believed—that fairytale was never meant for us in the first place.

    JMHO🤷🏽‍♀️.

    I hope you’re well, HG!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello T and good to hear from you. I trust you are excellent well. Thank you for your observations but do understand this is nothing at all to do with race.

      Has Miss Markle been on the receiving end of unpleasant comments because of her race? Yes and that is wrong.
      Has she been treated less favourably by some unconsciously because of her race, probably.
      has she been treated less favourably as she is not “establishment material” probably.
      Can she be treated unfairly because of her race and be a narcissist? Yes.
      Can the way she is treated be as a consequence of her race and her behaviour as a narcissist? Yes.

      Is this analysis based on race in any form? No. The analysis is not based on her race, her gender, where she comes from but on her behaviour. Also note that her behaviour prior to meeting Prince Harry was analysed also. It is objective and dispassionate as all my analyses are.

      I will state it again – it is an article about narcissism, not race. The narcissist just happens to be mixed race. You may not have had opportunity but read the preface in AVRN Part 9 and see all the narcissists who have been subjected to the Tudorscope – white and male, but that’s not the point. The point is they are narcissists.

      I can appreciate that you felt “super stoked about one of us making it in and getting the fairytale” and that there is a sense of injustice about what has happened, but that should not cloud the application of logic to what is happening here. If a narcissist comes under the Tudorscope, then I will declare as such. There are other narcissists in the Royal Family, something I have repeatedly explained so she is also “bumping up” against others who seek to assert control as she seeks to do so.

      Good to know you still read.

      1. T says:

        You’re always right, HG!!!

        I’m coming out your way in May and I’m super stoked about it!!

        I know the ignorance of racism is in the minority in London and I can’t wait to meet new friends!!

        Have a great day!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Indeed I am T. I am pleased to see your usual positive approach prevails and I trust you have a great time in London. Good to see you here.

    2. Violetta says:

      T:

      There are indeed people who detest MM just because of racism. I don’t know why they bother: there are so many better reasons to detest her.

      You might be interested in checking out Lipstick Alley’s Unpopular Opinions thread, where Women of Color have noted how frequently MM changes her identification, among other behaviors.

      In addition, there are people of color in the UK who are deeply patriotic, and didn’t care for MM’s complete disregard for their culture. There’s a gentleman of color who shows up to royal processions dressed in head-to-toe Union Jack items. There is also Shameka Blake, who grew up in a Commonwealth nation and then moved to England. In her blog (and YT videos, posted as Shammy1b), she has expressed outrage at the way Britain is being misrepresented as a monocultural bastion of bigotry.

      She has a point. I’m sure there are racists, because they exist everywhere, but in one section of Leeds, I saw a California-style skate park right next to a cricket ground. There were Caucasians and Middle-Easterners participating in both.

      Now, that’s cool.

    3. Camilla says:

      Sorry I am black myself and having had a narcissist relative and forced myself to learn al about narcissism, I have to disagree with your assessment. Is there racism in Britain, yes. Has Meghan exploited racism to cash in on her victimhood, yes. Narcissists do this regardless of race, age, gender, class or nationality to manipulate people and it’s clear as day to anyone who is educated on the subject to see that she’s a narcissist.

  35. Susan says:

    As always HG, excellent insight and explanation into these ongoing current events! 👏🏻👏🏻.
    One question, how long do you think before Harry gets replaced?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      This will be addressed in forthcoming works, so keep your eyes peeled, Susan.

      1. Susan says:

        With bated breath!!!

  36. Adelaide Leslie says:

    I say ‘Publish and be damned!’. Whatever racist and sexist allegations they come u will surely be banal and petty. Their fanbase will love the revelations (a l Princess Diana’s memoirs )but at teh end of the day most peole will think, get real, that’s the same as my family. It may be regrettable but it is hardly throwing people into gas ovens. I also think they may find that all their famous friends desert them because they their value was based in their connection to the Royal Family. Sad but true.

  37. Kim Holmes says:

    Wonderfully written articles. From the beginning, something seemed “off” with MM behaviors. Her behaviors resembled my own sister’s behaviors (obviously on a much less international and visible scale). My sister has been classified by family member’s therapists as narcissistic and psychopathic. Multiple family members have sought therapy from numerous therapists and psychiatrists to deal with the emotional (and sometimes) physical abuse by my sister. The psychopathic classification came from my sister using public forums to exert control (among other strange methods of trying to maintain or exert control).

    Could MM also have similar female psychopath tendencies? I understand from my own therapist that the female psychopath is much different than the male psychopath because males tend to be almost always very violent and women use public control and verbal assault as their means of violence.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you Kim and welcome. No, I do not see any psychopathy in this instance.

  38. Lisa says:

    I think it’s unrealistic to think that just because HG is spreading the word about MM people are going to accept or understand this. Unless you’ve really done your research regarding this or been on this blog for a length of time, people just don’t get it.
    Abusers do not abuse everyone !!
    As we have all experienced the frustration of trying to get people in our own lives to understand.
    Lieutenants every where, both knowing and unknowing ones.
    We on this blog will never have an issue with HG (well the majority) unless your on here for a ridiculous agenda or your one of them !! That does not mean that HG is not an abuser.
    There will always be people that think she’s wonderful because she might well be to them.
    There’s people in my ex narcs life that think he’s bloody great , Why ? Because they deal with him in very small doses and what they are to him is not significant enough for them to really be effected.
    I don’t know if anyone else feels this way , but I do find it very difficult at times not having anyone around me that understands this or that I can talk to about it.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Accurate observations, Lisa. The advantage is that you have this place to talk about the situation.

    2. Susan says:

      Lisa,

      Yes! I do feel that the same way and you have described my experience better than I could. I can totally identify with the frustration you express. At times, I have literally felt sickened by the realization that I am a target and treated differently while others only see the charmer and have no basis to understand the treatment I describe. Very hard to accept this reality. This site and a few people I know who have experienced narc abuse and can identify, are priceless. The situation played out by the royals can trigger ET, making me feel angry that Ns seem to get away with, and are not effected by what they do to others. There are so many of us effected by them that i draw a sense of support just knowing I’m not by myself.

      Your statement, “Because they deal with him in very small doses and what they are to him is not significant enough for them to really be effected” hits it right out of the park and identifies two of the most frustrating reasons for the disconnect. I read articles about H and MM and see the split in public reaction, half appalled, half cheering them on, with only a sprinkling of comments indicating any understanding of the narcissism in the dynamic. In general, it seems there is a heightened curiosity about her behavior which will hopefully increase awareness about narcissism and many more will be on the “knowing” side of the fence.

      1. Lisa says:

        Hi Susan, thank you for responding. It’s very difficult because once you know you can’t not know lol. However it does feel quite pointless at times even trying to tell anyone, in my case it’s not just my ex but also my stepfather so the damage is wide spread in areas of my life. The fact that MM, is an actress or that she’s mixed race or that she isn’t part of the British aristocracy is completely irrelevant in all of this . The fact that people think this or believe this is just so typical of the role they play as the victim, even when super privileged they actually succeed in pity plays. She has all these issues with her own family
        HELLO
        So is that because she’s mixed race or because she spent years trying to be famous ……. and get attention anyway she could.
        Even if people don’t know Narcissist they should be able to spot a pain in the ass , hypocrite when they see one.
        The only good thing for Harry is that she’ll dump him, but he’ll spend years battling over that child with her.

    3. CandaceMarie says:

      Lisa
      I also find it difficult not having anyone around to talk about this with. I have explained some to people I know but they cannot truly understand as they have not experienced it. The only thing that has made me feel a bit better is I’ve seen two of my Facebook friends post about narcisstic abuse. Which leads me to believe they were a victim or they know someone who was. So it’s good that more people are learning about it. I think a lot of people think a narcissist is someone like Trump who is so obviously a narcissist. They don’t think the nice lady next door could be a narcissist too.
      I didn’t know narcissists were abusive before experiencing it myself.
      Therapists are no help either as I found out the hard way.

      1. Lisa says:

        Hi CandaceMarie, yes it’s very difficult and if you talk about it too much or mention that a few people are a narcissist , people start to think your nuts and think
        Oh she thinks everyone is a narcissist !!
        Yes my ex went to therapy I went with him , it was his grand Hoover when he knew I was done with him. When they go to therapy it’s pointless they lie they don’t stick at it and very often the fact that they are saying they have a problem then cancels out that they are a narcissist , due to the myth , they never admit there’s a problem with them. Well they do but only to manipulate further and then deny that they said it. Therapy for victims , I don’t know about that . My therapy has been this blog.

        1. CandaceMarie says:

          Lisa
          Therapists are useless for the victim. They will give you any other reason why the narcissist behaves as they do instead of the actual cause.

  39. Lamb says:

    I’ve always been very good at reading people. I had Markle pegged before the engagement. A manipulative opportunist. I knew it would not bode well for Harry, or the royal family if he married her.
    I did not however realise she was a narc , and you explained it beautifully, HG !

    Poor Harry , AND William. Markle knew from the outset she would have to manipulate Harry into turning on Wills and Kate, and she succeeded. Isolation of Harry her goal.
    I think markle fancies herself Diana 2.0 , or at least makes Harry feel that way. I don’t think Diana would have liked Markle , I think she would have discouraged Harry from continuing a relationship with her.
    I predict their marriage will end in divorce someday. I pray it will !

    1. Violetta says:

      Diana was a paragon of emotional stability compared to this scum-sucking bottom-feeder.

      1. Lamb says:

        Violetta,

        I agree !!

    2. Susie W says:

      I think that was one of the first things that red flagged for me – although I didn’t recognise it alone as narcissism at the time. It just screamed out at me… During their engagement interview Meghan (who at that point I was quite enthusiastic about, as Harry seemed so happy to be settling down) said that she hadn’t known that much about Harry or his life because she was living on the other side of the world etc. It seemed so disingenuous because no young woman of Harry’s age, and certainly not one as clued up as Meghan is, could not know about his life.

      From what I’ve read since, Meghan’s childhood friend has now actually said that when she was young she was obsessed with him and wanted to emulate Princess Diana…

      I knew something funny was up last week when the TV footage showed Meghan after their break beaming in a very strange, pumped up way, at Canada House to thank Canada for their trip. Harry in comparison looked worried and guarded – these days he seems to have a constantly preoccupied and nervous look about him. Which I fear will only get worse. It red-flagged me again – only for the news, “the bomb”, to be dropped by them the next day. Need to listen to my gut more!

  40. Intrepid Traveller says:

    Sorry, i have lost the threads of a lot of comments so i may be repeating but a few things i wanted to point out:
    1. I am seeing so much in print where Prince Harry and Mental Health keep being written about together but not overtly linked, its like he is being slowly perceived as not able to cope, fragile and needing looking after. It feels like a very deft and successful smearing campaign as I have always seen him as strong and capable but thoughtful. Meanwhile MM seems to be floating to the top as the bullied victim who is escaping before we do her too much harm.
    2. I reckon MM plays, and always has played, the ‘this is what they did to your mother Harry, i am like Princess Diana” card with Harry so he rushes to her rescue, and therefore does everything she wants (remember this one personally!)
    3. Dont reckon we will ever see her at the funerals of the major royals (cant be too far away!) nor the subsequent coronations. Guess what will govern the headlines the next day?
    4. Reading Piers Morgan, HG, he may be using your blog for his research for his articles!!!
    5. Very interesting article from a former work/friend colleague of MM’s floated to the top articles today in DM https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7876707/Meghan-mission-bag-prince-RULE-world.html

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Re number 4, it would not surprise me, he is a narcissist after all!

    2. Susan says:

      Intrepid traveler, Amazing article that gives harrowing perspective from someone who knows her extremely well. Completely validates H G’s assessments

  41. beardown2020 says:

    I just found this extremely insightful and brilliant! I have shared your page with many.

    What about the negotiations on Monday. If the Queen says – sorry. Either your in or out. And by out, that means you get nothing: no title, no HRH, no public purse, no help from Dad, no travel, security etc.

    What will happen then? I suspect MM would divorce H? She will be red with rage. I actually would love to see that happen but not holding my breath.

    It shocks me about the nerve this woman has – to try to manipulate the Queen of England! It’s just unreal to me that someone’s ego is that large.

    They better hope the stress doesn’t cause a health issue for the Q or PP. I think any of the support they have would turn on them in a very bad way. I hope at least.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello BD2020, thank you for sharing this work. It is important to do so. As to what happens next, more to come, keep reading.

  42. beaulieu says:

    Very good post. Another thing about their hatred of the media is that they don’t want to be exposed for their facade. They only want to mix with Yes journalists. All their flying monkeys are besotted by them as they are ‘charming’. Also they go on to say they want to protect Archie, but they are often away from him at a young age, often fly together, so if there is a plane flash, he will be an orphan. They also leave him with friends who are not Disclosure checked. They ie Team Markle, have chosen a ridiculous plan where they expect it to work, despite huge amounts of jetjag from travelling hours on long flights. They go on about famlly life but don’t want to live near her mother or his family in the UK.Their family are overpaid celebs who love a link to royalty as it boosts their own status. Vancouver Island is at risk from natural disasters but these eco warriors are not bothered. It also has bears but that is safe for Archie. Harry will miss his Polo games and British food and British sense of humour which is unique to us on the UK.

  43. Chihuahuamum says:

    Just had a thought…the stress of all this could make the queen and prince philip sick or even die given their age. Could you imagine how the public would view harry if that happens. He would be forever held responsible

    1. Violetta says:

      God, I hope not. HM has her flaws, but her devotion to her country and dedication to her duty are beyond question. The BRF set an example during WWII that I find so inspiring, though it wasn’t my country or my lifetime.

  44. Sniglet says:

    “ Delusional Thinking – I am so loved that these items will sell like hot cakes! My clothing line will be a huge success, I am a person of style! >>>>So declares a person who apparently uses spray tan, a hair extension and wears unsuitable clothing.” Ha ha ha .. So very true. Well stated HGTudor. Her style is an absolute failure. she has nothing on Catherine.

    An embarrassing story that just published is about Harry asking for a job for his wife from Disney’s boss. Conversation caught on camera. PH doing MeAgain’s dirty work. A new low. Ouch…

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Sniglet and thank you. Yes, PH is very much in her grip as your snippet demonstrates.

    2. Violetta says:

      She got a Disney voiceover (alas, NOT as the next Cruella DeVil, as many readers have suggested). However, is anyone going to pay to see a movie just to hear MM’s voice? “Lion King” didn’t do that well, & that had Beyonce!

      The supposed “no-holds barred” interview they’ve threatened to do would be a better sell (unless that’s just an attempt at blackmail), but how many of those can you do before they peter out as a source of income?

      MM’s picture ought to be next to the dictionary definition of Dunning–Kruger.

  45. Camilla says:

    I came across your blog by googling Meghan Markle and narcissism. I have long suspected that she was one from 2017 when Harry put out that bizarre statement about protecting her from racism. I wasn’t sure then but subsequently I because really convinced. Reading this article, I see all of the things I suspected being confirmed again. My mum was a full blown malignant narcissist and I’ve come to learn in very exhaustive detail their pattern of behaviour. Tellingly it is all the same- they sing from the same hymn sheet. It’s very difficult to warn people of this. Sadly a lot of people have been affected by her narcissism- there have been deaths, unfixable relationships and psychological trauma, and she’s done all this while managing to escape accountability. No one suspects her. My question is how does one go about raising awareness of this? It just seems people are too blind to see what it is literally in front of them?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Welcome Camilla,

      You raise awareness by spreading word of my work. You do not preach about it because people do not like to be told what to think. You will come up against people rejecting it, politely to otherwise and when that happens, you let the matter rest. They may well revisit it at a later juncture, but by spreading general awareness the message gets through. There will always be people who do not see it and that is the focus should always be to protect yourself.

  46. SpaceKitty says:

    Just read the entire series of articles on this matter HG and nice to see a breakdown. I grew up in the UK and while I’m not super obsessed with the Royals, Diana did a lot on TV when I growing up and her death was a big moment due to the way the nation reacted + knowing her kids would spend rest of their lives without a mother.

    It might be interesting if you looked at Diana’s 1995 panorama interview, to see how she comes out to you. As to me she sounds like a woman who was clearly very hurt, but had learned to assert herself to cope, where Megan’s ITV interview in Africa last year generally just made me see her Narc elements more and feel more irritated. Yet when I saw Harry’s one on one interview, I went from angry to feeling very sad for him. It’s clear he didn’t want to fall out with his brother, and yet he also cannot walk back what’s happened.

    One other thing I thought was interesting, was that during the ITV/ABC Africa trip. Megan departed midway, notably when the remaining engagements were causes that Harry has set up in his teens and Diana’s landmine clearing cause. It struck me as rather telling that for her bleating about how education and empowerment was a big deal, she decided Harry’s school kids were only worthy of a short skype call. Is this part of the devaluation?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you and welcome SK, I was unaware of what occurred as you describe in your final paragraph, but I agree that the behaviour is part of the devaluation, as it is belittlement, namely, your charities are not as important as mine so because I have no emotional empathy, a sense of entitlement and a lack of accountability, I am going to depart.

  47. WiserNow says:

    A few things that are interesting about this royal “stepping back” bombshell are:

    1) A few ‘royal experts’ in the media have written about the way Harry has changed since meeting and marrying Meghan. They describe his previous loyalty to and admiration of the Queen, his previous disciplined approach to his position, and the easy-going and close relationships he had with William and Kate. These writers have noted how Harry is now behaving differently and is losing the public’s respect and popularity as a result.

    While the subject of narcissism may be too much of a dramatic and ambiguous explanation for the general public to grasp at first, it may be easier to accept that Harry’s behaviour is indeed different now since marrying Meghan. This may prompt people to look more closely at the character traits of both H & M and then arrive at the conclusion that narcissism is the cause. Thinking about Harry’s changed personality may prompt them to draw parallels between that and their own experiences of abusive signs in relationships, such as isolation, triangulation, need for control etc. It’s a more gradual way of learning and accepting the subject.

    2) The RF has a well-defined pecking order. For instance, the immediate heirs to the throne walk in front and are pictured in the front of a procession or gathering, while those further down the ranks walk behind or are pictured in the back, and the Queen is always at the front.

    This established order must be a bitter pill to swallow for Meghan. She is literally forced to walk behind Kate and this will be the situation for the rest of her life if she stays married to Harry and living in the UK. A narcissist forced to bow to a rival? That would take the gloss off that dazzling Hollywood smile. Meghan hasn’t grown up in that kind of environment and although she has “really, really tried”, it doesn’t sit well with her.

    While H & M would be in North America, they’d be the primary royals there. There would be no-one Meghan would need to walk behind or curtsy to. The spotlight would be on her and furthermore, she could do what she wanted because she would be “bravely forging a new modern image that the RF needs in this modern day and age” (ha ha ha). I’m being sarcastic here, but I bet that’s what a lot of Meghan-sympathisers would say.

    3) While H&M are in the media spotlight, the more heinous accusations about Prince Andrew have taken a back seat. Everyone’s attention is on the young couple and Andrew has dodged both the commercial media and social media’s questioning and ridicule, even though his behaviour is potentially a lot more serious and damaging to the RF.

    It’s interesting that both these developments have been brewing at exactly the same time. It may just be a coincidence, or it may be more calculated than that. The RF is well known for deflecting any reputational damage and they don’t care who they throw under the bus to make that happen (eg. the fall-out after Diana and Charles’ divorce when Diana’s title was removed along with palace security and media protections).

    I don’t think the Queen is just sitting back with a G&T and thinking, “deary me, I’ve had such a rocky 2019…this family of mine is giving me a headache.” I think there may be more ‘damage control’ going on than that.

  48. Jane hall says:

    When you have lived with a narc for 30 years you see the signs. MM has a baby SON to dangle as bait for Harry and she knows how to act her part well. She IDENTIFIES with Harrys tragic mother, She teaches Harry to side with Diana his mother who was treated so badly (apparently ) by the ‘royal Family. MM taps into the wounds of Harrys loss and makes herself the Saviour and the martyr.

    MM got shot of her family, even her dad who built her up and was apparently a good father. It was beyond strange that none of her family were at her wedding. Weird that her son has not seen MM father. All odd, odd odd.

    And now – as MM has lost her family, so Harry must lose his. MM is envious and doesn’t like playing number two to Kate. She will be stirring up the shit in every way possible, between brothers, between any family member that is a threat.

    I know this, and on this site most of us have seen and identified with this narc behaviour. My hubby hated all my family, they were painted black. His own mum and dad said that my Ex was very black and white.

    Thanks HG – great article. I see MM as using Harry as the White, Royal family, traditionalist, who will be carried from place to place as a trophy. And made to pay, for every racist, misogynist comment ever uttered to her or her beloved mother. When Harry realises all this, it will be a tragedy again on top of the loss of his mother as he faces the loss of the dream of a happy marriage as his brother William managed to succeed, the loss of a wife that he seems to truly love, the loss of face and the potential loss of his son and any future children.

    The trap was set well and Harry is firmly in it HG.

  49. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Twitter is becoming ridiculous, and very controlling. I would have expected more from Twitter. I was wrong. Anyway, I once read a story when I was a child: I am sure Violetta or someone else would probably know the story, but it had to do with a character, that when one would cut one of its heads off, many more heads grew in its stead. Twitter needs to calm down and check itself before it wrecks itself.

    1. Violetta says:

      The Hydra. Think they had a version in one of the Harryhausen movies. I’d look for a link on YT, but HG is clearly enforcing the ban. Couldn’t post a link to Austen Powers’ opening credits groovy dance through mod London after MB’s comment on “Knowing HG.”

    2. WiserNow says:

      PSE,
      That’s the Greek/Roman myth of the Hydra.

      Hercules was given 12 tasks to prove his strength. One of the tasks was to kill the Hydra. The Hydra was a giant mythical serpent/reptile that lived in the dark, hidden depths of a swamp and had many heads. When Hercules tried to cut off one of its heads, there would be two heads that would instantly grow from the wound. As long as the hydra’s one immortal head was still alive, there would be two heads that would spring up each time Hercules cut off a head. So the task seemed impossible.

      Then Hercules called on his nephew to help him. His nephew figured out that burning the wound as soon as a head was cut off would stop any heads from sprouting from the wound. So together, they managed to cut off each head until there was only the immortal head left. Once they cut off the one immortal head, the hydra was dead.

      I once read an interpretation of this myth which was interesting. It said that the many heads that kept sprouting symbolised that trying to solve a problem by addressing only certain superficial aspects of it would not work, because there would be more problematic aspects that would keep springing up. To really solve a problem, it’s necessary to get to the underlying, hidden root of the problem, (i.e. the truth that’s hidden in the depths) and bring it up to the light so that the truth was exposed.

      PSE,
      It’s interesting that you bring up the Hydra myth in relation to Twitter and the H&M bombshell. Twitter needs to be consistent, otherwise it’s rules are hypocritical and it ends up losing credibility. Also, all the aspects of H&M’s bombshell that people are talking about in the media and in general don’t address the hidden or underlying ‘truth’. If narcissism as a human behaviour is the ‘truth’ at the heart of it, then if narcissism is ‘exposed’ and seen in the cold light of day, perhaps that would explain the overall situation. Or maybe it’s emotional thinking that’s hidden in the depths? It’s an interesting analogy in any case.

      1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

        Thanks Violetta and WiserNow: The Hydra. Well, I plan to activate on Twitter now, and subtly post about HG as well. I am so beyond angry about what Twitter did. So, I will not say more than that. When I am very angry, it is best for me to be quiet and to just chill for a bit. But, Twitter just caused another head to grow on behalf of and in support of HG Tudor. Like the Hydra. lol. But, Twitter drew `First Blood.`

        1. Violetta says:

          Princes: Twitter is no match for the Tudorites.

        2. WiserNow says:

          You’re welcome PSE.

  50. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    It seems that Meghan needs funds. She has earned and is accustomed to spend money as often and as much as she felt needful, as she did during her working career. I wonder if she is now put on some sort of tight allowance, according to how she lived before, since she was encouraged to give up working for her own money, by the RF. If so, I would not blame her for wanting her own money. As the song goes: Mamma may have and Daddy may have, but, `God bless the child that got his own.` ~~Blood, Sweat and Tears. No one wants to sing for their supper. Well, I should just speak for myself: I surely would not want to sing for my supper. If that were the case, I would rather work for a living.

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